EK BAAT JO BADIIIII COMMON HAI..KISI BHI LARKI SE PUCHIEN TO WO YAHI KAHEGI K AY KAASH MIE LARKA HOTI

CHAHEY WO KHUSH HO YA UDAAS LEKIN HAR KOI KEHTI YAHI HAI K KAASH MIE LARKA HOTI ..

TO MIE YEH KARSAKTI WO KARSAKTI

OR KOI LARKA AISA NHI SOCHTA K MIEN KAASH LARKI HOTA ..

KIU EK LARKI HEE

JAB PAIDA HOTI HAI TAB HE SE SEHTI HAI

KABHI BETI K ANE SE KOI KHUSH NHIN HOTAA ...K BETI HAI???

MAANA YEH EK JAHALAT HAI MAGAR PARHEY LIKHUN K DIL MIEN BHI YEH BAAT ATI HAI MAANA WO YEH CHAHTE HAIN BETA HGA TO SUPPORT KAREGA LEKIN PHR BHI

BETI AI AFSOS LAII..

USEY PAAALNAA BILKUL EHTIYAAT SE..

LARKI HO TUM BAHIR NHI JASAKTI

TUM BETI HO TUMHE YEH KARNA PAREGA TUM BETI HO TUMHE WO KARNA PAREGA

BETA OR BETI KI KHUWAHISH SAMNE AI TOO


PEHLEY KHUWAHISH BETEY KI PURI KARNE KI SOCHTE HAIN
CHAHEY BETI KITNI LAADLI HEE KIU NA HO...

KIU JAB EK BETI APNI KHUSHI AGEY KARTI HAI ..TO USEY ITNA KUCH SUNNA SEHNA PARTA HAI??

KIU BETI HEE PARAI HOJATI HAI ..

EK BETI GHR CHOR K CHALI JAE TO USKI WAJA SE MAAN BAAP KA SER JHUK JATA HAI

OR AGAR BETI KO BIYAH DENA HO TO EK PARESHAANI AJATI HAI K ITNA KUCH DENA HAI ISE..

OR BETI K ITNA DENE K BAAD BETI KO KISI OR K HAWALEY KAR DETEY HAIN

KIU PHR WAHAN BHI EK BETI HEE SEHTI HAI

EK PINJRE MIEN BANDH HOJATI HAI

JANE KIU JANE KIU HAR LARKI AISA KIU SCHTI HAI K WOH LARKA HOTI

KIU LARKIYUN K EK GHALTI YA EK KHUWAHISH KABHI KUBHAAR BOJHAAR LE ATTI AHI

BETI KIA HAI??? EK AURAT BANNA KIA HAI ????

AISA KIU HAI K KOI BETI KHUSH NHIN ..

KHUSH TO BESHAK SAB HOTE HAIN MAGAR WO BAAT BETI MIEN KIUU NHIN ...


AISA KIU HAI ..JANE MIEN KIA KAHE JARAHI HU

PER KUCH AISA HE MIEN ARSE SE SOCHTI HUN ..K JO BHI HOTA HA TO MIE YAHI KEHTI HU RYT EK BETI HUNA

ALLHUMDULILLAH SE MUJHE JO CHAHIYE MUJHE MILJATA HAI MEIN APNE BABA KI LAADLI BHI HU ....

BETIYAAN ZIADA TER APNE WALID SE HEE ATTACH HOTI HAIN

LEKIN PHR BHI ..

BETI CHAHEY BADEY GHR SE HO YA CHOTEY GHR SE... TARAPTI ZARUR HAI...

US K PAAS MAA KA RUTBA HOTA HAII ..MAGAR MAAA BANN K BHI WO KAI ULJHANU MIE PHANS JATI HAI ...AISA KIU HAI AISA KIU HAMARE SATH HOTA HAI AISA KIUN HAMARE SOCCH MIEN ATA HAII??? K MIEN EK BETI HU ..


B.E.T.I .....

na to beti hona koi jurm hai .. aur na hi beti hona koi gunahh hai ..

hamari society ne larkoon ko is liye importance de rakhi hai k kal ko onhain kissi aur k gher ja kar nahein rahna hota ..

beti hamesha se sab kuch bardasht kartii hai .. baap k gher, phr shohar k gher ... shayad issi liye os ka rutba buland rakha hai ... os k qadmoo'n main janat rakhi hai

os pe haath uthaney walley ko qayamat k din ronda jaye ga .. os ki aik bad-dua barbaad kar k rakh de gi ...

yeh sab baatain bhi reality hai ...

jis cheez ko jis angle se daikhoo ge woo waissi hi nazar aye gi ... beti'oon pe kuch pabandii sahi hai aur kuch bohut hi kharab hai ...

agr yeh pabandi na ho .. too shayad koi jo hai aur jaissa hona chahiye .. waissa na rahey .. ajj kal ka zamana control main nahein hai ... betey kitne bhi achey ho ja'ain, ma baap ki baatain nahein maantey .. is liye betioon ko har buri cheez se - jo os wakt nazar nahein ati - ma baap duur rakhna chahtey hain ..

apni tarf se jitna kar saktey hain kartey hain ... lekin her parent ko apni beti k liye jitni khushiaan hoti hain os se double fear bhi ...

aj kal too larkey bhi safe nahien rahey .. tum larki honey pe udaas ho !

Prophet Muhammad ( salallaho elaihe wasalam) .. apni beti k aaney par kharey ho jaya akrtey they aur apni chadar zameen pe daal kar on ko beithney ko kaha kartey they ... beti'oon ki too value hi itni hai k sab kuch on k saamney kam hai ...

zaroori nahein ahi k abhi kuch wakt ki udaasi k liye khud ko beti hona k tana dia jaye ... beti'aan, baitoon se ziada naam kama sakti hain AGER woo kuch karna chahain too .... ( an xample ov dat is BENAZIR ... beshak jitni bhi buri leader kyun na ho .... woo kaam kia hai sirf larkey kartey they aur kamyaab phr bhi kam hotey hain )

Thank Allah for who u r .. n wat u r ... since HE wans u to b a daughter !

well said

kia topic cher dia ab kuch lamba lamba likhna hoga
beti ho ya beta dono beraber hain mere khayal se is se kuch nai hota yeh sab apne sochne ki baten hain mere apne father bete ko mujh pe foqyat dete hain aur meri ammi aisa nai sochti halanke zyada ter ammyan aisa kerti hain tu yeh sab apne sochne per hai na
aur pabandi aj kal jitna zamana kharab hai is hisab se tu pabandi lerke lerkiun dono pe lagni chaye han lerke nafermani ker k apni baat manwa lete hain.........lerkian agar apne parents ki baat rakh leti hain tu yeh tu achi baat hai

bahut zalim topic chairha hai sweet angel tum ne..

well.. pehle main bhi asa socha karti thi.. kash main larka hoti..
mujhe bhi ghooomne phirne ki ijazat hoti..
kya larkiyon ko inni tensions, hazaroon probs.. ase nai jana.. wese nai bethna.. yeh nai khana.. woh nai karna..
being women.. maan, behn, beti, bahu sab darjoon main aurat hi ki azmaish hoti hia..

but ab i feel proud of myself.. i am son of my family.. i have no fears of being a girl..
I support my family like a son could do.
I take my family anywhere like a son could take them together
I am the daughter, i am the son...

purane waqton main to beti ko inna bura samjha jata tha ke zinda dafna diya jata tha.. lekin shuker hia humare maashray main shaor agaya hai.. or aurat ki izzat ki jaati hai..

Uff Meri Dukti RAG Pe Haath Rakh Diya Aap Ne Baad Mein Detail Se Likhun Gi Insha'ALLAH

Achha topic start kiya hay .. Sweet Angel jee... !!!

Bilkul... frankly bataoon ....k... agar ye option miley k hum dobara duniya main aa sakain... tou Meri khuahish ho gee ...

k kash .....main aik BETI ban kar janam loon ....!!

wesey tou bey shumar aqwal hain betiyon ki shan main ... aur ahadees bhe hain ... History bhe yehi batati hay... k betiyan .. beton ki ba nisbat ... Zyada mohtaram .. aur ba'es e rehmat hain ...

agar ham apney atraf main ... apny mo'ashrey par nazar dalain .. tou khud andaza kiya ja sakta hay.. kaisey ghar ... jo betiyon jesi rehmat sey mehroom hain ... wo wa'qee khuda ki Boht bari Ne'maton sey mehroom dikhaie detey hain .. !!
aur aisey gharon k makeen .. umoman .. zehni tour par utney pursukoon nahin ho saktey.. jitna k aik betiyon wala ghar...!!
betiyon ki mojoodgi .. walidain .. aur bhaiyon main aik .. zimm e daari aur Burd bari bhe paida karti hay... ba soorat e deegar .. aisa kam he dekhney ko milta hay ..

Ab rahi ye bat k hum .. aksar betiyon aur betey ki parvarish main tazad rakhtey hain .. Unhain wo sub kuchh uss tarah mohiyya nahin kiya jata .. k jo aik betey k liey hota hay ..
tou ye hamari zehni pasmandgi hay ... k hum aaj tak aulad e nareena ko he foqiyat detey chaley a'ey hain ...
lekin iss tazad ka bhe aik Masbat pehlu nikalta hay... k iss tarah k raviyye.. betiyon ko Sabir O Shakir banatey hain .. jo Un k mustaQbil main .. jab wo Aik beti k roop sey BV aur phir maan ka roop dharti hain ..
agar un main ye Sabr O shukr ki adat na Mojood ho tou shayed .. wo apney rishtey sey uss tarh insaaf na kar paeyn .. !!

Topic boht Taveel hay .. aur aik Nashist main iss ka ehata karna mumkin nahin ... lekin ye baat phir Dohraoon gaa.. k .. agar dobara iss duniya main aney ka Option moujood ho tou ..
Main BETI ban kar ana chahoon gaa... !!!!

I am the daughter, i am the son...


don't have words to say how much,,how much i liked it
khush rahiye

aur pabandi aj kal jitna zamana kharab hai is hisab se tu pabandi lerke lerkiun dono pe lagni chaiye

well said

Allah ka shukr mere ghar mein kabhi beti beton ka farq naheen kiya gaya,lekin jin gharon mein hota hai unka sunkar bahot afsos hota hai.
Nabi e Kareem aur unki lakht e jigar hazrat Fatema zahra a.s. ki misaal say hamnay kya seekha?



hamari ek jannay wali nay ek saheb say kaha (jinkay koi bahen naheen thee aur na hi yeh chah ke bahen hoti) ke "you don't know what you are missing,ladkiyaan apnay susraal jakar bhi ta hayaat waaldein ki fikr mein rehtee hain". and that is the truth

Bara hi naazuk topic cher diya ap ne to

Kabhi kabhi yeh khayal mere bhi mind main ata hai just for some moments ke agar main larka hoti to kiya karti .... Lekin doosrey hi lamhe Allah ka shukar ada karti hoon ke jo mere liye behtar tha Allah ne wohi banaya ....

Meri apni zaati raaye main larki kisi bhi tarah kam tar nahi hoti... Us pe to aik nasal ki zaimmedari hoti hai us ki importance to sab se ziada hai ... Aik larki ki taleem-o-tarbiyat bhi utni hi ehem hai jitni aik larkey ki .... kyunke agar lakrey ke family ko support karna hai to larki ne bhi aney wali nasal ki tarbiyat karni hai ... Jahan tak pabandiyon ki baat hai to Mere khayal main excess of everything is bad .... Na to itni azaadi ho ke jo bhi kartey phiro koi poochney wala, baaz purs karney wala nahi .. Aur na hi itni sakht pabandiyan hon ke apni khwahishat ko poora karney ke liye chor darwazey dhoondna parain.... Pabandiyan tahaffuz ka ehsaas dilati hain ke koi hamari care karta hai ... Aur waise bhi kaha jata hai ke larki aik nazuk aabgeeney ki tarah hoti hai.. to us ki to hifazat karni chahiyye na ....Ham Masha'Allah 4 behnain hain aur bachpan se le kar aj tak kabhi hamarey parents ne yeh feel nahi honey diya ke Hamara koi bhai nahi ... Aur sacchi kabhi ehsaas bhi nahi hota ke yeh bhi koi kami hai.... Aur Aj kal to Masha'Allah larkiyon ko itni facilities hain.... aise main agar kisi sahi baat pe tok de koi to woh na janey kyun pabandi tasawwar ki jati hai

Jaisa ke Gohar ne kaha waaqi topiq buhat bara hai us per buhat kuch kaha ja sakta hai.. So abhi ke liye itna hi

Bilkul Sahi kaha

kya baat kahi hain yaar kya topic hain me ko tu rona aaraha hin .....

yar humhare family main beti zaida pasand karte hain ....... hota tha pehle 50 and 60 k time pe but ajj kal tu nai hota aise kuch ......

hmmmmmmmmmm sahi kha aap ne but yaar i cant wirte agar main kuch likhne bet gaiii tu phir page k page bhar jayeh gey aur mere dil ki baat khatam nai hogii so i hate is kinda topic kyun k its hurt me a lot ......

bohat zabardast topic post ki hai

me araam se reply deti hoon

hmmn asa hota ha lakin sab larkiyan ye nhi kehtin k wo lerka hotin
hamaisha mother baty k saath zadaattached hotin hain ye natural cheez ha isi terhan fathers bati k saath

lakin mary surroundings main asa nhi k boys ko sirf importance d jaye

insaan jesa feel kerta ha usy wesa hi lagta ha lakin reality main wo nhi hota
girls sensitive hoti hain as compare boys is liye wo chooti si baat b bohat feel kerti hain

lakin ajkal asa nhi ha k girls ko importance nhi d jaati actully wo her baat feel bohat kerti hain

mari b sisters hain mary khiyaal main mujh sy zada un ko importance milti ha or mujhy bari daant parti ha jo mujhy mila wohi unhain mila

kabhi amman aba ny mujhy ahmiyat nhi d --------- its reality sister app asa feel kerty ho isliye ulajh rhy ho

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

achaaaaa meri baat pe rona arha hai

aisa kia kehdia mene

Really Nice topic S.A
well for me main ne kabhie nahi socha k main larka hoti except tab jab k main guys ko bikes chalate dekhti hon I can drive par bike chalane ki hasrat hamesha me k dil gurday main rahegi ... Mein shukker karti hon k ju main hon so hon ... cuz guys ko buhat papar bailne parte hain yeh ju ghar chalane ki zimeydaari hai yeh buhat barri hai ... so ALLAH ka shukker k main larki hi hon ... Maa baap ko betiyan kabhie buri nahi lagtein buss unko unn k naseebon se darr lagta hai aik larki k naseeb main kya hai ye Rab k siva koi nahi janta

Thanks shafaq jee..
I am proud of being myself.. what i am

bary mazzy k post kiye sab ny

sab say pahlay to takheer ki maazrat ... ab bhi net connection etna slow hai k 'reply-connect' hotay hotay post reply ki zehni rau bahoot aagay nikal gayee... kaash k maiN sab kuch kah sakouN jo kahna chaahtaa houn aur jo aaj k har female k khayaalaat / sawaalaat ka haqeeqi jawaab hai... jo samajhnay walouN ko satisfy bhi karsakta hai... pahlay yeh raseedi reply post kardouN phir baat karta houN....

sab say pahlay to takheer ki maazrat ... ab bhi net connection etna slow hai k 'reply-connect' hotay hotay post reply ki zehni rau bahoot aagay nikal gayee... kaash k maiN sab kuch kah sakouN jo kahna chaahtaa houn aur jo aaj k har female k khayaalaat / sawaalaat ka haqeeqi jawaab hai... jo samajhnay walouN ko satisfy bhi karsakta hai... pahlay yeh raseedi reply post kardouN phir baat karta houN....

hmmmmm

to yeh baat hai... yeh khayaalaat / zehni khalfishaar naye naheeN... azal say thay aur abad tak rahengay... pahlay yeh khayaalaat amooman paRhee likhee khawateen tak mahdood thay magar media /movies / dramouN ki badaulat ab in miss-zarreeN khayaalaat ka wajood ghair parhee likhee khawateen tak bhi phail chuka hai... maiN issay miss-conception kahta houN aap issay miss-ka-conception kah laiN

larka Vs larki yaa mard vs aurat ki kahani aik bahoot baray ghalat 'mafroozay' par mabni hai k dounouN ashraful-makhlooqaat honay k naatay barabar yaa equal haiN. aur jab equal haiN to inmain yeh tafreeq kiyouN dr. zakir naik k baqaul they r equal but not identical equal.

pahlay iss baat ko samajh laiN k dounouN ashraful.makhlooqaat honay k bawajood equal yaa identical equal naheen.... dounouN saath saath rahnay k bawajood 2 alag alag shakhsiyat k haamil haiN. dounouN ka maj'mooyee grade /darjah yaksaaN honay k bawajood baaz hasiyatouN maiN baaz bar.tar aur baaz kam.tar haiN. dunyawi etbaar say bhi aur islamic etbaar say bhi.... maslan phydically aurat /laRki kamzore hai... mard /larka qawi ... issi liyeh aik ko sinfay naazuk aur doosray ko sinfay qawi kaha jata hai.... aik hi age+height+weight k 2 male n female physical TAQAT maiN yaksaaN / barabar naheeN. leha za koi bhi munsif aisay 2 afraad ko kushti /boxing main aamnay saamnay khara karkay 2 equals k darmayaan moqaablah qarar nahi day sakta aur agar koi aisaa kahay to aqalmand laRki fauran inkaar kardegi k main iska moqaablah kaisay karsakti houN k maiN larki houn.

takleef aur mushkilaat bardaasht karnay maiN females higher hai males say... yehi wajah hai k larkiyaaN apni awaail omri maiN bhi germs /beemari ka laRkouN k moqaablay maiN zeyadah behtar tareeqay say moqaablah karsakti haiN. medical science ki statistics kahti hain k kamsini maiN beemaariyouN say zeyadah laRkay wafaat paatay haiN.... iss liyeh yaksaan sharahay paidaish k bawajood kissi bhi society main larkiyouN ki tadaad zeyadah hoti hai... aur laRkoun ki tadaad kam rah jati hai... illa masha Alllah

cont......

zehni o jazbaati taur par females zeyadah suljhee howi hoti haiN ba nisbat males k ... yehi wajah haiN k dunyaa bhar k pagal khanoun maiN males ki tadaad zeyadah hoti hai aur females ki kam.... females yahaaN bhi bar tar hai.... islam maiN maaN ka darjah teen chauthayee (75%) hota hai hai aur baap ka aik chauthayee (25%) .. male vs female main yahaaN bhi females ka darjah bara hai.... doosri taraf husband vs wife maiN shauhar ka aik darjah baRa hai... wirasat main son ka hissa double hai.... maali lain dain ki gawahi main males ka darjah double hai.... etc etc yeh sab males aur females ki mukhtalif categories maiN sab ka alag alag moqaam aur darjah hai. BUT as a human being Allah k nazdeeq over all dounouN ka darjah barabar hai.... behtar sirf woh hai... jiska aamaal behtar hai.... jannat main daakhlay k liyeh mard honay ka koi izafi faidah aur aurat honay ka koi izafi nuqsaan naheeN........ balkay bahoot say maamlaat maiN aurat bah sahoolat jannat maiN dakhil hosakti hai. mosalmaan mard maidaanay jehaad maiN wafaat paa jaye to shaheed hota hai. muslim aurat agar delivery case maiN halaak hojaye to ossay shaheed ka darjah milta hai etc etc.

aap nay above misalouN maiN dekha k as mard, koi bartar nahee aur nah hi as a aurat koi aurat kam.tar hai.... haan mukhtalif hasiyatouN maiN mard bhi bartar hosakta hai like husband aur aurat bhi bartar hosakti hai like mother....... yeh dounouN makhlooq identical equal naheeN.... inki jismani saakht bhi yaksaaN naheeN... zehni o jazaabati salahiyyatai bhi yaksaaN naheeN.... beemariyouN say laRnay ki quwwatay modaafe'at bhi yaksaaN naheeN.... dounoun k faraaiz bhi yaksaaN naheeN... dounouN ki zarooriyaat bhi yaksaaN naheeN... dounouN ki khooshi ghum bhi yaksaaN naheeN.... phir mard aur aurat / laRka yaa laRki yaksaaN kaisay hosaktay haiN.... jab yaksaaN naheeN to phir insay yaksaaN SALOOK kaisay mumkin hai.... farz karaiN kissi mother ko apnay 15 salah twin son n daughter say 100 % yaksaaN mohabbat hai (jo amalan mumkin naheeN).... aur onhaiN raat maiN qareebi bazaar say 2 martabah kuch mangwana maqsood ho to kia woh 'equality' ko barqarar rakhnay k liyeh aik martabah son ko bazaar bhejengay aur aik martabah daughter ko hargiz naheeN balkay woh 'mosawaat' ki bajaaye 'adal' ka mozaahirah kartay howay dounouN baar son ko hi bhejengay.... coz son has better ability to fight against criminals in streets /bazaar etc. aur osay 'victim' bannay ka RISK bhi kam hota hai as compare to daughter.
asal maiN male-female maiN 'mosawaat' ka naraah hi ghalat aur zameeni haqaaiq say match nahi khataa.... iskay moqaablay main adal o insaaf zeyadah monaasib amal hai k dounouN k maabain insaaf ki jaye nah k adal..... dounouN ko equal miqdaar /tadaad /aqsaam ki ashyaa kabhi bhi faraham nahi ki jasakti... har aik ki pasand /zaroorat alag alag hoti hai.... aur priority bhi alag ... jaisay .... aik ghar main aik jawaan beTa aur aik jawaan beTi hai jabkay parents retired... agar kissi subah ghar maiN sirf aik roTy maujood ho to 'mosawaat ka taqaza' yeh hai k son ko aadhee roTi dee jaye aur daughter bhi aadhee.... lekin ADAL ka taqazah yeh hai k son ko poori roTy day dee jaye takay woh bahar jaa kar mazdoori karkay dopahar / shaam k k liyeh 2/4 rotiyaan laa sakay aur ghar k saray log iss 'munsifanah-faislay' k samraat say istefadah karsakaiN..... aisee soorat main khud bahan bhi kaam par janay walay bhai ko pahlay khila pila kar bhejegi khaah ossay khud bhooka hi kiyouN nah rahna paray... insaaf ka taqazah bhi yehi hai k ghar baithi rahnay wali shaam tak easily bhooki rah sakti hai aur mazdoori k liyeh bahar janay walaa bhooka rahkar kamanay k qaabil nahi rahegaa.

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jab tawaqqah hi oTh gayi ghalib
kiaa kissi kaa gilaa karay koi

gila shikwah ka talluq hamesha tawaqqat / expectations say hota hai... jetni zeyadah tawaqqah.aat hongi, otnay hi zeyadah gilay shikway hongay.... expectations ki bhi 2 aqsaam hain... aik ghalat expectation aur doosri sahi expectation.... main bahar jaa raha houn aur koi pagal mujhay aik paTh.thar day maartaa hai. main zakhmi hojata houN... magar mujhay iss pagal ki iss harkat par mujhay oss say koi gila aur shikwah nahi hota... kiyouN... isliyeh k i know k woh pagal hai aur mujhay oss say kissi +ve behaviour ki tawaqqah naheeN... yehi kaam agar koi normal fard kartaa to mera reaction joda hota k mujhay har normal fard say yeh tawaqqah hoti hai k woh mujhay path.thar nah maaray

mard aur aurat dounouN being a human being society maiN taqreeban barabar haiN.... lekin in dounouN maiN jo baahmi faraq hai (as seen in above paras)... koi agar issay madday nazar nah rakhtay howay society say EQUAL EXPECTATIONS rakhay jo poori nahi hosakti to ismain qasoor kis ka hai.... society ka yaa ghalat-expectation rakhnay walay ka.

20veN grade ka aik college professor bhi hota hai aur aik commissioner bhi... dounouN sarkaari molaazim hain dounouN ka grade aik hai. dounouN ki pay same hai.... magar haoomat dounouN ko alag alag sahooltain deti hai. dounouN ko allownces bhi juda juda.... by their job nature...... every 1 knows k aik commissioner ko kia kia kuch milta hai... ab agar pf bhi wohi kuch expect karay aur nah milnay par shikwah karay to ....... hosata hai k aap ko yahaaN in dounouN afraad maiN 'yaksaaniyat' nazar nah aaye k yahaaN faraq saaf zaahir hai aur aap mahaz same-grade ki bina par dounouN ko same nah tasawwer karaiN... to aik aur example...

grade-18 ka aik civil sergeon bhi hota hai aur same grade ka aik engineer bhi..... dounouN aik hi adaray main molazim houN to kia woh adarah dounouN ko same treat karegaa..... sergeon par to 'etni zeyadah' pabandiyaaN hoti haiN k ossay saans lena bhi mushkil hojata hai..... aik sergeon par laazim hai k woh har waqt saaf suthra rahay.... din maiN 20youn bar haath saaf karay... job par hathoun maiN gloves, naak par mask, sar Dhakaa howaa ho ... tab hi osay kaam karnay dia jata hai....... sergeon apni marzi say during job (operation) coffee break nahi lay sakta. apni marzi say raat bhar so nahi saktaa... jab ossay call milay... fauran duty opar hazir hona paRta hai din ho yaa raat... woh apni family ki taqreebaat say enjoy kartay howay othaya jasakta hai... aur ossay koi gila shikwah bhi nahi hota... woh apnay ham.mansab engnr bhai jaisee sahooltouN ka motaalibah nahi karta coz woh jaanta hai k dounouN same gaade amIn honay k bawajood by nature /job alag alag hain.... engr bah zaahir apni marzi say duty par jata hai... jab chaahay duty k dauran break lay sakta hai... ossay site visits
k liyeh vehicles /staff milta hai jissay woh picnic k liyeh bhi use karleta hai. kabhi apni family ko inhi vehicles maiN shopping bhi kara leta hai etc ... ab agar sergeon apnay engr bhai jaisee sahooltoun /azaadi ka motaalibah karay expectation rakhay to dunyaa ki har paRhee likhee aurat ossay AHMAQ kahegi lekin agar wohi larki /aurat apnay bhai ko hasil by-default sahooltoun /azaadi ka motaalibah karay to

Daboyaa mujh ko 'honay' nay .... nah 'hoti' maiN to kia hotaa ghaalib ki taarh agar har aurat 'apnay nah honay' par zaraa sa bhi ghaur karlay to ossay maloom ho k oska hona iss dunyaa ki raunaq k liyeh ketna zaroori hai.... hazratay Adam AS as a merd to janant hi main tanay tanhaa akelay rah rahay thay aur ra saktay thay.... aur Adam AS ki tarah Allah bahoot say ibnay Adam bhi paida karkay jannat ko abaad karsakta thaa... magar dunyaa ko abaad karnay k liyeh bibi Hwwa AS ka wajood zaroori thaa... jab tak bibi hawwa AS nahi paida howeeN, onhaiN dunya maiN nahi bheja gayaa.... ghaleban issi liyeh Allamah Iqbal nay kaha thaa k ... wajooday zunn say hai tasweeray kaainaat maiN rung.... aurat agar apni saari hasiyatouN ko dekhay to ossay apnay aap par ... apnay honay par .... proud hona chahiyeh... khaah doosray males apni jahalat k baaes kuch bhi kahtay / behave kartay phiraiN.... larki ko protect /respect k liyeh Allah aur oskay rasool saw nay kia khoobsoorat system banayaa hai ... 4 aqsaam k mard by-default har larki /aurat ki hifazat aur zaroorat poora karnay k liyeh hamah waqt tayyar haiN.... BAAP- BHAI-SHAUHAR-BETAY ... bhai aur betay aik say zaid bhi hosaktay haiN.... aakir yeh saray mard kissi dunwavi laalach k beghair apni beTi, bahan, biwi aur mother k liyeh tan man dhan qurbaan karnay par kiyouN tayyar rahtay hain ... iska jawaab yeh hadees hai...

Narrated AbuSa'id al-Khudri: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: If anyone cares for three daughters, disciplines them, marries them, and does good to them, he will go to Paradise. (Sunan Abudawud, Book #41, Hadith #5128)

aik aur hadees main aataa hai k kissi nay poocha yaa rasool Allah saw agar kissi ki 2 beTiyaaN ho to aap saw nay farmaya woh bhi... baaz rewayaat maIn aik beTi ki parwarish par bhi Allah nay jannat ki khush.khabri dee hai. beTiyouN ko to apnay aap par fakhar hona chahiyeh k woh apnay parents k jannat mai daakhilay ka sabab ban sakti haiN. aur apni aulaad k liyeh... jannat maaN k qadmouN talay hai ... ka ezaaz haasil karti haiN.... bhai banhoun par waisay hi sadqay wari jatay haiN... bahan ki har pokaar par bhai labbaik kahtay haiN......... etnay saray ezaaz k baad agar aurat ko aik adad mard al.maroof shauhar k maatehat karkay Allah nay aurat par (nauzo billah) kaun saa zulm kia hai..... yeh woh wahid MARD (shauhar) hai jiski khidmat karkay aurat jannat maiN apni entry ko yaqeeni bana sakti hai.... quran o ahadees aisay ahkaamaat say pur hai. Allah k nabi saw nay farnaya k agar Allah apnay sewaa kissi ko sajdah karnay ka hukm deta to aurtouN ko hukm deta k woh apnay shauhar ko sajdah karay.... shauhar aurat ko maaN k darjay par faaiz kartay hain... woh maaN jiskay qadmouN talay jannat hoti hai... jiss tarah baadshah say bara baadshaah.gar (pm geelanai say baRa baad.saah.gar zardari ) hota hai.... issi tarah jo aurat ko maan k darjay pay faaiz karata hai, oska darjah oss specific maaN say to yaqeenan bara hona chahhiyeh... haqooqay niswaaN aur azaadiyeh niswaaN ki beshtar theories bhi aurat ko apnay shauhar ki maatehti say nikaalnay k liyeh hoti hai......... jiskay asraatay bad maghrib mai dekhay jaasaktay haiN.... wahaan laRki adult hotay hi.... mother-pedar azaad hojati hai aur married honay k bawaood husband k maatehat nahi hoti.... result aap khud dekh laiN k wahaaN ki aurat zeyadah sukhi hai yaa estern /islamic culture ki aurat.

miTaa day apni hasti ko gar kuch martabah chaahay
k daanah khaak maiN milkar, gul o gulzaar hota hai

khoda karay k yeh shair durust taur par likhaa gaya ho warnah apnay khalish bhai naraaz bhi hosaktay hain, aur chalaan bhi karsaktay haiN .... agar dunya ki har aurat iss shair k falsafay ko samajh lay aur khud ko sirf aur sirf aik MARD yani shauhar par issi tarah qurbaan hojaye jaisay danaah (seed) miTTi maiN ghul mil jataa hai to yaqeenan woh bhi gul o gulzaar hosakti hai. apni zindagi ko khush.gawaar banaa sakti hai. apnay aangan maiN khilay phooloun (aulaad) ki malikha ban sakti hai jo apni jannat oskay paouN talay talaash kia karnay par majboor houN. being a female, proud to be a daughter,sister, wife n mother...... apnay honay par fakhar kijyeh.... apni zindagi ko khush.gawaar banaa kar apni family ko khush.gawaar banaiyyeh. dunyaa ki khush.gawari ka daromadaar aurtouN k behaviour par hai. apni aulaad ki tarbiat iss taarh kijyeh k woh dunyaa k liyeh rahmat ban kar saamnay aayaiN, zahmat ban kar naheeN... apni dunyaa bhi janant baniyyeh aur doosrouN ki bhi.... hadees k on ilfaaz say dariyeh k Allah k Nabi saw nay farmayaa k maiN nay meraaj maiN jahannam main aurtouN ki kasrat ko dekha.. poocha gayaa k aisaa kiyouN to rahmatul.lil aalameen saw nay farmayaan k aurtaiN apnay shauhar ki naa.qadri karti haiN. zara see takleef milnay par dsari rahataiN bhhool kar gilay shikway aur naa farmaani par otar aati haiN...

pata nahi iss post maiN oThaye gaye sawaalaat ka tashaffi bakhsh jawaab in replies maiN aayaa yaa nahe> taham aik kaawish ki hai. gar qabool ufrtad, zahay izzo sharf. agar koi tishnigai baaqi ho to mokaalmoun k zariyeh ossay discuss kia jasakta hai. filhaa bhashan khatam hota hai

sabi nay bhout acahy reply deiy hai bez soem of them ko read kar k me sad bhout sad

shaikh saadi RA ki aik hikayat hai k aik shakhs nanngay paouN bazaar maiN jaa raha thaa... garmi ki tapish aur kankar pathar say paouN maiN takleef say woh chilla oTha... Ya Allah tou mujhay etnaa nadaar nah banaya hota k maiN jooti bhi nah khareed sakta. beghair jootouN k chalnay maiN mujhay ketni taklef horahi hai... abhi woh yehi shikayat karta howa jaraha thaa k oski nazar aik aisay mazoor par paRi jo beghair TangouuN k ghisaT ghisaT kar chal raha thaa... woh bandah fauran sajday maiN gir gayaa k Allah mujhay maaf karday.... tou nay mujhay kam az kam paouN to salamat diyeh haiN........

iss post ka title paRh kar mujhay yeh hikayat youN yaad aayee k aaj aik laRki apnay Rub say shikwaaN kunaaN hai k Ay Allah tou nay mujhay laRka kiyouN naheeN banayaa.... woh iss baat par shukar kiyouN adaa nahi karti k ossay Allah nay aik mokammal laRki banayaa... kia ossay raah chaltay teesri jins logouN k saamnay haath phailaaye nazar nahi aati jo nah teen maiN hai nah terah maiN.... kia aisee makhlooq ko dekh kar shukar adaa nahi karna chahiyeh k Allah nay hamara etna bara imtehaan nahi lia, warnah oskay liyeh kia mushkil thaa k.... Allah nay hamaiN male yaa female banayaa hai. jo Allah ki behtareen makhlooqat maiN say haiN. agar hum Allah ki iss ataa par shikwah karnay ki bajaye oska shukar adaa karna chahiyeh on logouN ko dekh kar jo hum jaisay 'mokammal' naheeN.

mujhay iss moqay pay .... (ghaleban) Muhammad hussain Azaad ka afsana ... insaan kissi haal mai khush nahi rahtaa... bhi yaad aataa hai.... iss kahani maiN bahoot say log apnay aap, apni hasiyatoun etc say nalaaN hotay hain aur onhaiN 'doosray'... qaabilay rashk nazar aatay haiN aur woh Allah say do'aa kartay haiN k mujhay 'doosrouN jaisaa' banaa day. Allah aik din har aisay insaan ko yeh option detay haiN k woh aik doosray ki hasiyatouN say khud ko exchange kar laiN.... iss exchange k baad ka manzar naamah bhi kia khoob hai... agar kissi nay yeh kahani paRhi ho bah khoobi samajh sakta hai k baad main har insaan pahlay say zeyadah pareeshan nazar aataa hai. aur sab k sab apnay pahlay wali 'moseebat o pareeshani' wapis maangtay hain k Yaa Allah iss new moseebat say to pahlay wali moseebat achi thee... issi par nidaa aati hai k insaan kissi haal maiN khush nahi rahtaa... bahoot khoobsoorat aur sabaq amoz kahani hai kissi class k nisaab maiN bhi shamil hai. moqah milay to issay zaroor paRhni chahiyeh.... aisee hi aik kahani aurtouN k pahlay aalmi saal k oqay pay all india radio nay aik radiyaayee drama nashar kia thaa... jis maiN aurtouN nay mardouN say apni actvities exchange kar li thee. baRi mazahia see situation bani thee aurtaiN sab bahar kaam kar rahi thee aurmard ghar baiThay thay....... aur aakhir maiN sab nay apnay iss exchange of life say taubah ki thee hum apni pahli wali position par hi achay thay.

hmmmmm well said .... magar red-lighted baat baat maiN nah to koi wazan hai nah iski koi sanad quran o sunnat say sabit hai. quran maiN to apni naa.farmaan biwi ko aakhri had par maarnay ki bhi ijazat hai. hadeesouN main bhi sirf chehray par maarnay say manaa kia gaya hai... goya indirectly naa.farmaan biwi ko maarna mana nahi.... etni nah baRha paaki.ay damaaN ki hikayat aik hadees ka mafhoom hai jiss qaum ki leader / hukmraan aurat ho, woh qaum tabaah hojati hai.... being a muslim hamara imaan hai k muslim qaum ki leader / hukmraan aurat nahi honi chaahiyeh khaah woh fatima jinnah jaisaee achi aurat hi kiyouN nah ho. aap nay to misaal bhi aik bori-leader (as per ur own statement) ki dee hai. islami dunyaa maiN naam.wer khawateen ki kami naheeN jinhouN nay islai taleemaat k ander rahtay howay dunya maiN achchay kaam kiyeh.. hamaiN role model k liyeh muslim sahaabiyaat ki taraf nigaah rakhni chahiyeh. agar aap ko meri koi baat bori lagay to peshgi maazrat khaah houN. magar haqaaiq ko tasleem zaroor karna chahiyeh khaah woh hamaray khilaaf hi kiyouN nah jata howa mahsoos ho

100 % true
hum nay aisaa hi kia howa hai. hamara beTa ho yaa beTi koi bhi bila peshgi ijazat kaheeN nahee aa ja sakta... dounouN hi apnay aisay friends k ghar jasaktay haiN, jiska hamaiN pata ho.... unknown college frndz k ghar ya onkay saath koi bhi kaheen nahi jasakta. khaah woh beTa ho yaa beTi.... hum nay to beTouN ko bhi streets maiN bila wajah dostouN k saath ghoomnay phirnay par pabandi lagayee howi hai takay janay anjaanay maIn street crimes ka shikaar nah hosakaiN. waisay alhamdolillah hum family k saath sab jagah atay jatay haiN lehaza kissi ko koi pabandi mahaz apnay liyeh feel nahi hoti.

kia khoob.soorat aur balanced reply hai. yeh aik aham noktah hai k laRkiyaaN qeemti shaii haiN...narm o naazuk aabgeenay ki tarah ... anees Thes nah lag jaaye aabgeenouN ko ... issi liyeh inhaiN ... handle wid care... k sath palaa posa jata hai. har waqt khabar geeri ki jati hai... har jagah yahaaN wahaaN nahi jaanya dia jataa k kaheeN koi nuqsaan nah otha baithay.... jiss tarah qeemti aur nazuk cheezouN ki hifazat k liyeh khasooi cases banaye jatay haiN takay inhaiN shocks say, gard o ghobaar say aur chor ocha.kkoun ki nazrouN say door rakha jata hai....... parents issi tarah beTiyouN ka khayaal rakhtay haiN... jabkay beTay ruf-tuf hotay haiN. onkay TooTnay phooTnay ka khatrah kam hota hai lehaza onki care bhi kam ki jati hai. kam care ko azaadi aur zeyadah care ko pabandi kahna kissi taur bhi daanish.mandi naheeN... magar yeh bataiN kam omar k bachay jald nahi samajh patay. waqt onhaiN batlaa deta hai k parents ka rawaiyya khud onkay liyeh ketna behtar thaa... jinki care karnay wala koi nah ho aur woh without care /pabandi agar khoda nah khaastah bigaR jayain to phir yehi bigray /nakaam log kahtay hain k kaash hamara bhi koi baRaa /care karnay wala hota to hum aaj youN dar badar ki Thokrain nah khaatay....

bilkul sahi kaha tumne..mien beti hone pe udaas nhi hu ..ALLHUMDULILLAH se mien bas ek baat jo mere zehen mie thi kehdii sab ki views janney k liye..

yahi na larki ko har kadam bilkul ehtiyaat se uthana chahiye ...

thnx for ur luvly views samoo i always lyk ur opinions ..

bilkul sahi kaha pabandi to bilkul isliye hai kiu kk hum LARKIYAN haina na farmani kar k bhi humien kch nhi miltaa

bhut achi baat kahi jani u ne

haina yara bas yeh baatien to common haina

I LYKD IT YARRA SO GREAT OF YOU

MIEN BHI AISA HAHTI HU ..PER HAR KISI K BAS KI BAAT NHI

ALLLAH TUMHE HAMESHA KAMIYAAB KAREY TUM AISE HE SUPPORT KARTI RAHO APNI FAMILY KOOO

HAAN IZZAT BHI MILJATI HAI ...

bohut he achi baat kahi bhai apnee bohut he zabardust .. AGAR EK BETI MIE SABR O SHUKER KI ADAT ho to wo ek maan bv or BETI bhi banjati hai ...

bilkul sahi kaha apney siso hamare haan bhi aisa koi riwaaaj nhin ...ab to kahin pe bhi aisi soch nhin ..bohut hee thik kaha apney ..larkiyaaan hamesha se he apne waldeen ki hayaat ki fikr mand rehti hai balke larkey ...palatne per palat jate hain

siso bilkul thik kaha .......lekin kabhi kabhi jab ziada pabandiya jo kisi wajahh se kisi or ki wajah se lag jati hain ap pe...to apko jab koi sahi sila bhi deta hai wo bhi GHALAT lag jati hain

nhi siso jitna kaha apne bohut zabardust kaha

larku ki bhi yeh shikayat hoti haina bro ab baap isliyee ehmiyat kamm dikhata hai k bachey ko apna backgorund khud he banana hai .. shayad app bhi aisa feel karte ho islye apko aisa laga ..mien aisa feel nhi karti na uljhan mien hun bas kabhi kabhi u knw ..

thnx dear

bilkul sahi kehti ho ...naseeb ka hamesha maan baap ko dar rehta hai or agey jakey hamien bhi yeh darr rahega ..

miene do dafa chalai haii ... 10th mien .. mujhe car chalani hai jo mujhe koi deta nhi chalane ko :(

thnx jani tere view ka

aur mere pass car hai jisko chalana meko inna bura lagta hai par sachi muchi kuchi maza aata hai uss ko b drive karne main
han yaar bus hum ALLAH g par yakeen rakh kar achi kismat ki hi dua mang sakte hain na aur tou kuch b nahi
aur INSHA ALLAH sab k saath ALLAH g acha hi karte hain

SALAAM ...SORRI FOR LATE REP DARASAL MIEN APKI BAATU KO TAFSEEL SE OR ARAAM SE PARHNA CHAHRAHI THI ISLIYE AWAL TO BOHUT SHUKIRYA APKEY TAFSEELI REPLY KAA..APKI VIEWS


pehli baat bhai mien bh parhi likhi hee hun shayad::$:

bilkl ek larki badi nazuk si hoti hai ..

lein bhai larkiyaan fyt kar bhi sakti hain:$

miene yeh bhi sunna hai k jahan larki/aurat jiska dil bohut narm hota hai sensitive lekin jab wo apne nafrat pe ati hai ..to uski nafrat ki shidat bohut ziada hoti hai koi taqat war mard bhi kch nhi hota us k samne ..!!

yaar mujhe koi moka nhi deta naa ..kehte hain xtra nhi hai :(

beshak har kaam mien koi na koi balaii hee hoti hai haina

tum job karti hona ..tum batao i feel k jo larki job karti hai wo ziada muture soch rakhti hai? or wo kabhi ye nhi sochti k mie larka hoti ...or jo larki job karna chahey or aisa koi riwaaj na ho ,,to usko kia kahogi tum?

mujhe apki koi baat buri nahien lagii .. i am always open to learnin things dat i do not knw ..

benazir ka naam sirf is liye liaa tha ... ta-k bata sakoon k larkiaan bhi bohut kuch kar saktii hain .. luk at her strugle n acheivment .. dat was all mahh point was !

ronda jaaney wali baat jo main ne kahi hai .. i heard it on qtv wen a woman called n said she was a mother ov two gals n her husband beats her .. n she wanted qula .. n reply ov Mufti Akmal was as i stated before ...

i do not agree wid the part where u said a man is allowed to beat up his wife if she is nafarmaan ... men r made stronger thn women to protect thm not to beat em wen they do sumthin rong ... (4:34) [...]as for those women on whose part ye fear rebellion (nushuz), admonish them and banish them to beds apart, (and last) beat (adriboo) them. Then, if they obey you, seek not a way against them.
--> (4:34) [...]as for those women whose animosity or ill-will you have reason to fear, then leave them alone in bed, and then separate; and if thereupon they pay you heed, do not seek a way against them.

most ov the times rong translation ov arabic wrd lead to rong meanin of the whole thing ..

divorce aur qula issi liye banaye hain k chor do ager koi samajh nahien raha hai ... aziat dene se zid lag jati hai .. n Qur'an does not state ny verse dat allows wife beatin .. they can b beaten wid siwak .. which we all knw how light it is ..

n Allah knws best ..

BHAI JIS TAFSEEELI SE APNA BATAYA HATS OFF BOHUT SHUKRIYAA AP KA ITNI TFSEELI REPLY KA

BOHUT KCH SAMAJ LAGI MERE:)

LEKIN BHAI MIENE BILKUL BHI ISLIYE POST NHI KI K MIE KIUN LARKI HU NAH BILKUL NHI

BAS YEH ISLIYE K KABHI KABHI YE SOCH AMUMAN HAR LARkI KO A HI JATI HAI ISLIYEE

MIENE SOCHA ..US WAQT THA BHI HYPA CHARH HA HUA PER ALLAH SE SHIKAYAT NHI KI ..

KHUSHU HUN MIEN

PER BHAI sumtyms hota haina

or ab bataen mujhe ek he baat

k agar ek mard husband... apni biwi pe shak karta ho? or usey wo apna waqt na deta ho ... masrufiyat mie he uljha ho ..or bwi phr shikayatien karien usey bhi wo husband tang ajata ho or isi tarah k roz ka mahol banjae larai nd all to tab bhi ghalti aurat ki hai kia?

agar aurat kch seekhne k liye bahir jae or usey tab bhi rokey wo??
or phr ek aurat jab kisi or ghalat tareekey mie chal parey to i knw ghalat hai per

us mie kasur to ek admi ka haina tab wo aurat kia karey??

miene bohut kuch dekha hai bro ,,,meri age to choti hai per ..ek tarah se ukt bhi gai hu kiu k lyf itna kch deti hai jo mujhse wo bojh utahaya nhi jata ,,, tab shikayat karleti hun .. k mard hoti to shayad itna kch seh sakti ...


BHAI APNE JO BATIEN KI WAQAI BOHUT ACHI OR TOPIC PE KI TAFSEELI BOHUT SHUKRKIYA AP K TAFSEELI REPLY KA ..

han na fermani kerenge na ghar k rehenge na ghat k

n i experienced that k lerke aur lerkiun mai kitna farq hai abhi in dino mai...........

marriage aik social contract hai 2 afraad k darmayan.... 2nouN ki marzi hi say yeh marriage monaqid hota hai aur jab tak chahaiN nouN saath rah saktay haiN. agar koi aik fareeq bhi saath nah rahna chahay to doosra fareeq osay majbooran saath nahi rakh sakta... separate honay k liyeh dounouN pass otions haiN. mard talaq day kar aurat ko juda kar sakta hai to aurta bhi ismaa (if it is mentioned in the nikaah naama) k zariyah apnay shauhar ko apni marzi say "talaaq" day sakti hai. agar aisaa nah ho to adaalat k zariyeh kholaa bhi lay kar alag hosakti hai........ taham saath rahnay ki soorat maiN mard as qawwam (famil