Adaab!

shadi k baad har laRki ki khahish hoti hai k woh aik new /alehdah ghar ki maalikah ki hasiyat say apni new zindagi guzaaray.... yehi wajah hai kay joint family ki soorat maiN jald hi ghar maiN larayee jhagra start hojata hai.... larkay kay maa baap usko alehda karna nahi chahtay jab kay larki ki zidd aur uskay maa baap ka bhi isi baat par zoor hota hay kay alehda hojaye.


being a laRka / laRki aap shadi k baad alag rahna pasand karengay yaa joint family maiN ... apni pasand ki wjooh bhi batlayaiN.


yAad rakhay.pehlay joint family system kuch yUN hotay thay jis mey tayaa.tayee unki family.......chachoo/chacian aur unki family hoti thi...ab is tarha ki soorat e haal kum dekhnay mey aaty hay....

Main sawal ko yun samjh leIN kay husband/wife akelay rehna chahtay hien without parents.

ya yun samjh lay kay deewar nandoN aur jayethanioN kay saath nahi rehna chahtay.

waiting for ur replies.

It depends.

Sab say pehlay to mein yeh batata chaloo'n k jis joint family system ka aap nay zikar kia (chacha, taaya etc) wali, to us mein bilkul bhi guzaara nahi ho sakta :P Agar hota bhi hai to aik khaas limit tak. phir us limit k baad aapko separate hona hi paray ga.

Aor rahi baat k Shaadi k baad konsa system pasand karain gay. Yeh bhi depend karta hai. Kyun ek responsible, sensible aor honest man (Baap, Beta, Bhai) woh sab say pehlay joint system ko preffer karain gay. Is mein bhai aor unki families bhi aati hain. Jab tak sab kuch theek chal raha hai hota hai to har koi sath rehnay ki hi koshish karta hai. Lekin jab badMazgi paida ho jaaey to definitely "separation" solution ki shakal ikhtiyaar kar laitee hai.

Aor yeh saparation aik ghar mein 2 portions ki shakal mein ho sakti hai ya phir Alag makaano'n ki shakal mein bhi.

Inshort, a responsible sensible person always preffer joint family system. And I think I'll also preffer it but within limits.

MaiN joint family system ko pasnad karouNgi...akele reh kar kiya kaorngi...dosra main yeh sochti hon ke aj jab mere bhai alag hain tu ami ko kitna dukh hota hai yehe soch ker main kisi Maaa ka beta is se alag karne ka tasavor nahi karti ...jab app is se taklef se guzrey gai tu app mera nah khayal ke wo he taklef kisi or ko bhi dai gai..isliye main joint family main he rahongi.

thats the spirit.

i think da same, n yeh b dat jab mera behta hoga (inshAllah) n uski shadi karogi n jab meri baho usko leh kar alehda hona chahe gi tu kaisa feel karogi main, its very hurting.. khair waise b yaha norway main bohat kam maah baap k saht reh shakte hai after marrige ziada tar tu apna ghar leh kar alehda hojate hai coz dats best, so i think main shadi k baad seperate raho gi but i would luv to live in joint family system :D

Haanje bilkul aisa he hona chahiye....saath rehnay se waisay bhi insaan kay ander bardashat kay maadaa zayda payeda hota hay. dosarON ki he nahi apni ghaltiyoN ki tarf bhi dehan dena chahiye...joint family system ki bahooot fayeday hieN agar koi samjhay toh. aksar parents ki sirf bachoN par aakar baki relatives ya family members se nahi banti....bachay shararti aur maar peet se baaz nahi aatay.iska wahis solution yeh hay kay jo ghalat hay usko ghalt kaha jaye magar maa baap apnay bachoN ki side lenay se phir baaz bhi nahi aatay.

jee bilkul .....aaj kal kuch zayda parhi likhi larkioN janay kis baat kay zaum mey jatay he yeh takazay shuru kar deti hein.manti hON taali doono haathoN se bachti hay, laikin separation kisi masalay ka haL nahi hota....

ajkal ka mahol bhot zaida karab hogaya hai..or hum khud he zemedar hian is kharab mahol ke...taleem hamain yeh nahi sikhati leken hum taleem hasil karke khud ko pata nahi kiya samjhne lagte hain....mujhe tu haiiret hoti hai ke itni parhi likhi larkiyan jahilon wala raviya apnaye hue hoti hian....or hamain is waqt ki fiker hoti hain kiya hum bhi aise he hongia...itne he batamez....tu jab hum abhi aise nahi hian tu InshAllah hum tab bhi aise nahi hongai...Allah ne chaha tu hum hamesha sabit qadam rahe gai,...InshALlah

Voted

I live in Joint Family .... Mere khayal main agar joint family main rehney waley sab members main Tolerance aur choti choti baton ko ignore karney ka element ho to wahan rehna asan hota hai .... Jahan yeh batain na hon wahan ghar ka mahol kharab hone ke ilawa kuch nahi nazar ata... Jab bardasht na ho to Behtar hai ke seperate ho jaya jaye.... kyunke saath reh kar bhi Door honey se behtar hai Door hi reh liya jaye.

Thats my view

in UK seperate.. in PAK Joint.....

It depends on situation wotever mY Husband will think for us
I request him to live with his family-joint family systm
cuz aik tou bachy buht achy palty hain dada daadi sab ka pyar milta hai ju unn main confidence dalta hai
2nd insaan akela nahi hota sas mom ki nazar rehti hai ju k achi baat hai banda sahi rehta hai
husband bhi control main rehta hai infront of parents
aur maza buht ataa hai thats wot I think agey ju unnki marzi hogi wesa hi hoga kyunki my first priority aft marriage will be my husband only

Joint Family.

Well no offence but its easy to say joint family but actually a bit difficult to actually live in one and hey am not against the system but its just what I have seen.

Voted

Separate family system. Joint family system meiN jahaan hazaar faaeeday haiN wahaaN chand aise nuqsanaat bhi haiN jo in tamaam faeedouN ka khatam kar deyte haiN.

Joint family system uss waqt tak accha hai jab tab aap ke parents hayaat haiN .. mere khayyal se walidaiN ke intiqaal ke baad bhai aur behan sirf 'rishtay daar' reh jaate haiN .. aur aise rishtay daar jin se rishta nahi toora jaa sakta. Sab apne apne gharooN ke ho jaate haiN, yaani shaadi shuda aur bacchoN waale. Aur phir asal massil janam leyte haiN.

Jab ultimately alag he rehna hai tu behtar hai keh yeh faisla jitni jaldi kar liya jaaey, yaani maaN baap ke intiqaal ke fori baad aur jaidaad ko bhi fori taqseem ho jaana chahiye, We will be better off this way. Iss tarah bhai-behnooN ke ta'aluqaat qaaim rahaiNge ,,, aur voh aik dosray ka khayyal bhi rakhaiNge ...(ikhlaqi aur maali taur per).

bohat acha topic hai...

mujhay joint family system pasand hai... kion k mein kabhi rahe nahe hon joint family mein or mujhay hamesha say acha

lagta hai joint family system..mere kuch frndz ye kheti hain k tum kabhi rahe nahe ho joint family

mein is liye andaza nahe hai k kitni problemz hoti hain...

per mere khayal say thori bohat larie jhagra tu hota rahta hai apnay bahen bahiyo k saath bhi hota hai per pher bhi sab saath

rahtay hain tu susral mein bhi ager kuch problem hojay tu kia fark parta hai... itna koi bara issue nahe bana'na chaiye...

or 2nd point yeh k larkay ka sab say pahla farz apnay ma baap ka khayal rakhna hota hai na'kay bv ka

so i think joint family system is better... !!

aik aisa topic hai jis par bohat behas chal sakti hai.
har koi apni problems k mutabiq hi opinion day ga
is liay (atleast meray nazdeek) har aik ki opinion Solid hai

mai khalish bhai se agree krti hun ..

kinzz ... mai bhi kabhi nahi rehi joint family system mai .. papa aklotay thay apne walidain k ... aur phupoo log apne apne susral rehti hain .. pehle mujhay bhi bohat fantacise krta thaa ye lekin mene apne ird gird hi dekha hai k bohat problems hoti hain logon ko .. aur being short tempered mujhay apne liay yeh mushkil lagta hai ... haan hr koi piyar mohabbat berdasht se rahay to aur baat hai .. jese seeema api ne kaha

AP ki baat dada dadi bachon wali theek hai .. lekin agr dada dadi nahi hain to behter hai k banda seperate family mai rahay aur bhai behnon se kam milain acha milain aur un ka rsihta hmesha acha sa rahay ..

mera bara ajeeb sa vote thaa jo k sirf mene hi dia aur wo yeh k "main seperate family system mai rehti hun" :|

it depends on situation...i live in a seperate family system and i really like it...ab main kbhi joint family main to rhi nhe na cuz my father and mother doesnt have any bro or sis...both r single child of their parents...but i enjoy living with my small family...actually seperate family main humari privacy distrub nhe hoti..aur joint family main bauaht formal hona parta hai..har bat ka khyal rakhna parta hai etc etc...waise i'll prefer seperate family system....bauhat hi accha rehta hai and im useto of it

Haan na yaar islye main ne thori diplomatic statement de di k ju unki marzi hogi woh really saas susar ager zinda hon tou joint family main rehna sahi hai ALLAH har aik k parents ko zindagi de ameen main ne islye yeh acha soch kar kaha tha kyunki i dnt want k main abhi se sochon k aye kaash mery hubby g k parents na hon nah hony chahieyien maza ata hai rehna ka khati meethi n hulchul si lyf hoti hai

JAHAN TAK PARENTS SE ALAG HONE KI BAAT HAI TOU I THINK K YEH SARRA SAR ZULAM HAI K AAP UNN KI AULAD YANI APNE AAP KO YA APNI AULAD KO UNN SE DOORE KAR DO AUR WOH BHE AISE WAQT MEIN JAB K UNN KI ZINDAGI KI WAHID TAMMANA YEHI REH JAATI HAI K WOH APNA BARRHAAPA INN DO K SAATH GUZAREIN.

RAHI BAAT BEHAN BHAIYUN KI TOU USS MEIN BHE JOINT SYSTEM MEIN ZAYADAH ENJOYMENT HAI AGAR SAB PIYAR-O-MOHABBAT SE RAHEIN TOU LEKIN AGAR MAJBOORI HO TOU ALAG BHE RAH JAA SAKTA HAI LIKE BHABIYUN KA AIK SAATH GUZARAH NA HONA ETC.

WAISE AAJ KAL TOU YEH HALAAT HAIN K JOINT FAMILY SYSTEM MEIN REHTAY HOEY BHE SAB APNE AAP MEIN MUST REHTAY HAIN AUR KAI KAI DIN AIK DOOSRAY SE MULAQAAT NAHIN HOTI YA HOTI BHE HAI TOU BUS DINING TABLE PER.

- MaiN joint family system ko pasnad karouNga /karouNgi -


I voted for this option.. as reason is this.. ke main khud joint family main rehti hun.. papa ki death k baad nana abbu or mamoon ke sath rahi hun.. kafi nokh jhok bardasht ki hia.. lekin pir bhi mujhe joint family hi pasand hia.. woh isliye ke apko yehi faida hota hia ke har tareeqe se sab supportive hote hian.. aik beemar parh gaya hia to dusra kaam kardeta hia.. jo log akele rehte hian.. beemar hian to ro ro kar kaam kar rahe hian.. wahin agar aik sath rehte hian to aj aik beemar hia to dusri bhabi ne kardia.. humare relations durr reh kar bhi pass jese ban sakte hian or pass reh kar bhi durr jese.. yeh hum per depend karta hia hum kese rehna chahte hian.. lekin personally main yehi chahoongi ke after marriage main joint family main hi jaon.. coz i need a family to support me in every way.. to teach me how to live life.. n my kidz as well..

Mein joint family mein rehti hn apne abu k bhaiyon k sat yani ki mere chache aur unki famlily aur dadi b aur bht maza aata hei sab ekhi saat bade huweh mere abu k 6 bhai hei yani ki all thogether 7. lkin 2 bhai apne ghar mein rehte hei aur baqi sab ek sat so maza aata hei sab ek saat puri family jabhi deikho ghar mein koi na koi hei aur so joint family i think is great. fun and the best datsmy personal opinion aur waise b mere abu ka apna ghar hei lkin mere abu dadi ki fav hei so dadi neh mana kiya hei mere abu ko k na jaye apna ghar q ki yehi uska gharheiso ajb puri family khush heiaur sab ek dosrek sat banti hei den i think k koi prb nhi hoti lkin jab koi khush nhi hei kissi s ya prb hojaye datswen prb starts 2 happen So my vote is k mein pasand karungi n mein already rehti hn jointy family mein

AGREED

joint family rocks!!!! magar shaadi kay shuru main i think alag rehna chahiyay... kyun keh wohi hardest part hota hai kyun keh aap ko aik doosray kay saath rehna parta hai... kafi adjust karna parta hai... so unko aik doosray ko samjhnay ka moqa dena chahiyay shuru main baad main joint family kar lo

Thats right!!!!.......

I love to stay with a joint family......Or mujhay pyar mohabbat se rehna bohot pasand hai.......yun keh lijiye k .....is tarha sath rehnay ko mila nahi......is liye saath rehnay ka craze hai.....I believe jab ek larrki/larrkay k shaadi hoti hai to......uska sirf us shakhs se hi nahi balkay puri family se rishta jurr jata hai...... I am against living alone......Akelay rehna bhi koi zndagi hai....Sabhi k sath pyar mohabbat se rehnay may hi barrai hai..... Allah taala bhi sila rehmi ko pasand kartay hai......or meri nature may bhi kafii jhukao hai....Alhamdolillah....or larrai jhaggra may pasand nahi karti..... BUrai ek aisa element hai.... jo k joint families ho ya k seperate zarur janam leta hai..... or is ka control bohot zaruri hai...... k bas aisi baton ko nazar andaaz kar diya jaye..... or phir pyaar hi ek aisi cheez hai k har burai ko mita deti hai...

MaiN separate family system mey Rehta/rehti HON

Lekin Joint Family system k bhi faaiday hein....

but, waaqie it depends as well..

join family system me Chachu,Taya Abu, wagera kisi ki laraai ho jaae too... maslay,etc
lekin on other hand, Cusions aapis mei khoob enjoy aur ek doosre ki help ka zariya bhi bantay hein..

e.g. agar kisi lerki ka bhai na ho, to cusions kaam aatay hein, school se lene jana,college chorne jana,etc...

*** Joint Family ***

VOTED

good idea hahahahaha

hmm haan suna to bohat hai ......... Waqaye bara maza aata hoga naa innay shalay cousins aik sath Wow

hamara separate family system hai lekin hamaray saray uncle Taya Phoophi aur bhi sab aik hi gali main rehtay hain hahahahah means k aik hi gali main gher hain

shukar hai aap ko meri baatain ab samjh main to anay lag gayeen

da dia vote