Dear Friends

Ek serious poll jo kisi ki qismat ka faisla bhi ker sakta hey aur bohat son ki zehni uljhan door bhi ker sakta hey ....

Q: Rishtey jo Azyet ka sabab ban'ney lageyn.....

Poll:
1.Uss Rishtey ko nibahna chahiey ?
2. Uss Rishtey ko tor dena chahiey ?
3. Meyn dil ke rishtey manta hi nahin...

Aap doston se ek serioues discussion ka mutaqzi hey yeh topic isliey bohat soch aur samjh ker apna vote dijiey ga aur apne point of view ko explain bhi kijey ga .. hosakta hey aap ka reply...Pls dont make any laugh in the post.Thanks

Buhat achha sawal kiya hai ap ne ... Waaqi buhat se logon ki uljhan door karney ka sabab ban sakta hai

Poll main to vote kardiya hai aur in detail mere khayal se jab koi rishta aziyyat ka baa'is ban jaye to us ko continue karna ap ko mazeed azziyat deta hai .... So its better ke us ko chor hi diya jaye.

Taa'ruf rog ban jaye to us ko bhoolna behtar
Ta'aluq bojh ban jaye to us ka torna acha
Woh afsana jisey anjam tak lana na ho mumkin
Usey ik khoobsurat mour de kar chorna achha

Assalam-o-Alaikum

Bara Pursoch aur Gaur Talab Sawaal Poocha Aap Ne

Tor Hi Dena Chahiye Jab Koi Suljhane Ka Raastah Hi Na Ho.Miyan Biwi Ka Rishta Ho Aur Aziyat Ban Jaaye To Tor Dena Chahiye Ke Aane Waali Nasal Pe Bhi Bura Asar Pare Ga Aur Medical Ke Lehaaz Se Bachon Mein Kai Nafsiyaati Masaail Bhi Paidah Ho Sakte Hein Behrhaal TOR DENA BEHTER HAI .......... Yehi Logic Kisi Bhi Rishte Pe Bhi Laago Hai

Merey khyal meyn jo rishtey dil se baney jatey heyn woh torey nahin jaskatey..

Chahey woh aap ki azeyet ka sabab baneyn ya rahat ka....

bazahir yeh hi munasib lagta hey ke esey rishtey tor dena hi behter hey mazeed azeyet sehney ke ..lakin meyn samjhta hon ke Dil ke rishtey nahin toot saktey..aap unhen bhulane ki koshish zaror ker saktey heyn lakin bhol nahin saktey.....

Chorney ka matlab yeh nahi ke bhool bhi jayen ..... Sahi kaha ke jo rishtey dil se bantey hain unhain trona asan nahi .... per kabhi kabhi situation aisi ban jati hai ke chorey bahgair koi chaara nahi hota .... Aisi surat main agar doosrey ka khayal karkey chor diya jaye to behtar na hoga ....

Aaap qata taluq ker saktey heyn..chorney ki koshish ker saktey heyn..dunya ki nazer meyn chor bhi detey heyn lakin dil se nahin nikal paatey..

Jinhen hum bholna chahieyn..
Woh Akser yaad aatey heyn...

Aap Ki Baat Sahi Hai Magar Phir Bhi Aisa Karna Par Jaata Hai Bhool To Koi Bhi Nahein SaktaKe Aik Haqeeqat Hai Yeh Aur Aap Ki Zindigi Mein Jo Shmail Raha Itna Arsa Woh To Kabhi Nahein Bhulaya Ja Sakta

I totly Agreed With You Dear

Kuch Rishtey aap banatey heyn..kuch rishtey aap ko maan baap ki traf se miltey heyn..
Jo Rishtey walden ki traf se miltey heyn woh not by choice hotey heyn aur jo rishtey aap khud banatey heyn woh by choice hotey heyn isliey meri nazer meyn jo rishtey aap khud banatey heyn unhen chor dena bilkul asan nahin hota ...iska yeh matlab nahin ke khoni rishtey torey ja saktey heyn unki apni usalima haqeqat hey aur ager kabhi mughey dil ke rishtey aur khoni rishton meyn se kisi ka intekhab kerna per jaey to lazmun meyn apney gher walon ko foqeyet donga aur unki baat manon ga..lakin iska yeh matlab nahin ke jo rishtey meyn ne baney heyn woh kahtum kerdonga ..never..never ever...

Sahi Kahe Rahe Hein Aap

mera vote hai : uss rishtey ko nibhana chahyee

sochne ki baat hai jo rishta azziyat ka sabab banne usse kyun nibhana chahyee.....

baat asal meen yeh hai ke koi Rishta hum khaloos.... pyar aur dill se banate hain

tu kya hua agar halaat aise ho gey ke uss rishte se ya uss person se hamain taleef poonchi

umeed rakhni chahyee ke acha waqt bhi aye ga

atleast main tu kisi rishtey ko torr ya chorR nahi sakti .. sath reh kar masle ka hall nikalna chahyee !!!

Thanks for your comments.
Noreena mera to yeh kehna hey ke ager aap kisi hal tak bhi nahin pohanch saktey tab bhi aap na dil ke na khon ke rishtey tor saktey

Very well said...i totally agree...
...Rishtay banana shayad kisi had tak hamaray bas may hay bt Rishtay chahay jesay bhi hun unko torna hamaray bas say bahir hay...
I wish tht u wd cum out ov this soon...

Rishte 2 tarha ke hote hain ....

Ek Woh jo by birth aap ko milte hain
aur Ek woh jo aap khud by choice banate ho..

Khoon ke rishte kabhi nahi tore ja sakte chahe woh kitni hi iziyat naak ho jaen ... aap tor bhi do to bhi woh nahi tot'te cuz jan'ne wale unko aap ke hawale se hi jante hain ..

Baat aati hay Rishte by choice ki to un mein bhi bahot hi zyada dil ke kareeb agar koi rishta aap ko takleef de to aap pehle to apni har mumkin koshish karte ho ke kissi tarha rishta apni puri ehmiyat aur soorat mein aajay ....agar baat kissi soorat nai banti aur aap ko lage ke Samne wale aap ki majodgi se na sirf bezaar hay balke kissi sorat is rishte ko barqarar nai rakhna chahta aesi soorat mein us rishte ko Tor dena kehna to munasib nai hoga kyon ke dil se wohi loog alag kiye ja sakte hain jo aap ki life mein zyada ehmiyat na rakhte ho lekin woh loog jo kissi soorat bhi dil se door na jaen un se aap rishta kese toro ge? ...haan yahan mein kahon gi gi halat aur us rishte ki khatir Qata Taluq kar dena chahye...

hmaain ISLAM main yahi hukam hay k
Ju tooray us say nibhaoo..
I can't remember the full hadith but the teaching is k ALLAH k NABI SALLAH-O-ALAY-HE-WASALAM.. Rishtay joornay aay thaay, toornay nahen..... n yahi hukam hmaain bhi hay......
jaisay ''TALAQ'' k bary main kaha gaya k ALLAH k nazdeek sab HALAL chezoon main sab say ziada NA-PASANDEEDA hay......same is the case with other relationships.... (untill unless they r within boundries of ISLAM n not based on our sinful dezires)

Please apna vote to batayen kya dya hey ? Clearly mention

Thanks..but FYI it is a general discussion..........

Nice Topic Rafay

Kuch rishtay , khooni rishtay hotay hain aur kaha jata hai k woh kabhi nahi toot-tay... toray hi nahi jaa saktay. Inn rishtoN mein aik hi khoon hota hai jo mukhtalif logoon ki sariyaanoN meiN dorta rehta hai.Ekhtlafataat ki bina par aapis mein na-khushgawar waqiyat janam lete rehte hain...diloN mein faaslay barhtay rehtay hain magar Khoon aik hi rehtay haiN aur rishta qaayem..... knaakhun se gosht juda ho hi nahi sakta.
Kuch rishtay zubani hotay haiN jo insan khud tekhleeq karta hai aur khud hi jab chahta hai tor deta hai. Bazaahir dekhne mein yeh rishtay tootay nazar aatay hain lakin choonkay inn ka taluk humaray jazbat o ehsasaat se hota hai iss liay yeh rishtay toot kar b nahi toot.tay. na inn mein faslay barhtay hain, na duuriyaN paida hoti hain.Albata agar koyi rishta apna ehtraam kho day to woh be-hissi ki nazar ho jata hai.
Kehne ka matlab yeh k rishtay khooni hoN ya khud se banaey gaey.... woh toota nahi kartay.

Khush rahiay hamesha

Maine Vote Diya Hai RISHTAY NIBHANA CHAHIYEN

Yahan Yeh Zaroor Kehna ChahoN Gi K Rishta Nibhanay Ka Matlab Ab Yeh b Hargiz Nahi K Chahay Apni Jaan Se Chalay Jaao Magar Rishta Chahay Koyi Sa Bhi Ho, Nibhatay Chalay Jaao.... Albata Halat Na-Mawaaqif Hotay Hi Aik Jhatkay Se RishtoN Se Munh Phair Lena Achi Baat Nahi Hai.

Thanks for your comments

Very True. Thanks for your comments

Thanks Komal

Mughey bhi esa hi lagta hey ..kisi ka milna ya na milna is baat ki nishani nahin ke aap ki mohabat ya khulos meyn koi kami waqey hogai hey..miltey rehna chahiey iss se apus meyn mohabat aur yagangat berhti hey ..agreed..lakin her rishtey ki takmeel zarori nahin...baaz rishtey adhorey reh ker bhi itney bhurpor hotey heyn jinkey saharey aap apni pori zindagi guzr saktey heyn

mamlaa Serious laG raha haiiii

yeh Post Chahay tumnay apnay liyeh ki hooo yaa kisiii our ky liyeh

jawaab tu meray pass aik hi haiiii

1.Uss Rishtey ko nibahna chahiey ?

Saraj kuCh riShtooN ka taluQ dil our KhouN say hota haiii

na hum dilii riShtooN ko toR saktay haiN our na KhouNiii riShtooN kooo

aaGer riShtooN [kohi bhi riShta ho] ka taluQ waQahii saChaiii phe hai

[our haN yahaaN saChahi ka lafz seruf dosray riShtooN ky liyeh istemal kiya hai kyuN

khy khouNiii riShtay tu Khouniii hi hotay haiN ]

jiN ko hum na Bhol saktay haiN na toR saktay haiN yeh tu hosakta hai khy hum waQtii tour phe

kisii tiShtay ky wajud say inkar karaiN likiN kubhi na kubhi us riShtay ki kasak yeh ahsaas dilate hai

khy ab tak us riShtay ka wajud baQi haiii

bus aik Sh'er yaad aaGeyaa

us ki wo janay usay pass-e-wafa hai khy nahi

tum tu Faraz apni taraf say nibhatay jatay

wowwwwwwwwwwww Kamli Jeee

apna Reply daynay ky bad sab ki Replies phaR rahi thee

tu ap ki Reply phe ruk Gahiii

Well Said............hamaray Khyialaat kitnay miltay haiN

Taruf RooG Ban Jaye Tu Uss Ka Bholna Behter
Taluq Bhooj Ban Jaye Tu Uss Ka Torna Acha
Wo Afsana Jisse Anjaam Tak Lana Na Ho Mumkin
Usse Aik Khobsorat MooR Dey Kar Chorna Acha

main ne kahin parha tha k "JAB RISHTON KO NIBHANA UN KO TORNAY SE ZIADA MUSHKIL HO JAY TO PHIR UN KO TOR DENA HE BEHTAR HAI"

per ye mumkin nahe hota mujhe pata hai
coz aik aisay he rishtay se main juri hon jo mujhe bohat azeyat deta hai per main usay chah k b tor nahe sakti keun k us k baghair shaid mera apna b rehna mushkil hai

bohat sochny wala question ha

mera khyal hay us rishtay ko torr dena chahiyay

jab aap aisay point par aayein gey jab agla banda aap ka ehsas hi nahin kar raha hoga aur aap ka ta'luq, aap kay liyay azziyat ka sabab ban chuka ho ga to phir behtar yehi hay kay aap peechay hatt jayein aur iss ta'luq ko bhoolnay ki koshish karein .........yeh aasan kaam nahin hoga leikin beherhaal waqt kay sath sath aap ka azziyat ka ehsas to kam ho jayay ga

aaGer RiShatay maiN Gehrahi hai . Khoulos hai ,our bay-GharZiii hai tu

kya tab bhi toRa jasakta hai;

kuch logo kiay attitude nay itna confuse kur dya ha kiay mei shaid iss ka reply wid honest na kur sukko.. i myself confuse in these relationz.....

Thanks Awaz for your vote & comments.

Thanks for comments.But what is your final reply ?

Acha she'r hey thanks for sharing...
Fadi aap ka Vote kia hey Pls clearly mention that also.

Thanks for your Comments.Pls clearly mention your Vote also.

Soch ker Vote deyn achi baat hey..we all are waiting for your Vote & comments ....

Thanks kashif for our comments & vote

Voted for option#1...

Hazrat Ali (AS) sy mansoob aik qaoul hai... "Bhai ki misaal sonay (GOLD) ki hai aur dost ki misaal heera(Diamond)... daryaaft kiya gaya k akhir bhai ko sona aur dost ko heeray sy kyun tashbeeh di gayee tu Farmaya k sonay (Gold) ko jitna marzi tukruun main tazqeem kar diya jayey woh phir bhi aik hojata hai hai lihaazaa Khoon k rishtay toot-ty nahi... aur heera toot-ny per phir sy pehlii si shakal main wapis nahi asaktaa..."

woh rishtay jin sy mansoob kisi bhi khushi ya gham per besaakhta aankh main paani ajayey woh rishtay bila-shak nahi toray jatay... waqtii ghalt fehmiyaan aur dooryaan tu sabhii rishtuun main ajaatiin hain... magar meri zaati rayey is topic k hawalay sy yahii hogii k rishtaa koi bhi ho KHOON ka ya DIL ka toora nahi ja sakta... ikhtilaafaat zaruur janam letay hain magar ma ikhtilaafaat k bawajood koi bhi rishta toornay ka qayeel nahi...

baaqi tamam dostuun ny bht khubsurat comments diyey hain... Thanks ALL

agar yeh sab us rishtay mein maujood hay tab to woh kabhi azziyat ka sabab nahin banay ga

jahan tak mera khyal hay jis point ka zikar ho raha hay woh aisa point hay jahan par us rishtay mein say yeh baatein khatam ho chuki hain ya phir bohat kam reh gayeen hain aur sirf puranay tal'uq ki waja say woh rishta azziyat ka sabab bana huwa hay .........jab aisi situation aa jayay to phir apnay aap ko alag kar laina hi behtar hoga ..kiyunke jab tak aglay mein khaloos aur aap ki care hay ....aap kay dil mein bhi us ki jaga rahay gi magar jab woh aap ko dil say nikaal phainkay to aap apnay aap ko azziyat kiyun dein abhi bhi us say tawaqo rakh kar

you welcome janab

Thank you Usman for your Vote & comments.

Meyn dil ke rishtey manta hi nahin... [ 1 ]

Yeh Vote hamarey kiss HC member ka hey ? Pls come and share your point of view in this regard.

Thanks

i vote for 1st option,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
mera khiyal hai k koi rishta zayet ka nahi hota,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,rishtay to bohat muqdas hoty hain,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,han apno ki tarf se app ko takleef or dukh to milty hain ,,,,,,,,,,laken wo rishtey azyet nahi ban sakty ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,kahbi nahi,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
wo rishta he nahi jo azyat ban jay ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,rishta tornay ki azyet us zayet se kaheen ziyda ho ge jes rishty ko app azyet samaj rahay hain

i voted for 1st opt.. pur miray pass koi defination naih ha miray reply ki....

mujhe kuch yad agaya

Taarruf rog ho jaaye to usko bhoolnaa behtar
Taalluk bojh ban jaaye to usko tornaa acha

Voh afsaana jise anjaam tak laana na ho mumkin
Usay ek khoobsoorat morh dekar chhorna acha

mera yahi kheal hai

Shabashee...inni si baat samajh nai lagi kya

Me ke reply se wi andaza nai kiya kya hukk haaa ...ye qudrat ke karishme Loog with kam aqal

Bhii Option 1 ko vote kiyaa naaa

Thanks for your Vote & comments

Thanks for your vote & No comments

well...any way thanks for your comments & vote

Thanks for your clarification

Yahan andazey laganey ki nahin vote deney ki baat ho rahi hey.

Khush Rahen