In our modern age, many people do adopt children and really do love dem.. But many at times the child does not know that he/she is adopted.. How do u think the child will feel wen he/she finds oud? Do u think the child shud love his parents more since dey have loved him as his/her real parents sacrficing thier own selves? Or do u feel the parents should tell the truth to the child pehle hi?? And the real parents... What should the child think abt them??

Share ur views!

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theak hai right now u r in office na per when u get free time then

I have sum friends having this problem ... I think parents ko start hi main sab kuch clear kar dena chaheye aaise kids ko pehle se patah ho tou woh itna dukh nahi deta ... ager unko ye sab kisi teesre se maloom ho mirch masala k saath tou unn ki personality crash ho jati hai so adoption isnt bad but one should clear each n everything to their child

ahan theak kaha app nay ..i think it will make a difference! but once u find out ur not their own, wheneva u hurt em or they do soemthing nice for u... or sumthin like tht...l u will feel guilty and might even feel like a bhoj to em...

main pahlay mazhab k hawalay se baat kerti hoon bcoz hamray main b es ki takeed hai k koi adopted child k sath apni waldeyat nahi lekh sakta ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,ye Ghuna hai ,,,,,,,,,,,,,
so i think k bata dena chahay as soon as possible in a right and polite way,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,bcoz k khabi na khabi us ko pata chal jata hai,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,tab us ko ziyda takleef ho ge ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,agar khud pahlay he bata dia jay to wo compose ker sakta hai,,,,,,,,,,,

nice according to islam its nice but If u tell..the truth..to the child..den..I think the parent..will..be taking a very big risk..so I think..it's better..nt to tell the adopted..child..................The child will feel shocked, broken down but in the end he should realize how much he means to his adopted parents and whether they are his step parents or real parents dey are his "parents" and dat is what is imp.. As for as his real parents, i feel the parents who brought the child up shud be more imp in the life of the child bec they grew him up, dey took care of him and loved him and they are his "parents".

yes both situation r risky

.............Honesty is always the best policy, use it and don't start such an important relationship without it and remember they are special because u chose to have them with you !!!


but its too ricky.............but A child needs to know where they came from, and that you loved them so much you had to have them for your own child. Explain all the circumstances then wud be batter,,

as shah-rafiq said ,offcourse if it is the teaching if islam then there is no argument why and what.... , it should be told to the kids as it will save a lot of complexity in the future .specially when we talk about marriage and heritage issues.......

well said ... bez its true

thx for ur sharing

uf life u kay topics pir behus ka tym chaiay really

I have sum friends having this problem ... I think parents ko start hi main sab kuch clear kar dena chaheye aaise kids ko pehle se patah ho tou woh itna dukh nahi deta ... ager unko ye sab kisi teesre se maloom ho mirch masala k saath tou unn ki personality crash ho jati hai so adoption isnt bad but one should clear each n everything to their child [/b][/color]
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yeee Airy_Princess ka reply hai she said right k starting ma hee children ko iger clear kar deiha jay ti acha hai warna iger wo kisi 3rd person se sunay gey tu inn ko duk ho ga aor baad ma inn ki parsonality per bi farq pary hai

so she measn should tell everything at da beginning