SalaamZzz ppl

Aksar parents kahte hian k jo larka ya larki shaadi se pehle out of control hote hain ya ziddi hote hain woo shaadi k baad "sudhar" jate hain ... how true is it?

do choices or decision makin change afta marriage?

Nice Topic TS darling kisi ki ok g b serious

jee buht se logon ka ye bhi man'a'nah hai k ager kisi larke ki job na ho tou uski shaadi karwa deni chaheye so that uss ki shaadi k baad luck achi ho jaye aur usko achi job mil jaye blah blah diff ppl diff opinions ... jahan tak topic ka sawal hai ... tou aaise log ju ziddi-dheet-awara-care less wotever u say jesy b hon woh I dun think so k change ho jaty hain ... c we cant change the nature ... ye kisi ki basic nature hi ho ager k woh kisi achi baat ko pick kar k buri chor sakta hai tou shaadi k baad luv-care wotever u say feel kar k woh badal sakta/ti hai par ager koi hai hi bura tou app ju marzi kar lo he/she cant be changed ... marriage har baat ka solution nahi hai thats wot I think n the words I wrote ye sab woh thy ju log mene dekhy k woh badly hi nahi m giving example of a girl uski adat thi flirt karne ki uski shaadi bhi ho gyi hai n still woh abb b wesi hi hai usko apne huby se zyada dosre log attract karty hain this n that even k shaadi kya uska tou abb aik baby bhi hai par still nature nahi badli... so ...

na koi sudharta hai na badalta hai
aise ladkon ke parents ko usay kisi psychologist ke paas le jana chahiye na ke shadi ka sochna chahiye
shadi se koi badalta naheen haan ek innocent ladki ki zindigi zuroor barbaad ho jaati hai.

I've seen ppl changing after marriage, so it does affect

meray khyal mein aisa to bohat mushkil hota kay bilkul change ho jayay banda shadi kay baa'd......laikin yeh hay kay life ka track thora sa change zaroor hota hay...pehlay jo waqt farigh ya doston waghaira mein guzarta tha ab woh ghar mein guzray ga ....life partner ko time dena us ka khyal rakhna ...apnay ghar ki fikar mein rozgaar kamana ....pehlay banda job bhi karta hay to apnay uper ziada kharch karta hay ...ab apni bajayay ghar ka khyal hota hay...pehlay ki soch aur hoti hay aur shadi kay baa'd mustaqbil kay plans bhi banata rehta hay banda

yeh changes banday par bhi depend karti hain ....jo caring banda hoga woh in cheezon ko ziada feel karay ga .....laikin agar koi ziada hi burayun ka shikar hay to us ki soch mein shayd farq na hi parray shadi say

^^ uncle sehi keh rehay hain

me ki marrige hi nahi hui abhi......

well i think this relates to a Hadith in which Prophet SAW advised someone to do so...... jaiasa k kaha jata hay k anay wali apna rizq khud lay kar aatee hay...

baki rahee change hounay ki baat tu it depends k how much responsibility u r gona take after mrg. Its all to do with responsibilities.....

yep bro u r ryt ... I was just pointing out that thing

really? good to hear that
like kya changes aaye
thora share karein
kya pata kis ka bhala ho jaaye
thankyou

or yeh bhi hota hai shadi k baad jab larka khud kaam chori karey to sasuraal wale kehte hain

JAB SE SHADI KI HAI KAAAM HEE NHI RAHA HAMARE BETEY KA ..KISEY LE AE HUM HAE ALLAH NASEEB PHUT GAE HAMARE ..


fazul...beta khud to sudrey! rahi aat larki to usey to miyaan en chaanta marega udher he set ...RISKI IN MUAMLU MIE LARKEY HE HOTE HAIN !!! :S to i dunt thik so k aisa hota hai ..

shadi ker keh batata hn kuch saal wait kerain plz

kis ki baat kar rahay ho fauji

dekhain ji theories par na jain practical kar kay dekhain... saafi say khoon saaf chehra shadaab

dekhain ji main buhat hi lazy careless aur nikamma kisam ka insaan hoon... aap sub kisi tareeqay say meri shaadi karwa do phir dekh lena keh does it effect me or not... dekhain doosron ki baaton par na ayain khud aazma kar dekhain aaj tak kisi nay itni himmat say kisi practical kay liye volunteer kiya hoga??? nahi na... s ji ab larki dhoondain aap log

aray uncle ki ki aap ki thora hi

phir thik hay

JAB SE SHADI KI HAI KAAAM HEE NHI RAHA HAMARE BETEY KA ..KISEY LE AE HUM HAE ALLAH NASEEB PHUT GAE HAMARE ..



ladkiyaan bolein ladkiyon ki families bolein,zururi hai,haan haq bolein logical bolein practical bolein
ladki wale hi to yeh samaji stigma khatm kareingay

jee ye to ahadees say sabit hai .. hazoor S.A.W nay is baat ki taraf ishara kiya hai ..

I have seen many cases jis main aik bnda aik particular job k liye din raat ki mehnat aik kr deta hai .. bt us ko nahi milit .. tng aa kar normal si job krta hai aur baad mai shadi aur shadi k baad wahi job us ko khud offer ho jati hai .. n it's fact. bivi apnay saath apna aur khandan ka rizq lay kr ati hai

ab atay hai shadi ki taraf. to yeah, it effects. bohat saray laparwah log jab un pr aik aur insan ki zim-e-dari parti hai to un ko apnay bohat say deicision bohat soch samjh kr lenay partay hain ..

pehlay wo hr kaam krnay say pehlay sirf apni zaat ka sochtay thay .. bt shadi k baad un say related aik aur cheez attach ho jati hai to un ki soch aur faisla aksar badal jata hai .. .

ummm ahadees ki baat to true hai ke larki apnay hisse ka rizq khud le kar aati hai.. n kehte hain ke marriages are lucky for both.. kahin na kahin behtari horahi hoti hai..

n secondly changes ki baat.. to i think ppl do change.. bahut se log jab apni zimmedari samjhte hian to woh khud khayal karte hain n apne ap ko badal lete hain.. jab apke partner ke sath understanding hojati hia to automatically ap uske rang main rangtay jatay ho...

well Listen I.M m talking generally now ... ok ... I dont lyk this thing jab ppl say k its all because Biwi ki luck ... c ap dekhou jab kisi ka hubby just aft marriage almost 2 months baad expire ho jata hai na tou log tab bhi yeh na jany kyun kehty hain k biwi ki waja se hua hai ye sab ... believe me meko hamesha for others iss baat ka dukh hota hai k aik tou kisi ka loss hota hai upar se biwi ko aaise kaha jata hai ... kyun kaha jata hai ??? phir ager hubby g khudh mehnat na karien ... unki shaadi ho jaye woh phir b na karien kuch tou kya ye aadmi ka kasoor hai ??? ya k its all the case of her lady luck??? u know what k iss baat ki main basic kya hai ... its not abt biwi* its abt kids* Qurran Pak ki Surah Alehzaab[I think ALLAH G kaami beci maaf karien u can say in Quran] aik ayat ka tarjuma hai k

"apni aulaad ko aflaas ki wajah se Qatal na karo,unka Rizq ALLAH g dien gey" abb iski backgrounf uss sourat ki yeh thi k Mushrykeen not munafqeen [ppl take them Equally but I dont] woh log muslims ho kar b apni aulaad ko qatal kar dety thy ... so uss par yeh ayaat ka nazool hua tha ... k apni aulaad ko qatal matt karo rizq k darr se ... so thats the main point jis k lye kaha jata hai k shaadi kar dien so that kids hon aur rizq aye aur yeh baat b aik fact hai ... app ne positive bataya wife k lihaaz se par yakeen mano in our society ... jab b positive koi cheez hogi na uska credit buht kam log dein ge apko again wohi quote Hazrat Ali RS ki " k ju aala zarf hon gey woh apko apki izzat deny par duggni izzat dien ge" well m not saying k apki baat totally ghalt hai ya m not aggrd wd u bt ... main purpose kids k lye kaha jata hai k shaadi kar dien kids apna rizq khudh laeinge ... buht kaam really buht kamm aaise hubyz hon ge ju apni wyf ko credit dien ge ... 2nd buht se logon ki apni khudh ki ghaltiyun ki waja se bzness ka nuksaan ya ju marzi keh lo app ho jata tou uss main kya unki wife Unlucky hoti hai??? sara kasor phir biwi ko hi kyun dia jata hai??? kuch log sari lyf kameyab nahi ho sakty tou kya unki lady luck achi nahi hoti??? Rizq sirf o sirf ALLAH g dety hain ... bus woh kabhie humien de kar aazmanty hain n kabhie le kar nothing else

Rang main rangne k lye bhi app ko buht si cheezon ki zaroorat hoti hai
- patience
- Love
- Selflessness

means k app main ego na ho ... sumtyms ppl do luv eachother par unki ego oh GOD ... khair yara really meko yeh lady luck par buht sawal hain zehan main chalo topic banati hon

Good post

Aisa buhat kam dekhney main ata hai..... jo responsibilities uthaney ke capable hotey hain wohi apne ap ko change kartey hain warna to koi farq nahi parta ... So is ko formula nahi kaha ja sakta.

mixing up 2 things.

wife's luck only effect the RIZQ .. not life or other stuff .. n it's proved islamically

par mera ye sawal hai apse k ager kisi k pass kuch na rahe aft marriage tou kya uski wife lucky nahi hogi???kya uss couple k kabhie achy din nahi aaien ge cuz aik lucky nahi hai???

na jee na marzi too baroon kee ya phir mard kee chalni ha

what are u saying man??? Mard ... r u talking abt Mard ... Mard b phir woh hota hai ju aurat ko aurat sumjhy ... uski feelings ki uski qadar karey ... warna tou ALLAH g humien hewaan hi rehnay detay ...

aasa kuch nahin hota.koi badalta nahin hai.haan halaat badal jaatay hain.shadi k baad responsibilities zaidaa balkee bohat zaida ho jaati hain .ussi main phans kar insaan zidd karna bhool jaata hai.wasay bhi zid karay bhi to kis se.pahlay to maa baap hotay hain.shadi k baad zid karoo ge to apna ghar hi kharaab hi hoga.waja sirf ye hai or kuch nahin.or ye sochna to ghalat hai k insaan sudhaar jata hai.parents ye kyun nahin sochtay k shadi kar k hum apnay bachoon ko sudhaar nahin rahay un ka bachpaan khatam kar rahay hain.
guyz what do u say............

bilkul wakt aur halaat kay saath saath insaan
ki sochain aur rawwaye bhee badaltay hain...aur shadi kay baad to
iss kay chances aur ziyada ho jaatay hain...partners
ko kai jagoun pay compromise karna parta hai...
sabr aur compromise iss rishtay ki mazbooti ki
pehli seeri hai...jab do afraad larka aur larki jin ka
alag family background ho, rehn sehn alag ho,
dono nay muktalif mahool main parwarish paaey ho to phir
jab woh akhattay hotay hain as a life partner to aik dosray
ko samjhnay aur mohabbat aur sakoon ki fiza kaim karnay
k liay un ko bardasht ka maada paida karna parta hai
aur apni bohut se adatoun ko chorna parta hai