Salaamz

bohut arsey baad MG main koi topic bana rahi hoon ... hope everyones doin fine ..

aik baat hai jo main aksar sochtii hoon .. jab bhi koi ajeeb-o-gareeb mohabbat k bhoot charhey logoon se baat hojaye ..

larkiaan blindly yaqeen kartii hain larkoon ki baatoo'n pe ... aur har limit cross karney ko tayar hoti hain .. kar bhi deti hain .. jaisse suicide attempts.. for their "luv" .. family se alag ho jati hain, maar dhaar bardasht kartii hain .. larkey bhi shayad yehi sab kartey hain ..


but family k against ja k shaadi karney main kis ki ghalatii hai ?? larki ki ya larkey ki?? ya phr puri family ki ...??

yeh jo filmi qisam ka pyar hota hay iss ka bhoot jald hi utar jata hay ........phir woh larka aur larki pachtatay hain
ghalti family ki bhi hoti hay kay woh jawab aulaad par zabardasti karna chahtay hain leikin kai baar barray sahi keh rahay hotay hain aur larka/larki ko apnay jazbaat ki waja say un ki baatein samajh nahin aateen aur woh koi ghalat step utha laitay hain

Mohabbat.. universal problem

ok serious answer,,,
aik baat tu sab ko mani pare ge, there is a *True Love* in this world
koi koi kareta hai aur pehchaan bhi kisi kisi ko hoti hai

chottay bachay tu emotional hottay hain, mistakes kartay hain
Lekin mature age meen agar 2 loog aik doosre ko apnane ka faisla karain
tu parents ko bhi unki baat samaj jani chahyee
aur uss ke results bhi achay hottay hain....

pasand se shadi karne meen koi harj nahi lekin apne parents ko zaroor har haal meen raazi kar lain,,
kyunke parents hi iss dunya meen hamare maalik hain (ALLAH ke baad)
But but but,,
kabhi bhi kisi ko shadi ka wada kar ke ya shadi ke khaab dekha kar raastye meen nahi chorna chahyee

haan baat sahi hai ke larkiyan apni so call mohabbat ko pane ke liye kafi kuchh bardasht karyi hain kahin kahin larke bhi kar jate hain.

ab kasoor kiska??

zahir hai maa baap apne bachon ka bura to hargiz nahin chahenge na.. is liye woh sakhti karte hain..

aksar aisa dekha jata hai ke love marriage zyada kamiyab nahin hoti.. jisko shaadi se pehle paane ke liye din raat ek kar dete hain wohi shadi ke baad ghar ki murgi daal baraber ho jati hai.

welsaid jazbaat ki waja say un ki baatein samajh nahin aateen

well I must say that there should be ''limits'' in each n every thing , as u mentioned k larkiyaan n larkay har limit cross kar daitay haain./... chahay who physical hu emotional hu that completely un-acceptable....
I think if the family is not ready for merriage even then gal n guy should make a boundry that we will try upto this extent , if the family doesn't agree then we will quit our decision , b/c jis family k sath u hve spent 20-25 years they hve a Right upon u also..

Other thing which is v important from parents point of view : as per teachings of ISLAM , kids should get married after their puberty as soon as possible when u find a suitable person for them. and during the time period of puberty and their ''delayed'' marriage if they commit any sin (which is becomming v common now a days) then the parents will be equally responsible for that b/c of delaying their marriage.

thanks for appreciating

aur os ghalat step main ... parents na chahtey hove bhi giv up kar k support karney lag jaatey hain .. but afta a lil while ... yeh bhoot bhi utar jata hai aur new problems shuru ..

dun u think the gal who does dis .... has to go thru alot .. cuz mostly larkey k parents naraz hotey ahin aissi blunt harkatoo'n se aur jeena mushkil kar dete hain .. wheras larkey shaadi kar k barey sakoon main samjahtey hain k conquer kar lia sab kuch ... wat afta dat?

well dat true ...

but ppl in their 20z do such things... aur yehi normally age hai shaadi ki i guess ... parents ko to ro dho k koon raazi nahien kar sakta??

larkiaan - jo main ne khud daikha hai - wrist kaat lain gi ... tablets kha lain gi ... kaheen se bhi jump kar k khud ko nuksaan pohoncha lain gi .. n sum guyz do dat too ..

kya karain jab koi sochta hi nahien ahi ?? ... i wonder wat "true luv " even means to sumbody .... daikha aur dil main kuch kuch ho ?? is dat it ? or is it wen u start likin sum person for wateva reason..

its hard to define dis .. n the boundries ov it ... dun u think so??

soo true ..

u can neva knw how a person is like before marriage.. or before u actually start livin in the same house .. chahe 10 saal se kyun na jantey hoon !!

i truly agree wid u here.... but the thinig is ... 20-25 yrz se jo saath main hotey hian on ka koi nahien sochta... jo sirf 20-25 din saath hotey hain on k liye loog marney ko tayar hotey hain ..

there is no such thing as boundry accordin to alota ppl who fall in luv ( tho i back u up completly on ths) .. they dun c a " how to " or a " quit or change decision" thing .. its juz u get it or not .. n how far u can go wid it ..

wat say?

Very Good post

Waise ap ki aisi posts aur kuch mere jaison ke reply se log hamain kahin dil jala na samajhney lagain

Now back to topic

Main to samajhti hoon koi bhi mohabbat Family ki mohabbat se barh kar nahi hoti ... Mohabbat to ap ko AUR bhi mil jaye gi per family dobara nahi miley gi (agar ap apni life un ko bypass karkey guzarna chahtey ho)

Jahan tak ghalti ka sawal hai to of course sab se pehley to larka/larki ki ghalti hoti hai ke woh jis family main bachpan se reh rahey hotey hain to wahan ke tour tareeqon se,, apni limits se achhi tarah agaah hotey hain to phir aisa qadam uthatey hi kyun hain ke mukhalifat ka saamna karna parey.

Jab sr pe parti hai na to sab mushkilaat ka ehsaas hota hai aur us waqt koi APNa nahi hota ap ki help ke liye... Phir reh jata hai ke

"Ab pachtaye kiye howat.. jab chiryan chug gayin khet"

Thats the point

sacha pyar aaj kal bohat hi kam hota hai, aaj kal bas 2 min
main koi kisi ko acha lag jata hai aur uski koi choti si achi baat
bhi bohat achi lagne lag jati hai, wese aik baat aur bhi hai aaj kal
ziada tar mohabbat THOPRA dekh ki hoti hain, na ke aik dosre ko samajh ke

aur ager pyar sacha hai to bhi family main bat karni chaiye
na ke unke khilaaf chala jana chahaiye, family zaroor support karegi,
aur yeh suicide jesi harkatain wahi log karte hain jo kuch nahin kar sakte

pehle ager woh family se ijazat lete hain aur family main
ager zaaat paaat ko samne rakh dia jaye jese ke hota hai
ke hum is zaaat se hain hum nahin karengay us larke ya larki se

to family ke against bhi chala jana chaiye mere kheal se.

mere khayal se tu parents ko allow kerna chaye pasand ki marrige ko cuz aage unko zindagi guzarni hai

agreed.. family is v important... for me I can't take a step that can make my parents unhappy with me... whats left in life if parents r not happy with someone.....

Boundry is important for me...... what that means is ---- try ur best,. try to discuss the issue with parents. can do argument but still under the limits of their respect. but when u think that the relations will be affected permanently if I take another step then thats the time to quit from 'love' for the loved ones who have taken care of us for our whole life.

agar parents larki/larkay ki baat maan lein aur proper tareeqay say un ki shadi karwa dein to phir bhi better hay us situation say jahan larka/larki ghar say alag ho kar shadi karein.......jab larka/larki ki marzi say parents shadi karwa dein gey tab ba'd mein parents unhain keh saktay hain kay tumhari hi pasand thi aur phir most of the cases mein adjustment ho hi jati hay

aur haan larki wali baat tumhari thik hay kiyunke sari zindagi to larki nay dosray ghar mein ja kar guzarni hoti hay iss liyay usay kisi larkay say impress ho kar jazbaat mein faisla nahin karna chahiyay bulke logical tareeqay say sochna chaiyay ......in fact shadi aik juwa hi hoti hay chahay love ho ya arrange .....kiyunke asal mein sab logon ki nature ka ussi waqt pata chalta hay jab larki ko nayay ghar mein zindagi guzarni parrti hay

Good topic and thoughts provoking effort

I do agree with Respected Noreena, Tihami and Kind Seemaf

In addition I must utter that society is responsible for the same too

The parents, boys and than girls or some times girls

If things are set on a track and every thing is going accordingly than its not easy to get detracted

Media is playing a larger role for the same also .. here parents are responsible ... they must track children to the right side

Additionally, in childhood ... they must not only get blind in love of children and drive them on the right directions because at that age it is only possible

As we know, its a male dominated society.

Our Deen (Way of Living) tells us about rights and wrongs and suitable times for every thing.

If being muslim, we just adopt this unavoidable system than there will be no complaints left.

I will say again combination of rights and obligations, If children and parents use there rights and perform there duties than also there will not be any problem.

Islam has given freedom of choice, but it is not allowed to love some one and have a relation before marriage. Seeing, touching, talking, hearing a non mehram is not acceptable, than what more is needed to be described.


For liking Islam has given a Methodology and expressed contents for the same. Lines are already drawn and we just have to walk by them.

I will end by saying this that in a situation where you are alone with a devil it becomes only your responsibility to handle the situation, results will be according to your decisions, your parents or friends will get to know after a long time. Devil is girls to boys and boys to girls. And responsible will be boy or girl or both in this scenario.

KJ ki baat sy hi kuch kahna chahuun ga... like islam isi liyey hukm deta hai k Larky/Larki ki shaadi jald az jald kar deni chayey... aisa na karnay sy mu'aashray main bigaar paidaa hoga... but jin halaat ka aj kal hamain samna hai us main aisa karna mumkin nahi kahin tu wasayeil nahi aur kahin traditions aisa jald honay sy roktii hain ya aur aisay bht sy masayeel hain jo aisa mumkin nahi honay detay... hum apny ird gird nazar duhrayain tu ajj kayee aisi misaalain miltiin hain k larkyaan mehaz apny parents ka bhojh aur un ko zehni preshaani sy azaad karnay k liyey khud koi faisla kartiin hain...

her insaan zindagee main aik aisay daur sy guzarta hai jab usay kisi dosray k saath aik baham understanding ki zaruurat partii hai... aur isii time per insaan ya tu bht kamzoor parr jata hai aur koi ghalt faislaa kar jata hai aur ya in the end is daur sy insaan bht mazboot ban kar nikalta hai...

to me i think in most of the cases only boy n girl are responsible for all the damages done amongst the families...

aap ki baatain / Islamic rules.. pathar per lakeer hain

iss ke bawajood kabhi kabhi situation ajeeb si ho jatti hai..

i know a girl,,, she knew a person from many years, just like that (normal jaan pehchaan)
sudenly he proposed her, his parents met her parents
she also favored him and baat pakki ho gayee
then for almost a year. she kind of loved him, he also cared alot
then sudenly his parents mind was changed, unho ne sab khatam kar diya
aur uss admi ne bhi aram se keh diya "Main majboor hoon, main kuch nahi kar sakta"

ab iss meen kis ka qasoor hua, girl guy or parents ???

Thanks

array 20 tu achi khasi age hai, 20s meen koi bacha nahi hota
yes.. i think parents ko raazi kiya ja sakta hai, roo kar, payar se ya zidd se
aur parents raazi ho bhi jattay hain... but agar patta ho ke they are too hard
aur family set up bhi aisa nahi tu aisa kaam karty hi kyun hain ...jis ka result itna dreadful ho!!!


aur true love ke baare meen phir kabhi bataaon ge

If u'r going against den dat means k shyd he/she neh discuss nahi ki hei apne ami abu s k baat yeh hei y phir bas unhe already pata hei k ami abu won't agree isliye they go agains
I mean ek baar if u ell shyd gusa karenghe k yeh woh kisi ko like karte ho i mean it's not a nice thing lekin i'm sure baad mein they will agree afterall u'r parents wana c u happy

so going against i n't really no hu's fault it wud b :s
But u shudn't hide wat ur doing b'coz dats wrong

Yepp! it is the age
+ u'r right girls n boys do do all dat harm them selves i've seen it happen to were the girl wasn't happy so she took tablets but agreed anyway to keep her family happy

dil jala samjhey ya nahien par dil jaloo'n ki awaz zaroor samjhain ge ..


baat too sahi hai k baad main pachtava hota hai .. lekinall i wanna knw is k yehi soch pehley kyun nahien sochtey ???

aissa kyun hota hai k loog blindly yakeen kar lete hain kissi aisse insaan pe jo barely 2 ya 8 months ya 10 saal se mila ho ???

i knw alotta gals jinhooon ne itni stupid harkatain ki hain jis ki hadhh nahien .. aur i knw guyz jinhoon ne court marraige ya family se lar jhagar k shaadi to kar li .. lekin is ka asar on ki behenoo'n pe hoaa - jo gher se bhaag gaiin chor dakuu k saath ...

whos to blame?????

kya baat hai ap k khayal ki !!

so ur tryna say .. k jis ma ya baap ne bachpan se ajj tak har khuwaish puri ki hai .... on k against chaley jana chahiye kissi assi bandi k liye jo ap ko recently mili hoo???

kaise andaza kar saktey ho ap k WOHI hai is duniya main jo ap ko samajhti hai???

normal kissi se milney ja'ain too zahiri si baat hai set ho k jaatey hain .. lekin agr gf ya bf se milne jana ho - beshak relationship 10 saal purani kyun na ho - ap double set ho k jaoo ge ... jab tak kissi k saath raha na jaye os ki achi buri qualities ka kabhi pata nahien chalta...

family se lar lo ... suicide attempt bhi kar loo .. ( since woo bhi zid pe hi rahein ge k nahien karni shadi os larkey ya larki se) ... phr kya??? baad ki zindagi ka socha hai ??? ya shadi karney k baad sab kuch happy-go-lucky ho jaye ga?

pasand ki mariage karna too diff baat hai ..

idher baat ho rahi hai "luvers" ki jo agr kissi hadhh se na guzrain to on ka luv .. luv nahien hota ..

wat say?

well said ...

i hope everyone thinks like dis ! phr too koi problem hi nahein honi ..

agr adjustment ho jati kashif too itney divorce kyun hoti ?? luv marriages itnii fllop kyun hoti??

ap ne jo baatain kahii... r ideal thougts n xactly how things r suppose to b ... but unfortunatly .... human beings dun act accordin to nythin gud for long ..


parents trackin their kids in now considered suffocating n space-killin :S ..

KJ temme wat u think ... cuz while i was makin dis topic .. i had the xact same thing in mahh mind as u stated.. like the correct way ov doin stuff... but since nobody follows it now ( atleast the young generation as much ) ... temme abt how u wud react to a situation like dis ..

mera reaction too bara bura hot ahai .. i mite end up killin the person :$

well said ..

i'd say its the influence ov the west aswell dat makes one go against their families..

i'll reply to the rest in sumtime ..

mere khayal se bhi 20z main koi bacha nahien hota .. par kya itna bara hota hai k aaaney wali zindagi ka faisla khud karey widout the help ov parents jo 40z ya 50z main hian ???

chaloo bataoo true luv .... ajj pata chal hi jaye mujhe bhi

wat if parents dun like sumbody cuz they knw u wun b happy wid him latr .... n the person u luv says " u got no guts ... bewafa ho tum " .. phr kya??? which side wud u go? n whos fault wud dat b??

tablets kha k man'na hi tha too .. y'd she wanna do dat nywyz???

you are right

There is no solution other than adopting the stated system
its difficult becoz we have made it ... and it can be rectified only by personal effort
If some body thinks that there is some other way out than ... Its just liking fooling own self


My Reaction

If such thing is happening than i will not blame a single party ... its a mutual act and both are responsible for consiquences ...
If some body will fool me ... I will consider it my own fault rather blaming the other ... If it is related to me ... I have to be responsible to judge the situation and take the decesion ... for my own decesions I cant blame others
So

I will forgive ... and will try to overcome the situation and will just go through my mistakes and will rectify the shortcomings ... I have learnt to live with problems and finding the solutions ...

For me also, life is a stage and people come play there roles and move

Hmm parent's do say dat alot n sumtimes der right sumtimes der wrong but at the same time the boy can luv u n u can b happy wid him
it is a hard thing
u can't jus answer it like dat
i duno 2 b honest :S

well she realy lovd dat guy but she had to get maaried in the family b'coz it was always said like dat so she didnt approve but later married him

haan shayd aaj kal kay daur mein bardasht khatam ho gayee hay jo talaq tak baat pohanch jati hay
flop to waisay koi bhi marriage ho sakti hay arrange wali bhi

INDEED A VERY HOT TOPIC ON A VERY 'HOT & SENSITIVE ISSUE',, I APPERCIATE THIS EFFORT.

Janab aap (sab) se aik related sawal hai ke ager kisi case maiN (let's suppose) laRka laRki ghar se bhag ker shadi ker latey haiN to is situation ka kiya hal (solution) hai ??

LaRki ya laRkey ke parents rukawat baney hoey haiN aur laRka/laRki bhi apni zid per aRey hoey haiN, then what are the options?

paa g mera tou khyal hai k pyar wohi sacha hai jiss main damm ho means k app main honsla ho aur apka pyar iss kabil ho k app usko apne parents se milva sako ye kya g bhaag k shaadi karna bakwaas ... aaise log kabhie khush nahi rehte ... c hum sab ne bhi tou aik din parents bananah hai aur ager hum k bache karien tou humko kitna dukh hoga ... u knw yara last days jab Fathers day tha I cried a lot aur mene buht shukker kia ALLAH ka ... cuz me jab apne friends ko wish karne lagi tou meky buht se friends aaise jin k fathers abb nahi rahe ... I came downstairs n hug my abu g n said sorry k mese kabhie koi ghalti ho gayi hai tou maaf kar dena n unko buht duaein dien [abu hairan thy k me senti kyun ho gayi] really meko b nahi samajh aata k aaise koi inni pali si life ko khatam karne ka kese soch leta hai ... dekho ju deserving nahi hai woh nahi milna tou rouna kesa ... ALLAH g ne itni pyari lyf di hai bhaar main dalou unko n khush raho n ALLAH ka shuker adda karo ... Parents hain tou sab kuch hai ... rahi hubby ki baat tou woh ju kismat main hoga mil jana hai ... aur realy acha hi hoga inni tension kyun leni ... kya girls larke bhi buht stupid hote hain hunh

Nice n thoughprovoking answer..

1) Laken aik aur factor bhi hai, is mess/problem ko creat kerney ka:

That's the "Governament policy" (which abviously reflects into media)

For example, Musharraf ke period maiN is trah ke jitney waqiyat hoey , us ki tedaad pahley se ziayada hai, why ?

Reason was: Musharraf's liberal/secular policies.,, he ammended Hodood's ordinence

Hudood ordenece main tarmeem ki wajha se laRka /laRki maiN police ka khouf khatam ho giya

And media was very ultra free in Mushy's period (and still it is)..

2) Second factor, movies /dramas (media hai),, bolliwood se hollywood aur lollywood tak yehi story nazar aati hai

Magazines aur newspapers inhi khbrooN aur stries se bharey hoey haiN

Aur humari nojawaan nasal ye sab kuch baRey shouk se sun aur paRh rahi hai !!

3) Third factor maaN baap ka loose control aur aulad se ghaflat hai,,,

Sometimes parents don't care about the moral education / training of their childeren

They simply ignore their kids and result will come very terrible !!

Early marriage is a good solution but that's not the only solution

Parents / teacher should taech moral / Islamic vlaues to the new generation,,

jab larka/larki extreme step utha laitay hain yeni court mein ja kar shadi kar laitay hain tab ghar walon ko unhain qabool kar laina chahiyay .......kiyunke agar aik kaam ghalat ho chuka ho to usay mazeed ghalat steps say ya ghussay say sahi nahin kiya ja sakta. agar woh donon apna qanoni haq istamal kartay huway aik doosray ko apna hi chukay hain to behtar hay kay un ko apni zindagi normal tareeqay say jeenay ka mauqa diya jayay aur muaf kar diya jayay

Depends, kuch loog tu bohat mature ho jattay hain, achay faisly kar saktay hain

but but.. na tu bachoon ko akeely koi faisla karna chahyee,, na hi parents ko koi faisla un per impose karna chahyye.. Perents kisi solid reason ke sath bachy ki choice ko reject kar saktay hain lekin fazool si zidd kar ke bachoon ki khushi kharab nahi karna chahyee


True love:
Abhi nahi bata sakti, abhi meri research complete nahi hui lekin ye hotta zaroor hai ok

Aap ki baat drust,, laken baaz uqat 'jahalat ya jhooti anaa' insan ko ye faisla nahi kerney deti... laRki / laRkey ko (maafiyaN maangney ke bawjood bhi) un ke walidain ma'af kerney ke liye tayyar nahi hotey,,, balkeh donooN khaNdan apis maiN dushmani mool le latey haiN auir baat thanooN aur kachahriooN tek pohnch jati hai....ya qatal-o-gharat tek !!

ji haan woh to main nay apnay khyalaat ka izhar kiya tha kay aisa kar laina chahiyay

leikin asal mein to jahalat kay aisay aisay muzahiray yahan hotay hain kay bas ........jo kuch aap nay kaha yaqeenan aisa hi hota hay humaray yahan...... jis par nihayat afsos hota hay

Intentions are to Actions, Intentions can be changed Rather Actions taken will bring results

Mangani iss baat ka paishkhaima haiy k shadi hogi
Laikin Mangani Shadi ki Zamanat nahi hoti hamaisha

Mangaitar bhi GhairMehram hain jaisiay doosraiy loog hain

Mai naiy buhat si mangniyaan tootati daikhi hain ... Aur aksar isski waja Mangani k baad honaiy walaiy Awamil hotaiy hain
Yani yeh samajh liya jaata haiy k jaisaiy shadi ho hi gayee
Yeh aik buhat bareek nukta haiy ... Mangani k Baad Jab tak shadi naa ho jayeh buhat ehteyat ki zaroorat haiy

Abb iss Qisaiy mai jo aapnaiy bataya haiy
Ho sakta haiy kissi ka bhi kasoor naa ho ... yeh bhi ho sakta haiy k sabka kasoor ho
Yeh to wohi bata sakta haiy Jo k har pehlo saiy poori tarha ba khabar haiy
Kuch to baat hogi jo bunyaad bani hogi ... Khair ALLAH sabko apni rehmat k sayeh mai rakhaiy

Kiya aap yeh poochna chah rahaiy hain k Maa Baap ki Hukam adooli karnaiy par Kiya karna chahiyeh ?

Simple si baat haiy Jab bacha ghalti karta haiy to parents kiya kartaiy hain ?

Ghalti par depend karta haiy k kiss kadar sangeen haiy .... Anjanaiy mai hoi to maaf kar di jaati haiy ... Ghalti saiy ho gayee to thora ghussa ho k maaf kar diya jaata haiy ... Nafarmaani ho to achi khasi pitai bhi ho jaati haiy ... phir dair sawair maafi ho jaati haiy

Mai iss liyeh keh sakta hoon k Mujhaiy aaj bhi bachpan mai pari maar aur peyaar yaad haiy

Ghalti aur Gunah mai farq hota haiy ... Aisaiy hi kuch ghaltiyaan na qabil-e-maafi hoti hai'n

Qanoon Jo saaza daita haiy uska maqsad sirf gunah-gar ko takleef nahi balkaiy maashraiy ko sabq bhi hota haiy ... go k kuch maafi ki gunjaish rakhti hain

Marzi saiy Shadi ... Hargiz Gunah nahi haiy ... balkaiy buhat pasandeeda amal haiy ... Aur isski koi saza Islam nai nahi di

Albata Larki ka Wali Uska baap hota haiy ... Uski Ijazat ko buhat Zaroori samjha gaya haiy

Aapko kiya lagta haiy Bhaag kar shadi karna kaisa haiy ??? Aur bhaga kiss saiy aur kiyon jaata haiy ???

Kiya aik Larkaiy ya Larki ki mohabat Maa Baap Khandan saiy bari hoti haiy ???

Wah!!!
kiya mohabat haiy ... Jo Wasal ki Chahat mai ... apni khushiyaan hasil karnaiy k liyeh ... koi bhi qeemat chuka daiti haiy

Aur Mohabat to nikhaar laati hai ... yeh kaisi Mohabat haiy

Aapnaiy Zid aur Rukawat ka zikar kiya ... Kiya Mohabat Zid haiy ? Ya Maa baap ka peyaar bachoon k liyeh Rukawat haiy ?

Khair Jaisiay Sheesha toot kar jurta nahi ... diloo'n mai aayee darar kabhi bharti nahi... Bharni paraiy to bari mehnat karni parti haiy ...

Iss Silsilaiy mai kiya karna chahiyeh yeh to nahi jaanta magar Daikha haiy Maa Baap ka Anmool peyaar k phir bhi Qabool kar laitaiy hain

Naa bhi karain to kiya burai haiy ... Agar Owlad ko apnaiy faislaiy ka Haq haiy to Maa Baap kiyoon bound rahai'n ?

Maaf Kar daina Afzal haiy ... Aur Islam Sila Rehmi aur Rishtaiy jooraiy rakhnaiy ka Hukam daita haiy

Well explained..

Kuch batooN ki wazahat kerna chahta hooN:

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Albata Larki ka Wali Uska baap hota haiy ... Uski Ijazat ko buhat Zaroori samjha gaya haiy

Mohtram, ager kisi case maiN baap ki marzi shamil ho, laken maaN rukwat ban jai (bila wjha) to kiya kia jai ?

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Aapko kiya lagta haiy Bhaag kar shadi karna kaisa haiy ??? Aur bhaga kiss saiy aur kiyon jaata haiy ???

maiN ne sawal ye uthaya tha ke ager koi joRa (jazabat maiN) bhag ker shadi ker leta hai to us ka hal kiya hai ??

Kiya unhaiN ma'af kiya jai ? ya unahiN un ke haal per choR dia jai ?

Yaqeenan ye noobat nahi aani chaiye... aur bhaga kiouN jata hai ye aap mujh se behtar jantey haiN !

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Kiya aik Larkaiy ya Larki ki mohabat Maa Baap Khandan saiy bari hoti haiy ???

Farz kariN ke maaN ya baap main se koi AIK nahi maan raha (jab ke doosra maan chuka hai), to kia kiya jai ??

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Mangni se ye samjha jata hai ke shadi zaroor ho jaye gi
koi ye kahan sochta hai ke dosra banda badal jaye ga..jabke uss banday ne poora poora yaqeen bhi dilaya hoo
Ehtiyat tu hoti hi hai.. lekin Feelings bhi koi cheez hotti hain aur attachment bhi!!!
ye koi switch tu hai nahi ke ON ya OFF kar liya jayee...

aur uss qisse meen baat ye hui thi ke Larkay ke parents ko koi Rich family nazar aa gaye thi,, aur unho ne larkay ka mind bhi change kar liya (Amazing mind change ho bhi gya)...
kisi ki bad'duain le kar kya mill jaye ga un loogoon ko

uss larki per ALLAH ki Rehmat hoo................