IS IT RIGHT TO HAVING A BOY FRIEND/ GIRL FRIEND ..............N NO DOUBT THESE DAYS KUCH LOGON K ITNAE HEIN K COUNTING BHI MUK JANDI AYE ..... ........?

KINDLY PLZ DONT FORGET TO DROP UR COMMENTS

Maghriki teazeeb k baat karay gi to ans ap ko pata hi hoga.... waha ye sub chalta hai.. lakin agar mashriki tezeeb ki baat ki jaay to yahan aisa koi concept nahi...

aik family main czns main to frndship hoti hai ya phir class fellows se...

class fellows hun ya office colleagues hun ye frnds list main usually aty nahi..

ghair baat sirf inni si hai k.. boys boys se frndship rakhain n gals gals se...

i agree h u.....
girls girls se frendship rakee.....boys boys se

in our culture we don;t feel its important

per now time changed ajj k loc don't like this kinda thinks ..but i beleive Time change nahi hohaa..

zabardsti kiha jah raha hai...

Turkey ko EU main entry nahi mil rahi... Turkey khud ko bohot roshankhiyaal country sabit karnay ki koshish kar raha hai aor yahan tak k waha scarf tak par pabandi laka di gayee...

Baat yee hai k... maghrib apni tezeeb zabardsti hum par muselet kar rahah hai.. aor ju loc is baat ko nahi manty un ko kaha jata hai k ab time change ho gaya hai khud ko badlo... yee kiya baat hoi.. apni teazeeb apna culture hi chorr dain..

ye sirf khaam khiyali hai...
khud ko tasali dainay wali baat hai k time change ho gaha hai..........

chalain ji u r absolutly right ...but i also having another example ........just check it out ........first question app k rply se occurs in my mind ......is that keh KYA ISLAM KAA TAJWEEZ KERDAH BAA-PERDAH/HIJAB aurat ki taraqi/progress mein hurdles laa raha hai rukawatein paida ker raha hai .....??..................yeah sawal mein search ker rahii thii kafi time se mein app ko bharat/INDIA ki example deti hoon wahan ek state hai 'kayralah' jahan muslim khawateen hijaab pehan ker zindagi k different professions mein busy hein ....aur day-to-day increasing ho rahi hai un ki taadad mein .... for exmple in India mein ek distict hai "MALA POOR" Jahan most of the women r doing job in wearing hijab....n politicians also ......inn khawateen ne sabit ker diyaa hai keh libaas aur islamic wearing un ki progress mein rukawat nahin ban sakti .....n set the examples 4 others .... doctor se lay ker taxi driver tak woh apni jobs perfectly ker rahi hein ... BEGUM QAMER-UN-NISAA ANWAAR aik social worker hein ...DOCTOR JAMILAH MANSOOR (MEDICAL COLLEGE PROFESSOR).... ...N SO ON.... MUSLIM LEAGUE KI HEAD/SERBARAH JO HEIN QAMER-UN-NISAA ANWAR ....HIJAB PEHNTII HEIN SAKHT TANQEED K SAMNA KIYA PER SABIT QADAM RAHII HEIN .... woh president hein jub mein ne research kiya tow patah chala keh 1976 mein un se kissi ne behass kii woh aik medical officer christen lady thii keh madam app ne yeah kiyaa ghair muhazib libass pehn rakhaa hai tow unhonn ne jawab diya keh


" tum batao keh "mother treeza" keh libaas mein kyaa kharabi hai , woh apne hathon aur chehron k siwaa poora jism dhanp ker rakhtii hein .....bilkul aisa he libass mein pehntii hoon ? aur woh lady ko laajawab ker diyaa .................

..but question arises yeah sub dhakosaly/aur critisizm sirf muslim ladies k liey he kuyn .... her koi muslmaan aurat k libaas k khilaaf kuyn hai jub keh kaitholick rahbarayein aab bhi baa heyya libaas pehne nazer aati hein .....daikhaa jaye tow Islamic libaas mein aik aurat zaida mehfooz nazer aati hai ..............

.per last point .....ISLAM MEIN JISS CHIZ SE MAANAH KER DIYA CHAHE WOH AURAT HO YA MERD WOH MANNAH HE HAI USS K LIEY HER SURAT MEIN AUR MUMAANAT BHI .............TOW PHIR NO THIS N THAT ......EVERYTHING COMES FROM WESTERN CULTURE MAKES US DAZZLES ...................WOH HUMEIN CULTURE KI MAAR DAY KER VALUES KO KHAZAM KER RAHAY HEIN .....RELIGION TOW HAI HE HIT POINT PER ....

BUSH NE KAHA THA WE DONT WANT A WAR WITH ISLAM , BUT WE WANT TO A WAR IN ISLAM ...........
...........HEYYA HE AURAT KAA ASLI ZEWER HAI JO KHOO CHUKA HAI .....UN KO DAR HAI K ISLAM AUR MUSLIMS UN PEH GHALIB AA JAIN gey TABHI WANNA KILL THEM DIRECTLY N INDIRECTLY ....UN K TOW CULTURE KA PART HAI PER HUM KYA KER RAHEIN HEIN KHUAD K SATH ....KIYAA YEAHI UMMAT HAI JISS KO SUB SE AFZAL UMMAH KA LAQAB NAWAZA GAYA .

[b]discussion kafi interesting chul reha ha

yah ap 2 Q smaniye attaye hai

regarding frndship & hijab....

let me clear n opn.. agr kisi ko burra luggay to sorry .... coz sab kiay views diff hotaye ha.. agr hum islam kiay point of view say dakhiye to no doubt nt allow.. pur in dinno jo trend ha .. mujhay ik banda batta daiye jis ki koi frnd na ho. evn jo yah pur comment diaye rehay ha un logo ki apni list mei majority girls ki ho gi ya grilsnay agr commnts diaye rahi ha to guys r definat in their list... so yar be opn.. jo ha wo ha...

boy frnd .... mei ap kiay cusion bi inlcud ho jate ha aur office collegs bi... ye kiya baat hoiye jah hum nay apni facility dakhi woha thora narum purr gaye ha... islam to ye bi bolta ha kiay cusion (na mahrum) say parda kuro.. tu hum un logo ko kasay frnd bna sukatye hai...

simpl thng.. baat trend ki ajkul kiay envirnnt ki ha.. jis mie hum survive kur rehay ha.. n v cant move .. i m working girl.. ap kiay office mei jub majority guys ki ho gi to ap agr dub jaiye gi to ap to gaye kam say... ik limit mei rehatye ho apnay waqar ko qaim rukhatye hoiye humaye chulna purrta ha.. hum iss society say ulg naih rah sukatye... n wid blessing of Allah m very sucessful... miri list mei boys bi ha girls bi ha.. but v know our limits...

ab rah gaye baat hijab ki... i agreed wid fatima... agr ap kurna chaiye to ap kur sukatye ha.. agr koi iss bat ko reaosn bnata ha to ye theek naih ha
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I think ''boy friend'' and friendship with boys is different in non-muslim countries.. Boyfriend/Girlfriend means k woh larka/larki jis k sath woh rahtay haain........ though in their social life there are a lot of friends from opposite gender. so PAKISTAN main us tarah k boyfriend/girlfriend tu ALLLAH ka shukar hay k abhi tak nahen haain... haan friendship zaroor hay... jaisay apnaay sath kaam karnay waloon say, class fellows say..... n jis cheeze ko PAK main Boyfriend/girlfriend kaha jaata hay woh I think when they say that they r in love with eachother......

agreed... acha explain kiya pp nay


pur

dr. shb.. 2nd walye answer say agree naih...wo agr invlove na bi o tub bhi concept ye hi ha... bas do logo ko sath daikh liya to jhut say bol diya kiay b/ gril frnd ha ye to...

ji woh tu daikhnay waloon ka concept hoaa na.. ju boy/girl haain un say tu pooch laain...

though in their social life there are a lot of friends from opposite gender. so PAKISTAN main us tarah k boyfriend/girlfriend tu ALLLAH ka shukar hay k abhi tak nahen haain... haan friendship zaroor hay... jaisay apnaay sath kaam karnay waloon say, class fellows say..

4 ur kind information this is also happening in pakistan thats y i selected that topic ...20 saal ki lerki hoon mein apni he age k logon ko aisa kerte daikha hai ..n university going bhi .........aaj kal specially teen agers mein yeah trend hai ...western culture ki chaap lag chuki hai jo deemak ki terah pakistan se sherm-o-heyya aur mazhub ko khaa rahi hai .....woh aisi herkatein ker rahay hein in net cafes .....n differnt gathering areas mein .....jo naqibl-e-yaqeen n uff ....what more can i say app kiss waqat ka ziker ker rahay hein aaj se 20 saal pehle ki baat ker rahay hein shayed .....kuch universities n colleges mein offing n spare time zara visit kerye n get together mein phir patah chaly gaa ....what the hell is going on there ............teak hai co-education mein friends hotay hein but tv n cable media ....aur western culture ne tehzeeb n limits he khatam ker di hein ......well dont mind that mein ne jo observe kiya wohi likhaa hai .....

im also the part of this society ..........not pretending to better than anyone ....mein bhi unhi logon kaa hissa hoon ........per ek question aur ubhertaa hai ek lerke ki jitni merzi girl friends hoon jo merzi ulta seedha kerta rahy humari society mein yeah show off kehlata hai .. punjabi mein ek word hai wadyyai ....je uss ki itni girl friends hein etc but maayoub nahin samjh jaata per ek lerki university cafeteria mein beshaq bhai samjh k kissi se baat ker rahi ho tow humari so called society kiya naam daiti hai lose chahracter...terha terhaa k tanay milte hein ..ya phir taunts ...k aye te honi he aheo jai aye ...............so what u say about that point ....

daikhye mein ne ek post ki thii k y women feels uncomfortable when working with men or doing job , n in any organization ....app job karo ....app kitne bhi shareef ho ....tow sorry to say log rehne nahin dete .....app ko limits zaror tay kerna hotti hein apnae self defence k liey ...kuyn k her uthtii nazer paarsaa nahin hotti ...... app k points buhat aache hein .....mein khud in sub mein shamil hoon ....waqat k sath chalna zarori hai otherwise app survive nahin ker sakte ....but limits bhi tay karo apni security k liey ....mere dada ji ne ek baat bolii thi when i was in metric k beta "dosti zaror karo per aabru naah jany do "..........

well jis society ka aap hissa haain,, mujhaay us society ko chouraay sirf 5 years hoaay haain , n us waqt is tarah ki bataain theen laikin itneeeeeeee ziada nahen theen jis tarah ka naqsha aap khainch rahee haain....
main aap ki baat ki tardeed nahen karoon ga..laikin main nay ju baat ki woh is term par thee... boy/girl friend wali term par....
n ju aap kah rahee haain net cafe stuff etc woh sab ham bhi daikh chukay haain,,, us base par larkiyoon nay suicide bhi ki thee....
laikin aik baat main bhi zaroor kahoon ga k har baat par western culture ko ilzaam daina bhi sahee nahen.... problem hamaray ander hay.... ju wahan ki burayaan tu lay laitaay hain,, achayaan nahen laitaay.... western society main bohaat say ziada achaayaan bhi haain laikin ham unhain pick nahen kartaay sirf burayaan hi pick kartay rahtay hain..........

hm hm ...............well sir very well said .................yeahi baat mein kaffi post mein keh chuki hoon k individual reformation ho gi society khud ba khuad sai ho jaye gii sub se bara chor n munafiqa humaray khud k ander hai we all r aware of evil but we dont want to resist it .......app ko meri baatein buri lag jati hein n app samjhtae hein mein argue kerti hoon behass ....so on ....there is nothing like that mera maqsad hergiz argue kerna nahin hai ya apni baat ko sahi sabit kerna bus jo mujhay apne ass pass hota nazer aata hai jo observe kerti hoon ...kuch sawal se uthtae hein zehan mein mein un k topic bana ker post ker deti hoon ....ya just apna point of view elaborate kerti hoon ....mujhay andaza ho mein kahan galat hoon kahan sahi app jaise experienced n walking encyclopedia n samjhdar logon k tajurbon n seekh se he hum jaise log seekh sakte hein n sudher bhi yeahi age hai.....buhat se log faizyaab hon gey inshallah bus thorae cool raha karein ......thanx ....

bhai loug ab ham itnaay taweel-ul-umar nahen hoaay k aap sir kah kar mukhaitb karain.......

n main nay kab kaha k mujhay aap ki bataain buree lagtee hain yah main gussa hu jata houn.....

baki jawab ba'ad main.. I hve to go now..

okies ................well sir just mein ne 4 respect k zumray mein use kiya hai ....aab age ya kissi k baray mein kuch aata patah nahin mujhay ........n one important thing is that age is not the touch stone of wisdom ....agay u should know better than me ...

i feel so ...............in these days insaan ki nature gidh ki terhaa hoti jaa rahi hai ..............maasharay ki tamam burayan apne ander jazab kerne mein laga hai ................apni soch, doing, saying, actions, deeds ko pani ki terhaa saaf shiffaf rakhne ki koshish ki jaye tow shayed hum falah kaa rastah paa lein .....jub hum mein dulat, shuhrat, zaati mufad ki hawas hatam ho jaye gi tab he hum behter insaan bun sakte hein .....apna ehtassab khud keryie ....sub se pehle apni isslah keryie .....mat perwah keryie k kaun kia kehta hai kissi bhi insan ko satisfied app compeltely nahin ker sakte per khud ko aur apne zameer ko zaror ker sakte hein ....apne nafas pe qaboo buhat gunahon se door rakhta hai .....so be controlist ......

@ Fatima

ap ki bataiye kafi sensible ha pur khaiye kahiye pur ap emotional bi luggi ha

ap nay to ik dum say hi picture ka rukh change kur diya ha.. dear... hum bi iss society kiay hai.. hum bi unvi say phuraye hai... aur ziyda time naih hoiya.... achay burraye loog hur juga hotaye hai .. it up to you how u an get these thing...

the thing which on i belive " ap jis waqt tuk apna hath kisi ko do gey naih..kisi ki humt naih kiay koi ap ko choo kiay bhi guzray" to dear society koi bi ho.. hur jugga same situation hoti ha coz larki ki izzut west mei bi utni hi impt ha jitni east mei.. ha wo loog kuch opn ha... aur hum still restricted.. due to our culture , religion ... n v proud it....

dr. shb no comment

ha ha ............yes im emotional fool ..............bus meri koshish hotii hai kissi ki dil azari naah ho ....meri kissi baat se koi hurt naah ho .....yahan buhat baar aisa huawa hai mein ne just apna point of view likha hai tow kuch log they got me in wrong sense ......mujhay nahin abhi idea how to deal with others ........how to react ....bus jo dil mein aaya keh diya ker diyaa ....aachae buray log her jagha per hein hum admi se farishtah nahin ho sakte .....but sub se behter insan woh hai jo buraai mein reh ker apna app menwa jaye buraai mein reh ker aachi ko lead karay koi rang nah chernae day thats the actual spirit ....jaise ek naat bhi hai mein behak sakoon yeah majal kyaa .....

u knw battr abut ur self humay jo feel hoiya ap ko bool diya... well keep it up n sharng issues..

kosh raho

ji ji samajh gaya houn....



unhoon nay wisdom ki wajha say sir kaha thaa........


age ki wajha say nahen....

well sir ek request hai in islamic section mein ne ek post ki hai merd ghaasib k title se plz app zara uss per apne views dain just drop ur views, perceptions , tanqeed jo bhi app ko feel ho uss ko perh ker just request agay tadi marzii ...thanx .....

sorry to say NaJ sis k aapnay boy-frnd /girl-frnd ko deger ground-realities say mix up kardia hai..... awwal to issues par baat kartay howay issues ko hi target karna chhaiyeh, indivisual ko nahi k kaun kia karta hai.

islam aik deenay-fitrat hai. Allah har zamaan o makaan maiN hamari 'zarooriyaat' say agaah hai. nauzobillah aisaa nahi hai k ossay aaj k 'trend /environment' ka pata nah ho aur woh aalamay 'bay.khabri' maiN hamaiN hukum day raha hai k yeh yeh karo aur woh woh nah karo. (naqlay kufr, kufr nah baashad)

as u agree k islam 'boy-frnd/gal-frnd' ko allow nahi karta. to jab nahi karta to ACCEPT it being a muslim. don't argue to REJECT it as u know k uzray gunaah, bad tar az gunaah.

hum society maiN male-female say interact karsaktay haiN... iss waqt hum yehi to kar rahay hai.... hum school college uni maiN bhi aisa karsaktay hain... dafatar maiN bhi... bazaar maiN bhi etc etc..... magar jab inhi jaghouN maiN jab koi aik laRka kissi aik laRki (ya zayad) say romance laranay k liyeh, aik doosray say sinfi enjoyment k liyeh ... baat cheet karta hai, hasta khelta hai, outing karta hai, tafreeh karta hai, yaa mahaz saath saath rahta hai aur issay continue rakhta hai to yeh aik doosray k boy-frdn/grl-frnd kahlatay haiN.

environmental needs k tehat opposite s.e.x. ka aik doosray say baat cheet, kissi kaam say raabitah karna, aik doosray ki help karna /help talab karna, working relationship qaaim karnaa... yeh sab islam k nazdeeq HARAAM nahi. sab say aham pahchaan yeh hai aisay contacts k JAIZ in ISLAM honay ki k AISAY CONTACTS ko apnay ghar walouN say, apnay maaN-baap say, apnay baha bhaiyyouN say, apnay shauhar say, apni biwi say chopaanay ki zaroorat nah paRay. jahaaN chopanay ki zaroorat paRjaye, samajh laiN k kuch gaR baR hai aur anti islamic hai....

meri iss roy say log ittefaaq bhi karsaktay hain aur dalaail ki bunyaad par ikhtelaaf bhi. lekin agar kissi ko meri yeh bataiN bori lagaiN to peshgi maazrat. maqsood sirf topic par izharay roy karna thaa nah k kissi ki dil azaari

yeah no doubt ......but HAZRAT HADEEJA (RZA) HAZRAT MUHAMMAD (PBUH) K SATH TIJARAT KIYAA KERTI THII ...............ISS CONTEXT MEIN APP KYA KAHEIN gey ? ?.......YEAH zara elaborate karein ....badly needed .....

agarchay k yeh "qabl az islam" k daur ki baat hai jab hijab etc k rules naazil nahi howay thay... iskay bawajood...

woh aik working-relation tha, business partnership thee jiss maiN:

- hazrat khadeejah RA aap SAW k saath tijarti safar par saath nahee jaya karti thee (apna ghulaam bhejti theeN)
- hazrat khadeejah RA business meetings attend nahi karti theeN nah hi apnay business partener k saath tanhaa zeyafat (working lunch) kia kartee theeN.
- aap dounouN business partners k darmayaan business communication / lain dain ka aik motabar tareeqah thaa.
- aap dounouN k yeh "tejarati-rawabit" oss society maiN OPEN thay, KHUFIYA nahi.
- hazrat khadeejah RA aik 40 salah bewah theeN... aur islam maiN aik kamsin bachelor laRki k moqaablay maiN married, widow, motliqah aur omer raseedah khawateen ko mahram-naa.mahram /hijab k silsilah maiN kuch re.aayat bhi haasil hai. jo natural bhi hai.

agar aaj bhi inhi osool o zawabit ki binaa par koi khatoon kissi naa.mahram mard k saath apnay kissi mahram /molaazim ki maarfat business karna chahaiN to islam aisaa karnay say nahi roktaa. balkay inhi basic rules ko follow kartay howay koi bhi muslimha koi bhi job /business karsakti hai bah shartekah woh job /business bazatay khud HARAM nah ho jaisay..... cassino /bar ki waitress, modelinig, acting, singing, air hostess, call girls, massager for males, etc etc.