A SOUL FOR SALE

Have you ever thought about how a decoration piece feels when it is displayed in a showcase? If it had a heart how would it beat when it saw someone approaching, having a look at it and then leaving, presumably rejecting it.

I wonder what goes on in the mind of a girl when she is dolled up and displayed in front of a set of bride choosers thinking that a better future is around the corner. What the products can’t sense, unfortunately, humans can feel.

A girl displayed in the drawing room carries within her a heart that beats every time she enters the room, hoping against hope that it would be the last time. Ask a girl and she would say that the only personal reason she wants to get engaged to anyone, as soon as possible, is to quit this practice that tortures and insults her tremendously.

Those parents, who believe in this rishta system, do unspeakable harm to their own daughters. Unfortunately, in the mutual exploitation of a marriageable girl, the marriage brokers, the larka wallahs, and the girl’s own parents are all equally involved. The plight of a girl starts in her teens. A dream that has been fostered in a girl’s mind by her parents, begins with the arrival of the first marriage proposal.

The first time round, though she is nervous, a girl feels confident of herself. Unfortunately this confidence is short-lived as eyes begin to scrutinize her and her surroundings. The confidence is further shattered when the girl realizes that she is rejected in the basis of her skin color, hair texture or height; things that are utterly beyond the control of any human.

The dilemma of the larka wallah’s is unimaginably ambiguous. On the other hand they want the best piece in the market which should be well educated, has an established background, and looks of a model. But at the same time she should be ‘Saadhi bahu’ (read stupid), who will burn all her knowledge as soon as she enters the kitchen.

If a study is conducted in Pakistan parents will realize how their daughters suffer through this practice. The self-confidence that a girl gets through her education and upbringing changes to resentment by people she hardly knows and most probably will not meet again in her lifetime.

Sometimes girls retaliate and take things into their own hands by making hasty decisions, which they regret later on.

Parents should realize that girls are being exploited this way.

nice attempt to point out a sensitive issue of our society
yeah waqai haqeeqat hey ke larka kaisa hi ho,,,,, larki unhain sab se haseen chahiye hoti hey,, khair aab tu larkey waloon ki tarah larki waloon ke nakhrey bhi barhtey ja rahey hain,,, wo bhi kahtey hain larki ki jo bhi umar ho jaye,,, larka aisa hona chahiye,,, issi wajah se divorce ki ratio main bhi izzafa ho raha hey,,, larki aur larki ke ghar waloon ke liye divorce ab jaisey koi bari cheez rah hi nahin gai hey

Yehi To Humaray Moaashray Ka Almiyah Hai K Aik Haqeeqat Ko Hum Jaantay To Hotay HaiN Magar Ussay Qabool Karnay MeiN Hichkichaatay HaiN....
Koun Hai Iss Sab Ka Zimma Daar K Hum Aik Buraayi Ko Jaantay Huway Bhi Uss Say Chashm-Poshi Ikhtiyar Kartay HaiN.... Ussay MiTaatay KioN Nahi?

Haqeeqat To Yeh Hai K Aaj Bhi Aik Femaale, Female Hi K HaathoN Aisi Soorat E Haal Ka Shikaar Ho Rahi Hai.....

bohat khoob kaha app nay.last line bilkul sahi hay.though its not applicable to every1 but it is bitter reality.
v good and practical post hay s/v.it tells us a lot of things and impell us to think on it.
thanku 4 sharing.

a thought provokn post + bold initative

pur baat ya pur end naih hoti.. humnay topic start kiya.. wht we gain.. wh v give to readr...

kouch postive response hoiya kiya iss ka ?

naih.. bcoz hum loog sirf aur sirf baat kurnay ki hud tuk ik dosray say aggay bhurthay hai.. we r yngr genration humay patta ha ye prblm ha to hum loog hi ku naih initative litay.. being a girl/boy.. askd strickly ur parents stop this activty .. jis say ko bikhaur jaiye.. distrub ho jaiye..

if v hav dare v need to be .... other then sory to say koi faidda naih asi discussion aur post ka..

m here really missng Yousf Bhai..

@topic

very good post brother

@sussi

well comments m agree wid u but end per jo apne kaha kay agar hum amal nahi kartay to phir there's no need to such kinda discussion infact wat u r saying its true but let's think ov it kay jab kisi bat ka humain pata nahi hoga to how can v act ovr dat thing?
discussion say hi to pata chalta hai n discussion is the best way to create inspiration and motivation in pplz

bahot hi acchee post hai aisa hi hota hai,lekin Allah ka shukr hai waqt aahista aahista badal raha hai,ladki aur ladki waale bhi aware aur smart hote ja rahe hain and that's good.

aur jahan tak is post se asar lena aur koi amali jaama pinhaane ki baat hai to post karne wale aur post parhne walon se hi shuruwaat ho,inshaAllah

ek baat aur add karna chahoongi ladki ki shadi ke silsile mein,,ke aksar yeh bhi hota hai ke baa'z hazraat ko maloom hota hai ke fulaan ladki ka jahan rishta ho raha hai woh ladke wale ya ladka acche log naheen hain,phir bhi woh khamosh tamshaayee bane rehte hain,wajah poocchi jaaye to kehte hain "agar bata dete to aapko lagta ke ham shadi tudwana chah rahe hain"

what a lame excuse! har ladki hamari bahen aur beti hai,same goes for ladka,agar hamein kucch pata hai jo negative hai to hamein zuroor muttala karna chahiye "a stitch in time ,saves nine"

thx for comments..
u r right dono ke demands barhti ja rahe hain...

Thx For Comments

Kisi aur ko nahe Zimma Daar therana chahye... hum ko khud say phel karne chhaye aur jahan yah sub ho raha hai .. agar rook nahe saktay tou kosis ke jasakti hai..

Female he k haathon soorat E hall ka shikkar ho rahi hai ... per conditions larkay he lagtay hain... kya ase hone chhaye... wase hone chhaye..

Thx for liking post

Sahi Kaha Aap Nay K Yeh Baat Har Aik Par Laagu Nahi Hoti. Lakin Iss Post MeiN Jo Zikar Ho Raha Hai To Issi Liay Bas Aisay LogooN Ki Baat Huyi Warna Abhi B Achi Soch Rakhnay Waalay Log HaiN Jo Aik Ourat Ko Bhi Apnay Jaisa Insaan Samjhtay HaiN Naa K BhaiRh Bakri

thx for comments

jab tak kisi chez per disucssion nahe hogi ... bateen samnay nahe ayeenge... loog parhenge nahee... loogon ko pata nahe chalega ... waqyee koi fayda nahe hoga... per discussion kay baad ... positive bateen samnay anay kay baad.. zyda nahe kuch loog he apnay khayalat badal sakay... kyon kay koi na koi khabi na khabi ase position men zaroor hota hai kay asa hotay howe dekhe tou rok sakay aur sub ko bata sakay...

Kuch Log Kinaray Par BeTh Kar DoosroN Ko Doobta Dekhnay MeiN Hi Raahat Mehsoos Kartay HaiN ..Issi Liay.

thx for liking and thx for comments

sahee kaha app nay jab tak discussion nahe hoga jab tak pata nahe chale ga... hum kuch nahe karsaktay ... kosis tou phir bhe karsaktay hain..

Thx for comments & agree with you

I agree with yuu... but some times .. halat same nahe hotay... majboryan hoti hain... aur khabi loog bata bhee dete hain per koi sunata nahe...

Jee Biklul Koshish Ki Ja Sakti Hai Lakin Yeh Sab Rukay Ga Tabhi Jab Hum MeiN Say Har Aik Ki Soch Tameeri Ho Jaaey Gi.

Hmm Conditions LaRkay Lagatay HaiN...
Yaani K Aap Yeh Kehna Chaah Rahay Ho Kay Iss Sab K Peechay LaRkoN Ki Soch Karfarmaa Hai?

Bilkul sahe... aur us kay lya koshish karnay parege

Bilkul Yahi Khana chah raha hon... Coz Walden ko Hamesha Bete jasee Bahoo chahye hoti hai per.. farmish larkon ke hoti hai

sad!
lekin ek baat hai aisa karne walon ke saath isse bhi double triple museebatein pesh aati hain,shayed Allah yeh dikhana chahta ho ke tum kucch kar sakte the,lekin kiya naheen to yeh lo,feel it yourself now.

Bhai dekho sub is ko bura KEH rahay hain.......lakin sub k gharon main 5% difference say yehi kuch ho raha hay :(

intahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaai afsos ka muqam hay...........aur yeh ziada afsos ka muqam hay k HUM SIRF AFSOS KER SAKTAY HAIN..........what a shame 4 ourselves :(


sham

ap itni helpless kyun hain jo afsoos k ilawa khuch nahi ker sakti?????
y don't u chage ur self first?
aik fard ki positive thinking say aik gher change ho ga aik gher say phir aik mahala phir aik muhashra isi tarha phir aik mulk
phir i often notice har ki dosron ko blame hi karta rehta hon no body ready to change thereselves first y is it so??

Excellent post

Yeh hamari society ka buhat hi sensitive issue hai aur aik talkh haqeqat ... aur sab ke views parh kar bhi achha laga

Main bas itna kehna chahoon gi jo log yeh attitude ikhtiyar kartey hain unko kam se kam aik baar khud ko us larki aur us ke ghar walon ki jaga rakh kar zaroor sochna chahiyye.. ya kam se kam yeh hi soch lain ke agar aisa un ki apni behan ya beti ke saath ho to un ko kaisa lagey ga.

Jab logon ki soch badley gi to Insha'Allah yeh DRAMA khud band ho jaye ga.

very correct
Agreed with u

Hum Kisi ko bura nahe kha rahay .. bus aik chez discuss kar rahay hain aur aik umeed peda karnay ke kosis kar rahay hain takay next time sirf afssos na karoo kuch himat bhee karoo

Well said
Agreed with u

Thx for comments
Insha'Allah Zaroor hoga Jald

Shukria