QUOTE(shafaq @ Aug 31 2007, 06:56 PM)

uncertainty about onesef is the number one killer.that's what i believe.
and your point ke "insan mature tab hota hai jab wo apney app ko aur apney ird gird ko jan na aur samajhna shurooh kerta hai" is a very very good one. i guess main life ke usi phase se guzar rahi hoon ke log samjhh mein aany lage hain ab Alhamdulillah.ya yeh keh lein ke i was naive,,ab tak

i guess,who the heck,,,, main ne isliye likha ke sometimes in realtions you think you are trying your best,but tthe table turns on you and you wonder,am i doing the right thing,is my approach right
all my effort,was it worthless etc etc
then comes the big question " who am i". is there something more or something differetn that i should do or i should have done.
lubb e lubaab yeh ke pehlay apne aap ko jaan lo.right?
am i making any sense?


yes you are making perfect sense.. and i got it right what you wanted to say.. actually uncertainty kabhi kabhi app ke liye achi bhi hoti hai.. coz kuch baatein aisi hoti hein jin ki certainty ya guarantee insan ko sari zindagi nahi mil sakti aur uss uncertainty ki wajah se insan certain hone ka bahana talash kerta rehta hai and life remains busy in a good way

but yeah.. uncertainty of self really kills.. when you are in a situation jahan pe you want to decide something and you want to do something lekin you cant coz you dont know what you want and you dont know what to do.. in short you dont know yourself..
naive koi bhi nahi hota hai.. from birth till any age.. sirf child age mein naive hota hai.. lekin when he/she becomes aware of whats around them.. tab insan ka zehan aur soch aur ankhein khol di jati hein.. aur phir ye app ke apney upper depend kerta hai ke app kab positively react kerna shurooh kertey hein.. and when you start showing a positive reaction to this change in life.. you start becoming mature..
relationships are sensitive issues.. which really really demand maturity of thoughts from both sides.. maturity of thoughts and personality, maturity of life and its beliefs, maturity of actions and decisions, and above all.. maturity and self confidence in SELF.. thats only when you can take mature and fully responsible steps and actions and decide completely and truly..
once you know yourself.. you never regret on anything you have done coz you know thats YOU and thats what you would have done in any case.. phir app kabhi nahi sochtey ke kia sehi tha kia ghalat in the first place.. kia hona chahiye tha kia kerna tha aur kia howa hai aur kia kiya hai.. and tell you what.. its never too late.. everything can be adjusted and done in life at any stage.. realization jab a jaye insan ko tab sub kuch possible hota hai.. just analyse yourself and see what are the places and situations where this question comes to your mind.. if not a private personal issue.. than share them and maybe ill tell you how to come out of it.. you can juss talk in context of that thing through example or something.. ill get your meaning and ill try to reason it and give you solution

remember.. your reflection in the mirror is not what you are.. but what the mirror of life tells you about yourself IS what you are..
waiting for your reply.. regards..