QUOTE(LEADER @ May 2 2008, 01:18 AM)

Abu Adnana ke thought provoking reply se 'ispire' ho ker kuch arz kerna chahta hooN is issue per:
Really meri behan ne aik sensetive issue raise kiya hai,, je s ka aik hull Abu Adnan paish ker chukey haiN,
Doosra hull yeh bhi ho sakta hai jo Arab Mumalik maiN apply ho raha hai:
1) Ke mard apni pehli biwi se poochey beghair aur usey btaye beghair 'doosra nikah' kisi bewa/mutalqa se ker le..aur pahli ko kan-o-kan khabar na honey de...aaj kal Gulf states main aisa ho raha hai aur isey 'khufiya shadi' (secret marriage ) ka naam diya giya hai
Aap loog yaqeenan heran houN ge ke maariage aur woh bhi 'secret' , how is it possible / prohibted ?
Ji, is barey Egypt ke jayyad tareen alaim-e-deen Allama Yousef Al-Qardawi ka fatwa mojjod hai...aur us ka ijtehad ye hai ke is dour main jab ke doosri shadi mushkil ho &&&i hai,, ye iqdam bilkul jaiz hai aur khalaf-e-Shariyat har gaz ahi !
2) Teesra hull ye hai ke wo mard jo randwey ho &&&e haiN (I mean jin ki wife ki death ho gai hai) ya jin ka koi aur masala hai (pehli biwi ke sath) ya wo az rah-e-shouq doosri shadi kerna chatey haiN,, un per qanoonan lazim ker diya jaye ke woh sirf aur sirf mutllaqa / bewa se hi shadi karain ge (warna single bethey rahaiN).
Aik issue jo Abu Adnan bhai miss ker &&&e , wo ye ke Mard doosri shadi sirf us aqt hi ker sakta hai ke jab usey apney aap per yaqeen ho ke woh pehli biwi / biwiouN ke sath insaf karey ga...otherwise usey (quran ki roo se) ye khiyal apney dil main lana hi nahi cahiye...lehaza si hawaley se Mard per bhi kuch zamiaNdari aayed hoti hai... woh bilkul azad har.gaz nahi !!
khufia taur par doosri shadi karna 'allow' to hai........ lekin issay khufia bar.qarar rakhna 'amalan' naa.mumkin hai. kiyouNkay jab aap 'adal' karnay ki koshish karengey dounouN biwiyouN maiN to pahli biwi ko az khud pata chal jayega. aap nay phir 'shab.basri' bhi to equally karni hai. aur dounouN ko munsifanah ikhraajaat bhi denay haiN. kia pahli wali ko iss tarah pata nahi chal jayega k baqyah raataiN /maal kahaaN jaraha hai.
asal practical tareeqah yehi hai k pahli shadi apni pasand say kanwari, zeyadah baachchany jan.nay wali say ki jaye jiski hadayat Nabi kareem sallal laaho alihay wassallam nay ki hai. aur doosri shadi gird o pesh maiN maujood kissi 'zaroorat.mand' mutliqah /bewah / overaged say iss shart par ki jaye k woh apnay kuch haqooq maaf karday. aur pahli wali biwi bachchay wali saholiyaat talab nah karay..... bawaqtay nikaah fareeqain apni apni zaroorat /pasand k motabiq shartaiN shamil karsaktay haiN. it is allowed.
aap ki eh baat to dusrust hai k quran maiN saaf saaf likha hai k agar tum apni biwiyoun k darmayaan adal nah kar sako to tumharay liyeh aik hi biwi kafi hai.... lekin yahaaN ADAL say moraad yaksaaN yaa mosaawi nahi haiN. jiski jo 'zaroorat' woh woh apni hasiyat k motabiq day. zaahir hai k pahli biwi k bachchay bhi hongey. lehaza dounoun 'families' maiN equal amount /facilities nahi dee jasakti. issi tarah agar pahlay say tay hojaye to doosri biwi apni raataiN bhi kam kar sakti hai aur din bhi... takay pahli wali biwi bachoun ki zarooriyaat ahsan tareeqay say poori hoti rahay. doosri shadi ka matlab yeh hargiz nahi k pahli family 'suffer' karna shooroo karday.