Salamz n Hizzz Hcianz ... so howz lyf n you???

ok today my question is:

What will u do if ur lyf partner misbehave wid ur parents in front of u???[the question is for both genders]

app tab kya karoge jab apaka life partner apke samne apkey parents ki insult kare batamezi kare ???

for guys situations likh rahi hon:

*ager app ki lyf partner apki wife ki pay par apke ghar ka kharch chalta ho[only suppose plz dont b emotional or take it wrong]
*uski wajah se app ko job milli ho
*ager app usko kuch kaho to uss k pass itni power ho k woh apko job se b nikal sakti ho
so ye options hain guys k lye just think

n gurls app kya karo ge if ...

app k paas peche wapis apne parents k ghar aane ka koi b rasta na ho


reply honestly n please imagine the situations

[b]Main Apnni wife ko us kaay ghar chor aoun ga. jub tak who maray parents say dil say mafi na magay aur maray parents us ko dil say maaf na kar day.
who maray ghar nai asakti.,

Main appni wife say aik rupay bhi nai loun ga.
aur main who job nai karoun ga. jahan mari wife ki powers houn.


Self-Respect

me toh usko inni mijaal nahi doongi

phir bhi esa karega toh do rakh ke maroongi

ppl plz read the situations carefully

kyun kia howa?

aapko kaisay yay khyaal aya

Q sawal pochne main koi burayi hai kya

hmmmm

batameezi aik cheez hoti hai aur kisi ghalat baat ko ghalat kehna aik

well meri wife ho ya koi bhi ho agar woh ghalat baat karay ga to main usko ghalat hi kahoon ga... job wob jati hai to jaati rehay... respect aik cheez hoti hai.... one shud defend it

m sorry.. but m nt geting u dear ...kiya Q ko thora aur clear kuro gey app.. then v ll be in batter position to answer...


sorry naih sumj luggi na..

nice exercise Airy_Princess

mujhay aap ki iss qism ki post bahoot achi, practical, tarbiati aur door.ras lagti haiN. i really appreciate ur efforts in this regards. let's see wot members say. iss qism ki immaginary zehni exrecise say nah sirf yeh k different behaviours say aagahi hasil hoti hai balkay in behaviours maiN say the best ko choose karnay maiN bhi asaani rahti hai (jab zaroorat paray) aur yeh bhi pata chalta hai k maiN khud ketnay pani maiN houN... apni reply ka doosrouN ki reply say mawaaznah karkay. Allah aap ko iska ajar day. aameen

daikhain pehli baat to yeh k jub main us k parents ki respect karoon gi to automatically us ko bhi karni chahiye..........GIVE & TAKE

lakin ager is k bawajood wo meray parents say misbehave karay ga to...........

1. pehlay to main usay piar say samjhaoon gi

2. naraz ho jaoon gi

3. ghussay say samjhaoon gi

4. main us ka samna apnay parents say honay hi nahin doon gi jo aisi situation doobara create ho

5. ab gher to shoher ka hi hota hay...........aur seperation/talaq Allah tala k nazdeek sub say napasandeeda amal hay to main us k gher bhi rahoon gi, us ki zaroorton ka khial bhi rakhoon gi..............lakin dil say nahin...........Q k is tarhan ki baaton say DIL TO MER JATA HAY na dear :(


daikhain kisi nay bhi hasna nahin hay meray jawabat per i think about the given situation deeply n then try to reply any way! nice exercise dear

u made me think !! AWSUM topic


... one thing is for sure.. k apne ma baap ki baizti kisi bachey ko bardasht nahien .. rather dat b a gal or a boy .. lekin agr larki k paas wapas jaane ka rasta nahein ahi .. to phr derez nuthin dat can b done ..

ma baap ki izzat k liye agr larey gi wid hubby .. too phr woo gher chor aye ga which will end up in mor problems.. is se behtar hai k aik baar ki gaii baiztii se sabak le k dobara se mouqa aane hi na do .. milna kam karoo parents se .. ta k khud ko dukh na ho aur kissi se batameezi na ho ..

ziada se ziada samjhaya hi ja sakta hai k aissa na karoo .. but .. if the hubby is in charge n the gal has no where too go ... phr to giv in karna pare ga .. but if the gall has a gud family who can support her .. thn hubby needs to learn a lesson !!

kia khoob practical aur suljha howa bayaan hai aap ka.... females k pass to above sooratay haal ka aik say zayad options haiN.... apnay aap ko aur apni family life ko disturb kiyeh beghair ... maslah to males ka hai .... jislki life partner din raat oskay parents k saath rahti hai aur aksar o beshtar oski ghair maujoodgi maiN hoti hai... lehaza agar woh mis.behave karay to males k liyeh baRi pareeshaani hojati hai.... hai koi male jo 'Sham_99' ki taarah ka musbat aur amali hull pesh karay

maqtay maiN aan paRi hai sukhan gustaranah baat

wot do u mean by gud family? ... agar laRki k maikay walay saahibay hasiyat aur taqat o ikhteyaar walay howay to larka aise mistake karegaa hi nahi... aur agar (ghaibanah) karega bhi to saamnay mokar jayega.

lekin agar aap ki moraad yeh hai k parents apni beTi ko wapis apnay ghar rakhnay k 'qaabil' haiN .... to it doesn't make any sense... saray hi parents apni beTiyouN ko (shadi break ki soorat maiN) sambhaal saktay haiN.... to kia iss bunyaad par laRki apni shadi-break karlay k parents to haiN ... yaa woh khud bhi jobs etc karkay apnay aap ko paal sakti hai.

plz re-view ur solution. shadi k baad aik muslim laRki ki priority no.1 oska shauhar hota hai nah k parents.... dauray resaalat maiN aik sahab tejaarti dauray par kuch dinouN k liyeh ghar say bahar jaarahay thay. onhouN nay apni biwi ko hidayat ki k jab tak maiN ghar wapis nah lauT aayouN tum iss ghar say bahar nah nikalna.... ittefaaq say oskay shauhar ki ghair maujoodgi maiN oskay walid sahab ki death hogayee... oskay ghar walay ossay lenay aaye k apnay walid ka aakhri dee.daar kar lay. magar oss muslim aurat nay ghar say nikalnay say inkaar kardia k meray shauhar ki ijazat nahi. halaaNkay dil maiN woh bahoot dukhi thee. aur shauhar ki iss hedayat par nalaaN bhi.... jab shauhar wapis aayaa to oss aurat nay Rasool Allah sallal laaho alaihay wasallam say jaa kar apnay shauhar ki iss behaviour ki shikayat ki. Rasool Allah sallal laaho alaihay wasallam nay oss aurat ki iss baat par tareef ki k tum nay apnay shauhar k hukm ki pabandi ki aur kaha tumhaiN iss hukm ki pabandi say jo dilli ranj howaa iskay badlay Allah paak nay tumharay walid ki bakhshish kardi. kia tum Allah ki iss enayat par raazi yaa khush nahi. woh aurat boli. yaa Rasool Allah sallal laaho alaihay wasallam maiN ab raazi aur khush houn.

iss hadees say muslim aurtouN ko sabaq seekhna chahiyeh k agar woh apnay shauhar k hukm /raza k tehat zindagi basar karay aur jo duskh ossay apnay shauhar ki taraf say millay (including hubby's misbehaviour towards her parents) ossay bardaasht karay to yqeenan Allah ki taraf say ossay behtar ajar milegaa......... and it is understood k oska shauher Allah k saamnay apnay amal ka jawaab.dah bhi hoga aur sazaa.waar bhi..... aurat agar hubby say milnay waali dukh o takleef ko bardaasht karay, sabar karay to ossay ajar bhi milta hai aur oska ghar bhi barbaad nahi hotaa.... aur ain mumkin hai k oska hubby bhi baad azaaN apnay ghalat amal ko realise kartay howay apni biwi ki taraf mazeed multafit hojaye.

w/salam
yeh to bara mushkil sawal kar diya AP

ALLAH na karay kabhi aisi situation dekhni parray

anyway
aisa kabhi huwa to main zahir hay aisi baat pasand nahin karon ga .........samjhaon ga jis ki ghalti ho gi aur agar badtameezi had say barh gayee to phir ........kuch bhi ho sakta hay

gr8 topic lyk alwayz

well.... aghar wo mere waledain seh batameezi karhe ga tu zahiri baat hai k mujhe acha nahi laghe ga... well wat i wll do is... baat karo gi us seh...samjaogi ushe... n aghar wo nah samje (yah samjna nah chahe) n dat happend again tu thn as Sham said aisa mauqa hi nahi aane do gi k uska samna mere waledain seh ho...

koi b mere waledain k saht batameezi karhe mujse bardast nahi hota, beshak wo meri apni saggi behan hi kio nah ho...

My answer is that I would try and be forgiving, and ask why he/she did that. If you have a life partner, you should consider yourself lucky, and always try to work things out,,,tell him/her not to do the act again and show some respect to your parents.. for sure that's what you're doing when dealing with his/her parents.. make him/her realize in whatever to do, it must be accompanied wit respect, =)

iss waqt baat ghalat ya sahi baat ki nahi ho rahi hai ... read the situation carefully which I mentioned for guys* aaisi situations main aurat ju k man se superior ho dekha gya hai k woh mard ya uski ki gayi baton ko kuch nahi samajhti...its a practical thing...observe ur surroundings observe the people ... batamizi ya scene create karne main kisi ko dair nahi lagti my question is k tab app k reactions kya hon gey???

Thankyou so much brother I love to observe each n everything ... yep hum sab ko kabhie na kabhie life main aaisi situations ka samna karna parta hai n sumtyms hum na karien tou humare apno ko hi karna parta hai ... phir insan ager kisi ko mashwara de tou woh acha hi day ... wesy main jitna kuch b likhti hon apni surroundings ko observe kar k hi likhti hon ... people are doing all this these days ... so ... thankyou so much that u like my topics n I love ur replies cuz they give me knowledge n more to think

reply karongi j main app sab ko thori dair tak plz

All these things should be cleared before marriage itself, as my friend says," I'll tell my wife the first day of our marriage that my parents are the most valuable asset in my life, so treat them like your own"

well wohi kaha na keh jo sehi keh raha hai uski side laini hai....

as for wat u said woh bilkul 100% theek hai keh jo ghar main zayda kamata hai usi ka bharam hota hai... but if i were in such a condition to meray liye parents ki izzat job paisa har cheeez say zayda hai

Aik karara say thapar jar dunga pehlay tou usay ..........aur phir usay warn karunga k aainda ye harkat na ho................ chahay koi bhi situation ho.... job is not valuable in against my parents

[b] acchi observation ha.. acch alugga itnay sensible reply daikh kur...

in my view... parents to parents hotaye ha chaiye wo larki kiay ho ya larkay kay...respect ap khany say naih kurwa suktiay .. ye feeling khd devlop kurwani purrti ha.. as u respect their definatly s/he ll do the same.. but in some saniro kuch oppist result vi ajjata ha.. try to find out the problm kiay wo kis waja say create hoti ha.. n aviod them...

agr phr bi na maniye aur larki kiay pass koi option v na ho to ussay kuch time kiay liye parents say avoid kurna chaiye n try to realize that person kiay wo kah ghalt ha.. but never ever feel kiay ap apnay husband say narz ha coz feeling to ik dum feel ho jati ha kiay ap show off kur rahi ha ya dil say jita rahi ha... mira naih khayl kaiy koi itna harsh ho sukta ha kiay wo na sumjhaye..

miray samnye bhut say exp ha kuch families ki.. jis mei unho nay sabr kya aur end pur unho nay apnay husbands kiay dil jeet liaye...

in short ap apni aur apni family ki khd izzut bnati hai apnay in lwas ki family mei... if u ignr definat they will ignore urs... agr ap apnay hubby ki family ko apnna sumjhaye gi unhay respect diaye gi to return mei wo bi utna hi respect diay ga.....

very nice thinking NAJ............izzat karogay tou izzat milay gi

G app nay theek kaha

Gud self respect rulez karna tou yehi chaheye aaisi situation main

janu kya really u would lyk to hit ur hubby??

mene khushi k rep par kaha tha quote karna bhool gyai

par apne tou inna acha rep dia hai

Thankyou so much I like ur views a lot apne yeh baat bilkul sahi n buht achi kahi hai marked ones*

thanks for liking my topic mene uss gal ki halat pochi thi ju k kuch na kar sakti ho ... jin k parents ache hote hain woh aaisa kaam honay hi nahi detay hubby se ... par jin betiyun ka koi nahi hota unko sehna parta hai buht

doondhien j koi

apne sahi kaha bro jeena parta hai sab kuch bardasht kar k ... buht se cases dekhe hain mene aaise ... life guzar hi jati hai

koi authenticated step or point ???

aur ager mauqa phir agaya phir???

Nice wordz

THANx

Okay

thank you soooooooooooooo much Adnan Bhai although now a days many guls doing job........they can live seperatly.........but this is not practical solution according to our religion and society

Best Regards

thx

Thank you too dear that u give a really thought provoking topic ......may these types of exercises give a better turn...........as now a days.........this is a MAJOR problem in our society

thanks 4 liking my opinion

Jazak Allah

Adnan Bhai wesay koi ziada options nahin hain females k paas.......sirf ek hi option hoti hay aur wo hay COMPROMISE…………aur yeh lafz kehnay aur likhnay main jitna asan hay ager practically deal karain to…………….lag pata jata hay


Maslah waqai MALES ka hay……….



mera khial hay k gharon main aisi situation create hi KAMZOR MARDON ki waja say hoti hay………



ager begum aap k kaan bher rahi hain to aap ko to aankhain khuli rakhni chahiye na……..



aap ko achi tarhan dekhna chahiye………



na k office aur kaam say aa ker TV laga ker beth jain………..



BV ko payar dain, respect dain, confidence dain, us ki zaroorton ka khial rakhain……… Lakin parents ki izzat ko kabhi bhi hath say na janay dain…… baqol meray Abu jee k “B-VIAN to bohat c mil jati hain……..PARENTS nahin miltay”



mera khial hay k jesa k mardon ko Allah tala nay buland martaba banaya hay to wo sirf gher say baher k liye nahin……..bul k un ko chahiye k wo gher k ander bhi poora poora dhian dain……..



ager kisi mard ko mari koi baat buri lagay to ignore



yeh sub mera mushahida hay Allah karay k main practical life main bhi aisi hi sabit hoon, ameen

main ziada sochna nahin chahta kiyune achi umeed hi rakhna chahta hoon ALLAH say
mukhtasir yehi kay samjhaon ga usay aur umeed hay maan jayay gi woh

being a head of the family, MARD par bahoot bhari zimmah daari hai. and i agree wid ur observation and comments. bilkul baja farmayaa hai aap nay. mujhay to aap ki reply pasamd aayi... thanx a lot. Jazak Allah

wsalaam.. nice topic AP

mien yahi kahungi k mien kabhi ek aise admi se to shadi nhi karungi jiska kharcha mujhpe chalta ho ..wo mard he nhin hoga phir kisi angle se bhi..
dosra yeh k larki apne maabaap k saath bohut achi hai ..jahan uski saas ai to uskey tewar badal jate hain nakey us k uski saas k bhi ..

EK MAAN USKA BETA BACHPAN SE BADAPAN TUK USEY JO CHAHIYE HOTA HAI USKI JO TAKLEEF HOTI HAI USEY JO KHUSHI MILTI HAI WO APNE MAA SE AKEY KEHTA HAI MANGTA HAI SHARE KARTA HAI ..JAHAN USKI BIWI AI TO USKA ZIADA TAWAJA USI PE HOTA HAI BHUK LAGTI HAI TO BIWI KO HEE AWAZ DETA HAI TO ISI BASE PE MAMTA MIE THODI SI JEALOUSY AJATI HAI ..AAKHIR EK AURAT JO HAI ..ISI WAJAH SE I THINK K YEH MASLEY MASAEL AJATE HAIN ..YEH TO KUCH THA MAI OWN THINKING MIE..

OR EK MARD YE SHOBA DETA NHIN ...K LARKI K MAA BAAP SE BATAMEEZI KAREY AGAR MERE SAATH AISA HO TO MIEN SACHI BAAT HAI KUCH KEH NAHI SAKUNGI USKO ..HAAN KHAMOOSHI OR RONA IKHTIYAAR KARLUNGI MAGAR MUJHE PATA HAI MIEN US K SAMNE KUCH BOL HE NHI SAKTI MIE KIA KOI AURAT NHI BOL SAKTI ..

DOSRA AGAR MIEN AISI HU LARKI LARKEY K MAA BAAP SE BATAMEEZI KAREY TO SHE DESERVES A SLAP ..LARKEY KO LARKI KO ITNA BARTAR NHI KARNA VCHAHIYE K WO YE KADAM UTHA SAKEY ..

OR IS MIEN JO LONER TECH NE BAAT KAHI DIS IS DA BEST THING ..PEHLE SE HE BATDENA...
so bas yunhi kuch
chalo ab batao me ryto k wrng!

hm hm.........................well age n experience tow km hai...................but what i have learned ........................is that k kissi ko app jitni izat do gey woh app ko utna he pyar day ga ...............jiss bandae se relation jurr gaya app ko uss ki aachai burai dono ko adopt kerna perta hai...................jab aap uss ki her requirement puri karo gey ,.............aur uss se juray tamam rishton ki tow sawal he paida nahin hota k aisi nobat aaye.............................give respect n gain respect................