today's youths r much closer 2 their frnds then family..what u guys think... is it true

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to janab baat ye hai zindagi g, k aajkal ki jis kism ki society hai, us mai ziada rujhaan hai fashion ka, cool hone ka, aur showoff ka basically. aur ye sab aajkal ki generation kerti hai. humse pichli generation, yeni humare maan baap ya humare bazurg apne doar mai ye sab nahi dekha kerte thay i mean ye sab tab hota hi nahi tha. boht shareefaana mahol tha. un mai sharam thi tameez thi koi showoff nahi tha. hum us level tak soch b nahi sakte kerna to door ki baat hai. to janab baat ye hai k jese hum, wese hi humaare friends. ab family, yeni maan baap to yehi chaahte hain k hum seedhi raah per chalain, aur hum chaahte hain k hum dunia n friends k saathh chalain, to peer pressure mai aa ker ya society k rules mai aa ker hum apni family ko bhool jaate hain unki kahi hui baaton ko bhool jate hain aur samajhte hain k unhain kuch nahi pata sara kuch humain pata hia. why? cuz we go out n work n study. we know the environment much better. but tough luck!! humare parents ko ziada behtar pata hai k humare liye kia thik hai. unki umar ka adha hisa b hum nai hote aur hum samajhte hain k humare friends jo keh rahe hain wo thik hai aur humare parents jo hain wo ghalat hain. buri baaat





hope maine kuch sense banai ho itni hi urdu ati hai bari mushkil se 10 mint mai likhi

ahna very nice jee u can write very wel urdu but i can't


i like ur point nowaday just pppl like showoff and just fellow those things who can make them modern aor ass pass ka pata hee nahi even this is just dreams world frds ajj hai tu kal nahi ....dost sada dost nahi reita ,,jab hee kisi aor ko app se baitar dost milay ga he/she ll go 4 that oar parent tu always app kay saat hai chay app wrong hee Q na karay aor iger app kuch frds se wrong karay tu kia wo app ka dost nahi reihy ga nahi never
,,,oar just bez of frds if u wonts litson ur parent /famliy's members then its so bad and shamless


well in my case its opposite i can share everything with my mom but not really with frends ...4 Mee alwyz familyz 1st

u is rat

mai apni mom se apne personal issues, matlab married life k issues ya kuch b share nai kerti. thora sa fasla hai najane kiu. aur na hi friends se kerti hu. per obviously wo mom hain to unhain to feel ho hi jata hai na. mai ziada tar aisi cheezain ya apne zaati issues khud mai hi daba k rakhti hu. ek do hi friends hain jinko batati hu. per sort out ker k lolz. kher, hunn kurriaan te mundeyaan nu sharm kerni chaidi ay te na showoff kero inko sochna chahiye k ek din ye b maan baap banenge to bhala kia ye chahenge k inke bache aise banain jese ye hain? i dont think so

True.... family ke sath tu time spend karna nahi chahhtay aajkal koi..

but yes some friends are very close sometimes closer then sisters or brothers,
tthen we also feel sharings things with best friend rather then family members.. aisa hota hai

ahan ,,, yee faliza Q hai maybe u fee shy or u r not very close to ur mom datsy u can't share ,,,i heard bhout se girls after married they don;t many things about there married life they think they don't wana give any tansion to thier parent baat tu achai hai per soemtime should share bez parent can give them many advice ..bez they hv a lot of life ' s exp

rahi baat ajj k ppl ki tu shad wo apni mistake apny bachou ma na deikna chay per i don;t think so this line just for few ppl who got many lesson from thier life they can do best owid thier children next

hmmmmmm true to nahin hay..........lakin hay aisa hi

friendz k zyada qareeb hain magar mere khayal se agar family k zyada qareeb hon tu insaan bohot sari mushkilon se bach jata hai agar family youngsters ki prob samjhen tu

aaj kal ke daur main DOST milna bohat mushkil hai

aur ager koi aesa dost ho to woh Family ka hissa hota hai

wel dost ache ho understading den zyada apni age group k saat close rehte hei

otherwise BOTH

btw hus dat in ur AVI @ LOW not nice pehle was much better

Its not necessory..its all depends parents and family traditions & values.
My all sisters & brother bacha party are very close to their family members and parents not friends.......

As for as I am concerned ,I considered myself among my friends very talkative and out spoken person and inspite of that very less talkative with my elder brother although I am very closer to him and all family member know it.
My parent have been passed away when I was too young but at that time also I was very closer to ammi and Aba jan aur apni sare shoq pore kerta tha.......
Thanks God I was blessed chaild and now blesses person.

depend kerta hai
ager kisi ko apni family sa care mila tu woh family sa hi atach rehta hai

ager kisi us ki family ignore kera orkoi friend us ki care kera tu woh usi sa atach ho ga na

true hai dear nowaday asa ho raha hai..

lolzzzzzzzzzzzz iss ka me ko bhout duk hai na he died

yes u r right apni age group ki baat theak hai but its not measn parent ko booll hee chay aor sab kuch jo hai bus wo serf frds hee hai

ohhh acha wel u neh chnge kar li infact u don't have a d.p now

well sahi kaha......mein jinna apni best frnd se share karti hoon woh kuch nahi hei... i mean zyada meri sisters ko pata hei mere barein mein wel me lil secerts nothing bad ..... n meri 3 couzins my chachas daughters bas i find my family more better...well i mean wen it comes to hanging around....having a laugh...n sharing baatein so n so...but frndz r always a option is well to do stuff wid dat doesn't mean if ur close to family ya frndz u knock or blcoc out the the other right
But for me i've aways been closer to my sisters den my frndz probarly b'coz we're always togehter ek saat utna bietna eating sleeping dinking but my sisters r aso ike my best.frnd's

But it is true....very true i've seen it wid my own eyes...n through my frnds how dey dnt give much attention 2 family but more to frndz

But me i wud say i get along wid nearly everyone ... wel most jo mujhe samajte hei i understand dem very well n i can talk 2 ne 1 but i wud never block or mpush my family 2 side jus b'coz i find my frndz more entertaining

Bte gr8 topic like always

thats truth!

u iz rat once again



tenshn nai lene ka bas dene ka


bas g mojaan maaro aish kero te ache bache bano baqi Allah hafiz hai humara

NICE ....asa hota hai soem frds like a sis/bro n we can share ,,,I think it shud be a gud combination of both.. coz our family members are our friends also

welsaid ...kash asa dost her kisi milay ajj kal k daur main ..People are closer to thier friends than family is cuz they can open up to them easily and share whatever is going on with them, since friends know what to say how to acknowledge
right

im always right

arey baqi ka bi kuch akrtay hai


wo bi theak ho jay ga majaan maarnay k saat saat

ahan dats treu asa bi hota hai ,,,I think it shud be a gud combination of both.. coz our family members are our friends also

Thx u like my topic and i like it u gave importance 2 ur famliy more than frds i beleive each relation hv thier own position and values ,,,,for me I seriously want both, but I would go with family because without them, I wouldn't even have learned how to walk and talk in the first place!

Nice topic life..

Well i guess this is happening in our society .. ke bachay frndz k sath rehna ziyada pasand karte hain.. banisbat ke family ke sath.. but its all due to no attention towards kids from parents.. jab bachay doston main jatay hian to har bacha apni society se aya hota hai.. n sab aik dusre ke tareeqe apna rahe hote hian... kahin main kum na lagoon.. ya woh ziyada na lage...... mere sath bhi asa hi tha.. coz main apni family se durr thi.. i hated my mom.. i didnt care about my sis n bro.. n i was much more close to my frndz.. i had so many frndz that i hardly remember their name but their ID was always a memory to me.. I was not getting attention from my family.. coz meri dono bari sis main 1 yr ka gap hia.. n they were used to be together.. jab main beth ti thi to woh dant deti theen.. ke baroon ki baaton main mat aao.. jab bhai ke sath khailti thi.. to kah dia jata tha.. larki ho.. khailne mat jao.. so mujhe attention nai mili bachpan se... but then due to this feeling i became sick... n it carried attention of my family.. they all started loving me.. taking care of me.. n now when i see myself.. am surrounded wid my family.. rather then my frndz.. n i dont have frndz anymore...

NIce ans dear .... Yeah, that's true. . But have to remember that friendship doesn't last as long as family

,,,it's normal. at this age, they will see their friends as they think they need friends more than family. they will realize this is wrong when something bad happen to them, which is when they will comeback to the family. but don't worry too much, it's just a life cycle.
in dats age AMAZING friends and they liek them to death, but i would die without my family and i am EXTREMELY CLOSE to my whole family! I am very lucky to have a family that loves and cares for me the way that they do but most of this generation is closer to their friends and i think that is because most teens parents/families just dont care, so teens get close to the people that actually care for them.

Sorry 2 hear that very sad

welsaid It’s totally depend ,,,but me Friends can't always be reliable.
yea some of them depend on thier friends much more than thier parents when it comes to fun or talking,
but some wouldn't be able to live without thier parents.

Well in my opinion I would say yes...
Because.... The technolgy (iPhone, Sidekick, laptops, iPods, etc.) is really killing people and youths wanna mainy show it to show of 'cool' kids in school so they can 'fit in' many ppl also have a bf or gf (boyfriend or girlfriend) which makes them spend more time with them instead with their family because during that stage of age they think many things are importnat except for family becuase they just expect things to happen but dont know the hard work, etc.

One can't ignore the importance of good friends.It is a saying that friends are more precious then your blood relatives ( brother & sisters etc) because friends ko hum khud choose kertey heyn jabkey brother n sisters are not by choice.

You cant campare friends with family members or parents..
Your parents ,brother n sisters aap ke bohat achey dost ho saktey heyn lakin phir bhi there are so many things which you can share only your dependable friends.

Bottom Line Freinds ki importance aur dependabilty apni jagah hey aur parents /family ki apni jagah.....

hmmm Nice topic
again it depends on your family
kuch families men aisa hota hai kay walden bachon say itne close nahe hotay there is always a gap between them.. wasay tou bhat acchay hotay hain apus men but us gap ke waja say bachay her chez apnay waldeen say share nahe kar patay .. even waldeen apus men bhee aik dosray say men wo gap rahta hai aur understanding honay kay bawajood aik kami se hoti hai jis ko door karnay kay lye wo dost ko dhotnay hain takay wo sub kuch share kar sakeen... jo kay us gap ke waja say apnay waldeen aur friends say nahe kar saktay.........

dosri side agar waldeen apnay bachon ko doston ke tarah rakheen tou un ka apus men relation bhe acha hota hai sath men bachon ka apus men bhe dosti zyda hoti hai .. jis ke waja say bachon ko bahar doston ke kam he zaroorat hoti hai coz ghar men he itna sub kuch hota hai kay bahar jakar kyon share kare.... tou end conclusion agar app kay family men apus men communication gap hai then tou app bahar he talash karo gey frinds for sharing but agar family he apus men close ho tou itne zyda zaroorat nahe parti

abb app is baat ko aisay kha loo kay ajkal ke young gernation ke waldeen say dosti kam hoti hai ya phir waldeen kay pass time nahe hota isi waja say wo frinds wagera men zyda buzy rahtay hain

yes right her relation ki apni place hoti hai we can't any relation with others relation .....

and some of them very close to thier frds and rest of them with thier famliy .....per if we hv thats frd who can close more than famliy then we wud be lucky ,,,,Close friends those who you are truly close to and play an important part in your life

Thanks

I am very lucky regarding friends..........I have always remain among my Loving and trustable/dependable friends.

I Love You my Friends.

hmm aisa hai to

but m much closer to ma family

aur is hi waja se baaz-auqaat nuqsaan bhi hota hai
kionke hum jisko dost samajh ke sab kuch share kar
rahe hain kal ko woh wese hi badal jaye?

dosti aesay hi nahin ho jati
bohat kuch karna parta hai
hum log bas har hath milanay walay
ko dost keh dete hain, thora sa hans ke
baat karli to dost hogaya koi?

is liye bara hi kheal rakhna chahiye

yea asa hota hai ajj kal .....its great famliy members bi frds hotay hai

aor famliy members frds ho tu is se bari baat kia ho sekti i think those r lucky who hv famliy's members frds

right yee tu hai ,,,haar hath milanay walay dost nahi hota frds wo nahi jis se serf hello hi ho dost tu hota hai jis se hum sadness/happinness anpi pro share kar seky asay dosy ka life ma hona zaroori hota hai wasy ...chay wo dost famliy se ho ya school college ki life se ,,,,


oar yee tu hota hai ppl change ...sometimes we can't understand and later we hurt ourself per hoti humari apni hee mistake hai

ys dats great,,,,,,,,,,, realy u r lucky who hv very nice/trustable/dependable frds

May Allah everyone get diz kinda frds

True Friends are blessing from Allah Myan ..........
isliey doston meri qader karo

...yes jee from ALLah
yes offcoures we r

very Nice welsaid real life se bhout gareeb u ki baat hai yee such hai iger parent /famliy app k close hai app k frds hai tu fir bhair kisi dosy ki zarooret nahi reiti bhout achi lagi yee baat per bhout kam asa bi hota hai ,,,as u said gap ki waja se thats true ,,wo parent to acahy hotay they care about everythink per wo dost nahi ban sakty hai close nahi ho baty hay

per jo close hotay hai they r lucky for wageei bahir k frds ki zarrret nahi reiti can sahre everythink

lagen jo parent se attach nahi hotay wo famliy k others members se close ho jatya hai like cusin aunti etc,,,,

Family & friends …hmhm nice topic …..well family ka jo rishtaa hota hai who qudrat ki dain hai…who tow God gifted hai aur jo dosti yaari ka rishta hai yeah hamra khuad ka paida kiyaa huawa rishta hai …..family Allah ka intekhab hai app k liey aur dost humara intekhaab hein …tow hum chosing mein unn logon ka intekhaab kerte hein which we prefer…. N which seems according to our nature,minds, views …etc …u can also break this relation at any time but families ka rishta torna bhi chaho tow nahin tor sakte yeah blood relation……


Kuch discussions mein generation gap ka tazkara kiya gaya hai …..very well said …….generation gap kia hai actually …….jab bacha chota hota hai in early childhood n further stages peh who her chiz ko maa baap ki nazron/point of view se daikhtaa hai …..jab youth mein aata hai tow her chiz ko apne point of view se daikhna chahta hai./…yeahi reason hotti hai clashes ki …..woh iss stage peh aa k un se agay berhnaa chahta hai ….question arises here what do teen agers/in youth period …..have in common……?......either they don’t understand them or stand the world around them or still worse, they don’t understand themselves y is it so,, simply bcoz young people undergo sudden changes …….kachi umer k jazbaat mein shiddat buhat hotti ha imager stability n maturity, nahin hotti un mein pukhtagi nahin hotti ….both mental n physical ….where they find the difficulties to cope with … it’s a time like this that they desperately look for on easy way out , and thus the weak ones, in their confusion ….they do/make lots of mistakes/errors….


Parents plays important n pivotal role for better development of the families …..basic pillars … but kissi bhi bache ki terbiet mein n proper mental, moral development mein basic role mother ka hota hai kuyn k father ko tow rozgar se bhi connected rehna perta hai n has to perform other such duities …or yeah bhi kaha jata hai k maa ki guad bache ki pehli darsgaah hotti hai….There is no doubt that a welfare society is totally based on prosperous families and every prosperous family depends on a mother who gives birth to the children, rears them with affection, preens their deportment , elevates their behavior, and makes them gud and moderate human beings. A committed and ideal mother ornaments her progeny with all gud manners such as luv of learnings, bashfulness, and at the same time warns them against inappropriate practices such as backbiting, slanging,lying, cheating, and abusing others ….n so on …A mother is really a unique blessing of Allah, hence, keeping in view the tremendous pnerous job of the mother, and the exalted status which Islam has conferred on her , the children must always remain on toes on entertain every wish and aspiration of the mother. They should shun all those activities which being tears to her eyes and make her allies of anxiety, suffering and depression ……


So in short ….parents n family ko priorities do ….un ki respect karo un se bayzaar nahin ho un ki naseehat suno n experiences se seek lo …BE OBEDIENT….maa baap ka kehna maanein un se agay nah chane ki koshish mein appna app khoo baithein ……sub se bara draw back yeah hai k pehle k logon k pass values thii …jin ko hum aaj gumgushtaa ker chukae hein ….be faithful to ur relations …..MAY ALLAH (SWT) KEE ALL OF US ON THE RIGHT PATH AND PROVIDE US WITH SUCCESS IN THE WORLD AS WELL AS IN HERE AFTER ….AMEEN…

(ANY RELATION BETWEEN TOW OR MORE PEOPLE WILL CONTINUE LONG IF THEY R WELL BEHAVED, BOTH SICERE TO EACH OTHER N DON’T HAVE PERSONAL BENEFITS…..)


BHASHAN HATAM HUAWA ........

u welcome
yep u'r right dono rite k alag alag position n values hei

han ho sakta hai wo family other members hon ya phir friends hon

To "Life" .............very nice topic......

n then Huma ....app ka reply boht acha hai......n wutever u wrote is truee......cuz this is wut we see around us these dayss.......n to tell u the truth.........i knww wut we hav to go through if we giv priority to anyone elsee more than ur family...........bahir wale not only ur friends.........koi bhi....app ke saath apke gher walon jitna mukhlis nahin ho sakta.......n they can't and wont be on ur side all the timee............lakin hum insaan bhi naa.....most of the times hum experience kerke seekhnay ko terjeeh datay hain instead of learnign from sum1z advice...........

I think donon ki apni apni importance hoti hay

waisay yeh sahi hay kay (most of the times) friends say humari frankness hoti hay aur woh humein ziada achi tarah samajhtay hain ...iss liyay jab humara mood kharab ho to friends say mil kar hum khush ho jatay hain ...yani friends humein apnay family members say ziada understand kartay hain ....aur banday ka time wahan ziada acha guzarta hay jahan us ki baat ko samjha jayay

leikin agar banday ki apnay family members kay sath achi understanding ho to phir wohi us kay friends bhi hotay hain aur us ko ghar mein time guzarna bore nahin lagta

well instead of saying that todays generation is close to FRIENDS it's better to say that now there is GAP in families. I am not using the word close 'caz in today's extremly fast growing culture where heads of family (mother, father) both are working hard to give LUXURIES to thier family and keep 'em self bz in office/business or in such kinda things .. children find 'em self IGNORED and as a result they find 'em self comfortable in gathering of friends.

One more thing, our society is heavily being influenced by western culture .. where children are totall independent at the age of 12-15 - where parents have no RIGHTS to ask what he is doing n WHY he is doing. so our culture is adopting such things .. chidlren here now feel AWKWARD to answer every question being asked by PARENTS but on the other hand they dun feel awkward if the same questions are being asked by their GIRLFRIENDs/BOYFRIENDS.

Parents are not giving enough time to their children to win their trust and children are not accepting parents invovling into their lives . the result is GAP! .. a great GAP ..

Mere Khayal main is main Qusoor youth ka itna nahi jitna un ke parents ka hai jin ke pass apne bachon ke liye time hi nahi.... So bachey family sedoor ho kar doston ke qareeb hotey hain.... Jab ham chotey they to hamain nahi yaad ke hamarey parents hamain tawajja nahi detey hon... Aj kal main dekhti hoon ke bachha school se aya aur atey hi Tv ke samney .... bachey ki tarbiyat maan baap se ziada media kar raha hai... jabkey mujhey achi tarah yaaad hai jab ham school se atey they to jab tak aik aik baat ammi aur daadi ko na batadain jab tak kaprey change nahi kartey they .... Yeh nahi ke ham ne freinds nahi banaye they per friends family se ziada important nahi ho saktey.. freinds ki apni importance hoti hai per family ko ignore karkey sirf freinds ko importance dena... mere khayal main munasib nahi.

right....app nay shi bola palay aor ab main bhout diffrence hai ..ajj k parent k pass time nahi hai apnay bacho k lay aor u r right nowaday chindren r attach with media,,,,,,TV /internet aor bus

or jaahn parent k pass time nahi ajj k chindren k paas bi time nahi hai inn ki tara tara ki activities apni life hai aor isi waja se wo payar nahi raha bez of this a hug gap b/t them

Ameen
welsaid parent do a moral role in chindren life even yhey can be a model for them
,,,,,,per apnay point of view ki waja se hee they think we know battar than parent and as u said kachi umer ki waja se bi they did mistake ,,,,,,,ans parent k relation ka compare frds se nahi ho sakta chay frds kitnay bi achay kayou na ho

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