SalamzzzZ & HiiizZZz

howZ lyf n you??? neways me ka topic ajj again aik sawal hi hai app sab men log se

well I observe this thing a lot ... k jab koi b aadmi apni maa n behan ki side leta rahe tou uss se best n better koi nahi aur jahan kahin uss ne apni biwi ki side li tou woh bann jata hai "Juru ka Ghulaam" what do you say aesa kyun hai??? wyfi se pyar karna uski respect karna ya ager woh sahi hai tou ye baat kuch burri nahi par we all [I knw we all] take it very offensive specially mumz n sisz buht hi rarely ghaar aaise hongey [m not saying k koi acha nahi hai] jahan as such koi masla na ho par overall jahan dekho yehi baat ... what do u say mEn loG??? ye baat kahan tak sahi hai???

Can't Say.....

ALHAMDULILLAH we don't have such sort of problem.... both sides happy.....


aap kiyoon hmaain govinda say milaa rahee haain ' joru k ghulam' bana kar..

aap k ''ghulam'' aap tak poohanch gaay k nahenn??

yahi baat mujhe bhi samajh nai aati

Jab tak hum Kissi ki Behan hoti hain ya kissi aur ko apni wife ki help karte dekhte hain ya uski side lete to yahi baat hi zehan mein aati hay ke ye to bhi gaya kaam se ...ban gaya Joru ka ghulaam...

Aur jab khud Wife banti hain to Chahti hain ke hamare husband buss hamari side lein hamari baat sunen .....family prob mein buss hamare liye stand lein ...

I dont hv ne bhabi yet is liye ye nahi keh rahi ke mein bhi yahi samajhti hoon ...but sachii i did observe dat alot..

Alhamdulliah am luky ke jab bhi koi baat hoti hay mujhe bolne ki zarorat hi nai parti mere Father In Law hi meri side lete hain aur sab ko chup kara dete hain ....

I have seen dis in ma Nand jee .....she neva liked ma hubby to side to door ki baat hay she neva liked dat if ma hubby talk to me infront of every one... Woh kehti hain ke Besharam Larkyan sab ke samne apne hubby se baat karti hain

Kya waqi ye sach hay ....kya guls not suppose to talk to dere hubbies infront of every 1? ..... Just ye bhi poochna ke aap khane mein kya khaen ge ya Pani ka pooch lena ya kissi aur kaam ke liye bhi she said aesa buri larkyan karti hain

nand bahoo jhagraay.. abhi say...

well in one sense she is right... thats based on the original culture of indo-pak area and u will see old ladies not calling there hubbies with their names...rather they will saye -- sunyay-- etc etc...

khair buri larkiyaan tu nahen kahna chahyay... laikin halaat kafi badal gaay haain ab TV par indian/foreign daramay daikh daikh kar.... I still remember k when I was a child (kisi zamanay main) tu mairay mamon nay mumani k hath par hath mara... n it felt so strange b/c we hve never seen anyone being ''so frank'' with their wives in front of others..... laikin ab tu facebook par mairay itnaay saray friends ki pics haain ju apni wives k shoulder par hath rakhay kharay haain........

what can u say other than k time has changed...... woh ju riwayati sharm-o-haya thee woh kam houte ja rahee hay

Jhagra hi to nai kiya naa mein nee...issi liye to baat baat mein tang aarati thin woh meri

Lekin baat yahi to samajh nai aati naaa ke kyon bhi .... Sharam Haya to ab bhi hay .....koi besharmi ki baat to nai ye poochna ke aap kya khao ge aaj? ya fir agar garmi mein bahir se woh aayen aur aap pooch lo ke pani laon stuff like dat ....is mein kon si burai hay Bhai... aesa na kro to kehte hain susraal wale ke biwi hoke apna farz nai samajhti banda jay to kahan jay

hmm ..i cantt say more just diz men should hv thier own personality

Very nice topic AP

"Kehtey hain ziadti har cheez ki buri hoti hai aur tawazan main hi zindagi ka husn hai"

So mere khayal main jahan yeh tawazun bigarta hai wahin yeh masley paida hotey hain .... Is main sab se ziada pressure husband per hota hai coz us ko apni family aur apni Wife main balance rakhna parta hai .... jahan kahin se bhi balance bigra.. becharey ki shamat aa gayi

Jahan tak meri baat hai to Jab moqa miley mere husband kaam main help kartey hain shuru main mujhey buhat ajeeb lagta tha coz hamari apni family main aisa koi concept hi nahi tha... phir aadat par gayi balkey bigar gayi

Allah ka shukar hai mere husband ko kabhi yeh lafz sunney ko nahi mila... kyunke har cheez limit main theek rehti hai.

Waise bhi har ghar ka mahol mukhtalif hota hai.. aur Larki ko pehley ghar ka mahol samajhna chahiyye.... doosri taraf ghar walon ko bhi larki ko space deni chahhiyye taakey us ko adjust hone main asani ho.

"Less expectations.. more Happiness"

BEst of luck

Exactly ... Us ki aik apni baat hoti hai ... samney waley bandey ko apni respect bhi feel hoti hai

Media ne har cheez ko buhat fantasy bana diya hai ... per jab shaadi ke baad reality ko face karna parta hai to phir chakkey choot jatey hain

acha bhai gussa na karoo...

waisay bahan ka upset houna bhi banta hay thoora bohat I think, as saree zindagee bhai nay us k nakhray uthaay houtay hain n ab koi aur aa jata hay.. is baat koa ccept karna asaan nahen houta.....

laikin ALLAH ka shukar hay apni taraf aisa koi problem nahen... balkay ulta hi hisaab hay.. mairay ghar walay bagham ki side laitay haain n un k ghar walay mairee.... so agar ham nay kisi ko dant parwaani hu tu woh mairay dad say n main un ki mom say kah daita houn...

Is mein me ka kya qasoor tah Bhai ...woh nai nai shadi huwi thi Woh khud hi ird gird ghoomte the mere


Me to mana bhi karti thi ke Baji ghussa karti hain to kehte ke mein bhi to kaam hi kar raha hoon ab koi samjhee na to kya karon

Jee me ka mama baba bhi bahot like karte haun UN ko n unke baba ki to mein Ladli Bahoo hoon

Buss kya karen koi ek to hota hi hay naaa Pange baaz

Allah kare aap hamesha hi khush rahen is se bhi Zyada aamin (Me ke liye bhi dua kar dein Baba Jee )

jaa bacha ALLAH taira bhala karay.. n khush rakhaay hmaaisha.....

Wah jee............ Kya Pyari Dua di hay aap ne .........Kya haath mein woh or Pankh wala Jharo bhi tha

naheen... balkay baba ji ka hath bacha jhamora (FG) k sar [par thaa........ aur ankhaain band theen....



jz imagine.....

matlab ...lambi si darhi ..... Bara sa Chola, lambe lambe baal aur dua ke baad zor zor se Allah hoo Allah hooo



















Fir to jay ho Baba Ki

w.salam hi2

haha nice topic
parh kar ek song yaad aya

"Mein tou juru ka Ghulaaam ban k rahoonga"

sahi hei na ban k raho tou kya prb hei is mein
Bv hei apki good thing

ab ju nazrana lay kar aayee hou woh bhi mureed-e-khaas k hawalay kartaay jana.....

Nazrana??????????????? .............. woh kya hota hay

U ka matlab hay ke ....u se dua le kar ab nazar-na-ana

gustakh larki.......... hadd-e-adab......

Nazrana means Nazar.......... ju peeroon ki khidmat main haddyaa paish kia jaata hay....

ohhh achaa achaaa

Maaf kar dein baba jee ghalti ho gai

jaldi mein ek kurak murghi mili hay chale gi kya

I am agree with Seema sis
har baat aitadaal kay sath achi lagti hay

biwi ki baat maan lainay say shohar joru ka ghulam nahin ho jata ........yeh soch negative hay
sahi baat ya mashwara koi bacha bhi dey to maan laina chahiyay
albata yeh baat hay kay authority shohar ki honi chahiyay kiyunke woh ghar ka sarbrah hota hay ....jahan aurat sarbrah ban-nay ki koshish karay ya hukum chalanay ki koshish karay woh ghalat hay

I believe that donon mein aisi understanding honi chahiyay kay aik dosray ka khyal rakhein aur bahar ki dunya mein aik dosray ka sahara banein ........koi ikhtilaf bhi ho to aapas mein baat karein ...kisi aur ko pata bhi na chalnay dein

Wow ... kiya topic haiy Princess

Joru Ka Ghulam ... Mumy's Boy ... Behnoo' Ka Chamcha ... Bhayoo'n Ka Pithoo ... Aur Baap ka Ghulam

Yeh saaraiy Designations hai'n jo becharaiy Shadi Shuda Mard Hazrat ko miltaiy hai'n
Kissi ki nazar mai yeh to kissi ki nazar mai wo ... baharhaal MASOOM Mard inhi alqaab siay pukara jaata haiy

Its difficult to keep the balance ... Aur phir issmaiy Qasoor Mard ka thori hota haiy ... Qasoor to kehnaiy waloo'n ka hota ... that is reflection of their minds not the INNOCENT MALE

Baqi Rahi baat Mohabat aur Izat ki ... to bechaara Mard to apnaiy yeh ehsaasat to paida hotaiy hi baant daita hay

Faraiz aur Zimadariyaan ... sab kuch daikhna parta haiy

Agar yeh rishtaiy daar (Maa'n Behan Biwi) Mard ki situation ko samjhai'n to koi masla hi nahi

Ammoman yeh Masail Jahalat ki aik advance kissam ki waja saiy hotaiy hai'n ... Aksar loog issi chakar mai rehtaiy hai'n k Theek kiya haiy aur ghalat kiya hai .. Aur Aksar loog jaantaiy howaiy bhi Anjan bann jataiy hai'n ... Thanks to Khudgharzi

As Tihami Bhai Said It was part of Regional Tradition
I have heard in earlier times in our families it was difficult to c wives in day light … Actually I have been told k ghar ka aik hissa Zanan Khana Kehlata tha … Jahan par Ghar k Mardoo’n ko bhi jaanaiy ki ijazat nahi hoti thi
Uss waqt ki Jhalak abb bhi Khandan ki Za’eef Mastoorat (Old Ladies) mai daikhi ja sakti haiy
Aur Jab mai Gaoo’n (Villages) jata hoo’n to buhat sakht ehsaas hota haiy in sab batoo’n ka
Aur darr bhi lagta haiy k koi baat khilaf-e-qanoon naa ho jayeh laikin mujhaiy buhat acha lagta haiy indeed

wo suna haiy na jaisa dais waisa bhais ...

O Mr.Bean kabhie kuch bol b dia karo

Lay parava main tey pocheya ey buss

Lolx in-laws main aaise jokes dekhne ko milte hain m not saying n btw u n ur nand who is ryt but yeh apni mentality ki baat hoti hai dont worry kuch hoti hi aaisi hain u jab woh na hon tab aesa kar lia karo wesy b u ki tou luv marriage hai u ki tou moujan hi moujan hain

True ... aaise aaise kaam hote hain k bus

yara shaadi k baad insaan ko buht criticism bardasht karna parta hai ... u ladou si thi na apne parents ki aur bahar chali gayi iss lye abhi ye sab u ko awkward feel ho raha hai dosron ka u k matters main tang araana aur wesy b u ki love marriage hai society jitni b modernize kyun na ho jaye ... shaadi ho b jaye tou thora buht zyada criticism face karna parta hai dont worry ahista ahista sab kuch thek ho jayega ... just dont care aur apni lyf jeo

Baji apki sari batien 100% ryt hain par ager koi hubby sumtyms thori si b syd le tou usko ye title kyun dia jata hai

Fanqz for replying

True par ye sab ghalat kyun samjha jata hai

shukker hai kisi ne tou mere topic ko samjha k mene pocha kya tha yep true kaha I think it is khudgharzi ... jealousy tabhie inn alqabat se nawazaa jata hai mard ko ... thankyou for replying n liking my topic

kiyunke males apnay aap ko bartar samajhtay hain ......aur biwi ki tabi'dari karna un ki anna kay khilaf hota hay ...iss liyay ba'z log biwi ki sahi baat man-nay mein bhi apni tauheen mehsoos kartay hain

main phir wohi kahon ga kay biwi say mashwara karna aur us ki baat man-na aur cheez hay aur us say dab kar rehna aur cheez hay ........biwi say dabb kar rehna to waqai ghalat baat hay aur us banday ko joru ka ghulam hi kehna chahiyay

albata sahi baat par biwi ki side lainay wala joru ka ghulam nahin hota ......us ko aisa kehna sirf ussi jahil zehenyat ka karnama hay jis ki waja say humaray muashray mein bohat say ghalat concepts aur behaviour maojood hain

iss sawal ka jawaab tu <jurus> hi de sakti hain ya phir <Gulam> loog

Welcome to MG

Aray Janab yeh to wohi baat hoi ki kissi naiy poocha k khudkushi kiya hoti haiy ... to jawab milla Pahar saiy chalang lagao pata chal jayeh ga

Kuch mushahida aur common sense bhi hoti haiy naa ji ... Abb yeh naa keh dijiyeh ga k sabki sense milla kar jawab daingi

ye MG kiya hai??

hehehe....

shukrya hum itne waily nahi mushaihda karne ke liye aur na hee sab ki sense jama karne ke liye

Hulchul ko to aap jaanti hai'n naa
Hulchul mai aik aur section haiy Male Gossip ... uski short form MG haiy ji

Ji maira yeh matlab thori tha k aap wailaiy hai'n
wo to aik common sense ki baat thi .. khair choorai'n .. bass khush rahain

Aiy loo.. maine tu female Gossp per click kiya tha lekin click thora sa neechey ho gya i think

thanks.. shukran <welcome karne ke liye>
theek hai chor detay hain... aur khush tu hum waise hi hain aapke kehne ki zaroorat nahi

I hve a feeling k aap ju kuch likhna chhatee haain likh nahen sakteen.....

well thats true , hamara maa'shra kafi taizee say tabdeel hu raha hay.... fazool main maghrib ki bure cheezooon ki taqleed karnay main.,, achi cheezoon ki tu kartay nahen pairawi...

Yeh phir kehney waley ki soch pe depend karta hai .... As KamlaJatt said.. "becharey aadmi ka kiya qusoor"

Shayad is ki waja yeh hoti hai kehney wala/wali ... (most of time ghar ke log hi de detey hain title) ... ke liye yeh baat nayi hoti hai ke hamari kisi baat ko reject kiya.... woh yeh sochey baghair ke sahi hai ya ghalat... apni bharas nikalney ke liye kuch na kuch keh hi detey hain.

nahi bro kuch tou hum likh sakte hain jese k ajkal ye trend in ho gya hai buhat k aik acha mila tou pichla choota even k nikah torna b ajkal log aam baat samajhte hain

g koi kabhie kisi ka acha nahi dekh sakta

patah nahi log aesa kyun karte hian akhir

- aik hadees ka mafhoom hai k qurbay qayamat ki aik nishani yeh bhi hai k mard apni mother ka naa.farmaan aur apni biwi ka tabedaar (joroo ka ghulaam) ban jayega.

- mard ki jannat oski maaN k qadmouN talay (oski khidmat o ataayat maiN) hai. jabkay shadi shudah aurat ki jannat apnay shauher ki khidmat o ataa'at maiN (ahaadees ki roshni maiN).... ab agar koi muslim mard apni biwi ka shar'yee-boss hotay howay ossay apna boss bana lay to oss par joroo ka ghulaam ki phabti kasnaa bilkul durust hai.

- jahaaN tak haqooq ki baat hai to aik shauhar ko apni biwi ka har haq ada karna chaiyeh. aur apni biwi ko oski saas aur nandouN k mobaiyyanah (allegedely) shar mahfooz rakhnay ki har mumkin kshish karni chhaiyeh. lekin mother vs wife ki open jang maiN kissi mard ko yeh zeba nahi deta k woh apni jannat (mother) ki saf say nikal kar biwi ki saf maiN khaRa hojaye. maaN ki NARAAZGI oski aaqbat kharaab karsakti hai, biwi ki NARAAZGI nahi. jab 2 naraazgiyouN maiN say aik ko laazman qabool karnay wali position ho to biwi ki naraazgi ko qabool karnaa hi aqalmandi hai. nah k joroo ka ghulaam ban kar maaN ki naraazgi ko qabool karna.

- waisay afzal tareeqah (aur islami bhi) yehi hai k agar wasaail houN to mard apni biwi ko independent (separate) ghar /rehhaaish lay kar day. khaah yeh oskay parents say qareeb tar hi kiyouN nah ho. iss tarah biwi vs maaN k mawaqay kam kam hi miltay haiN. mard bhi sakoon say rahta hai aur biwi bhi. mard ko bil.aakhir biwi bachouN per hi zeyadah waqt /wasaail kharch karnay hotay haiN.

- aik aur hadees ka mafhoom yeh hai k agar aap ki kissi baat say aap ki biwi k 'naraaz honay ka andesha' ho to aap biwi ko naraaz honay say bachanay k liyeh aap oss say jhooT bol saktay haiN. goyaa jhooT jaisi ghalat baat bhi rahmatullil aalameen (saw) ko gawarah hai, magar biwi ki naraazgi nahi...... lekin aap saw hi k nazseeq maaN ki naaraazgi bahar haal biwi ki naraazgi par moqaddam hai..... aik aur hadees ka mafhoom hai.... tum maiN say behtareen fard woh hai jo apnay ahal o ayaal (biwi bachouN) k haq maiN behtar ho.

waisay nafseyaat daan kahtay haiN k koi aurat bhi apnay shauher ko dil say 'joroo ka ghulaam' dekhna pasand nahi karti. har aurat aik HAKIM MARD hi chaahti hai. agar kissi biwi k misbehave etc ki wajah say yaa mard apni lower zehni satah k baa'es ... joroo-ka-ghulaam ban bhi jaye aur amalan biwi ossay apna ghulaam hi treat bhi karay to bhi... aisee biwi apnay milnay julnay walouN (maikay /friends circle) maiN apnay shauher ka zikar HAQARAT hi say karti hai.

to khawateen o hazraat! apnay handz raise karaiN.... jo joroo ka ghulaam banna pasand kartay houN / jo apnay shauher ko apna ghulam dekhna pasand karti houN.

meri aik short story ka markazi theme bhi yehi hai

aik married laRki apni mother say apnay shauher ki SHIKAYAT kartay howay kahti hai k WOH to apni mummy bahnouN ki har baat maantay haiN, meri to suntay hi naheeN. MARD aisay hotay haiN kia? qabl azeeN yehi khatoon apnay bhai ki gheebat kar rahi thee k issay dekho har baat apni biwi ki maanta hai... maaN bahan ko to lift hi nahi karataa... afsanay ka onwaan thaa MARD KAUN?

ummay adnan ko to yeh qat'an pasand nahi k maiN kabhi kitchen etc 'zananah' qism k kaam karta howa nazar aayouN. waisay maiN ghar k deger kaam karta rahta houN. hamaray piyaray NAbi saw ko ghar ko chotay motay apna kaam apnay haathouN say karna pasand thaa.

but yeh bhi ajeeb saa lagta hai k begum saahebah tv dekh rahi houN aur shauharay naam.daar onkay liyeh tea banaa rahay houN yaa dounouN milkar bartan dho rahay houN. albattaa biwiyouN ko gharelu kaam kaaj maiN darkaar support mohayya karnay maiN koi mozaaiqah nahi. onhaiN guidance, support aur apni presence ka ehsaas dilanaa zaroori hota hai takay woh domestic affairs maiN khud ko TANHAA FEEL nah karaiN.

kiyunke un ki zehenyat choti hoti hay