Well I was just thinking that in our life what is the time period we have for ourself when we take care of ourself on our own.

In our infancy-child-hood, its our parents who do take care of us. n in our society it goes on till our late teens. then when we are gonna start some job/work then we hve a short time scale in which we can just care of our self.
till our merriage. b/c then hve to take care of others.. n when hve children then v forget about ourselves and take care of them. till they grow up.
Then come the age of retirement when others take care of us.(if v r lucky).

so basically there are just a v few years that are for ourself... rest of our life is dependent upon others or others are dependent on us...



M I right??

yeah
it is a fact of life,a viious circle of life.but in every phase of life ,in every role we play there is a good amount of bliss and happiness and contentment.Alhadulillah

lekin personally mujhhay lagta hai ke we should take good care of our health all the time aur enough financial security ho ke God forbid akele bhi rehna paday to you can hire someone for help ,baqi to sab Allah paak ke haath.

well! that's how i think of my retired life ( when ever it comes,where ever it comes or if it ever comes)
saaman umr bhar ka hai kal ki khabar naheen.


good post tihami

par me tou start se hi khudhi apna khyal rakhti hon almost 6 years se

n kab tak rakhnaay ka irada hay aisay hi ??/

hmmmm good thoughts.,,, well as per my experience I have learned this also, to keep some thing in your account as u never know when u r in desperate need of money. n this experience has changed my thinking.. otherwise I was ( n 2 some extent still) a kind of person to spend money as it comes.
as a note of ur words, I think everyone should be able and capable of self caring him/her self. I mean to stay v should educate our children (boys or girls) enough that they can take care of them selves financially in case be......

yeah,bacchon ka bhi education ka dekhna unki financial situation ko secure karna bahot zyadah zururi hai,buy bonds for them etc etc.kal ka hamien kya pata.

aur jahan tak kharch karhnay ki baat hai we did a lot when we moved to canada we spent like crazy and in the end we felt the pinch,tab khayal aya ke qaaroon ka khazana ho to woh bhi khatm ho jata hai,we have to be wise about our money,all the time.


thanks for sharing your thoughts here.becuz hc par ham upar upar ki baatein kartay rehtay hain,lekin ham sab ek hi kashti ke sawar hain,aam say banday.

jahan tak mera khyal hay......life issi ka naam hay tihami bhai
aik insan ka dosray logon say ta'luq aur aik doosray ka khyal rakhnay say hi life mein khoobsorti hay
sab nay akailay akailay hi jeena hota to rishtay, ta'luq , dostiyan sab khatam ho jata

Nice posst Janab
Per Sir 24 hours men aisa tou nahe hota na kay app her waqt he kisi na kisi ka khayal rakh rahay hotay ho, mera apna khayal hai kay app sub ka khayal rakhtay howe apna khayal bhee rakh saktay hain

yes very right

hmmm
Sochoun ga

hmmm wel if You are looking at life from a selfish standpoint. Taking care of others and taking care of yourself need to be balanced, and in doing so, it becomes a part of the maturing of the person. If you can't balance between the two of them, then frustration may set in and resentment towards the ones you are caring for. Taking care of a marriage and children are seen as a supposed willing obligation, a task you have to accept if you want to have a happy marriage. You have to mix in self-reliabilty with responsibility throughout all of your life, no matter if it's for family or friends. Unless you want to be a loner and not depend on others or have them depend on you, it's all part of living and being among those you are in contact with.

me k zehn main bhi aik qstn aya tha~do we live for eachother or for ourselves only~ n i concluded "for eachother"!
i was talking to some young mothers aur un ka bhi yehi rply tha k ~after marriage n kids..un ki apni lyf khatam ho gai hay and they are living for their kids~ makes sense!
baqi yeh to lyf ka cycle hay...
and yes apnay kids ko financially fully support karna chahyea by giving 'em edu' for future...who knows whts ahead!

and burhapa,wenever i think ab it,i just escape from this reality or old pplz ko to main bohat zyada observe karti hooN...sometime scares me

waisay tu burhapay k liyay boorha houna zarooree nahen..... tumhaaree baatoon say tu lagta hay k abhi say hi tum................................





kafi samajhdaar hou gayee hou....

well thats true , life ceratinly changes after merriage and kids..... U can't think of ur self.....

hm hm..................topic tow ek dum se classic hai .......................i have sumthing else to say...sometimes bara mushkil hota hai to express ideas , views , thinking put n explain in words ........................yeah tow kehna sara ser galat hai k we dont have time for ourselves ya phir we dont take time ........................jab ek insaan appna khail khud rakhta hai ya khud ko time deta hai tow woh appni khushi k liey kertaa hai n for satisfaction aur ager koi opposite hai woh dusron ki care kertaa hai n un kaa khail rakhtaa hai tow iss terhaa bhi yeah task woh appne liey he perform kertaa hai kuyn jab dusron ka khail rakh ker usse satisfaction mil rahi hai tow it means yeah usss ne appne liey kiyaa


here are sum questions which arises................thats make u a clear picture ................Can u imagne living one complete day without thinking about urself, nothing offending u, nothing distrurbing u, nothing causing u to be angry or unhappy?? is it possible to see the world n life, ppl the way it is ? /....................jahan yeah sawal ubhertae hein zehan mein tow thats show k app khuad ko waqat detay ho tow aisa feel kerte ho


ok ek experiment kerte hein here


the greatest human quest is to know what one must do in order to become a human being ...............so ur life n ppl greatest challenge making the decisions to be free....................the experiment is that take a moment, right now, to experience what i mean .......picture urself in any position that u like n have.....sitting, standing, whatever is easiest for u to imagine now looks at the mental picture of urself .................what u see??............in this experiment n exercise.......is a u who is always looking from urself..........always looking outside of urself .........may that is the easiest way of knowing ur spiritual identity.....when i talk about spirituality and being spiritual, im describing an attitude toward ur God, faith, N THE inner journey of enlightment..........wherever ur mind goes u will find ur own inner consciousness, the creator of the world ...........purpose of u.......u will find n realize that it is "u" n only """"U""""""""""" who r being reflected everywhere and it is '''''''U"""""''' who are being reflected everywhere and that it is ur own reflection that passes u all the time .....


n yeah tow must hai k every day u have to make an attempt to serve for others ...............in some small way and sumtimes dont tell anyone ..................."when u seek happiness for urself it will always elude u...when u seek happiness for others u will find it urself "............but thats another fact is that .............we all r alone,......each of us a single cell in this body called "humanity".............jiss ki nourishment zarori hai with the help of interaction ...............n care for others ............."every thing and every one that came into ur life had a reason for being there "......life n ppl gives exams and learning from those that depends on u .......n urself ...............everyone has to seek in his/her own way to make his own self more noble and to realize his own true worth ....................u must give ur some time to ur fellow ones ...........u will desire less and then u feel more fulfilled.... u will shift ur attention away from urself n personal benefits and take pleasure in serving others ... than u will know what u need to do .............thats the basic task ..................this attempt will fill u with a new sense of power ..................keep me in ur duas thanx ...bhashan hatam huawa

JI sahi fermaya app ne aj kal k is dor mai ya hamesha se hamari life dosron k uper dependent hoti hai

ap k comment sey me k zehn main aik baat i hay~a young body with an old soul~
trust me am not bad-rooH



i can understand...wohi observation wali baat sey, banday ki soch bina xp kiye samjha deti hay

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