kuch sal pehle maine kisi tv show main aik sawal suna tha
to socha yaha bhi karon, kia jawab hota hai sab ka.

ager maan baap larki jo uski marzi se shaadi karne ka haq nahin dena chahte

to woh usko woh sahooliaat kion dete hain jin ki wajah se

larki khud kisi ko pasand karne lagay.

to phir un se unka jaiz Haq kion cheen lete hain?

Shayad Un Ko Khadsha hota Hai Ke Kahein Wrong Banda Na Choose Kar Le Coz Paheli Shadi jo honi Hai ............ Dusri Ki surat Mein aisa Nahein Hota Magar Kam aisa hota Ke Permisssion Di Jaaye Pasand Ki Warna Tab bhi Maan Baap apni hi Marzi Chalate Hein
Woh Olaad Jo Farman Bardaar Hote Hein Awal To Aise kaamon Mein Parte hi Nahein Jab Pata Hai K apni Nahein Chalni to Kiyun aisa Kaam Kiya Jaaye Olaad Ko Bhi To sochna Chahiye Naa

jab khadsha hota hai to phir aesi koi sahooliaat bhi na di jain?

per shaadi apni pasand se karna to Haq haina?

Cheezon mein aur jeete Jagte insanon mein bahot Farq Hota hay ...

Jo maa baap apni aulad ko har saholat dete hain woh zahir hay ke achi se achi cheez hi dete honge naa.... Aur woh saholiyaat kabhi bhi unki aulad ko hurt to nahi kar sakti na hi kissi bhi kisam ka nuqsaan pohancha sakti hain ...

Jabke jab baat Jeewan Saathi ki aati hay to jo kuch maa Baap dekh sakte hain woh Aulad nahi dekh sakti ... Maa Baap ne jis Tarha Bachon ko paala hota hay Unko achee se andaza hota hay ke kissi takleef mein unki aulaad ka reaction kya hoga... Jabke Aulaad sirf us waqt yahi samajhti hay ke hamare maa Baap ko hamari khushi Aziz nai..

Bare hoke hum bahot si baten bhool jaate hain samajhte hain ke ab hum bare ho gaye aur hamare maa baap ab hamari khawashiaat poori nahi kar rahe...jabke Bachpan mein yahi Maa baap hote hain jo Agar hum ko Aag mein haath dalte dekhte hain to Bhaage chale aate hain hamen Bachane ke liye, Kissi buri sohbat mein aulaad ko dekhte hain to us se milna julna band kar dete hain ....aesi hi aur bahot si baten jo sirf hamari Bhalai ke liye Maa Baap hamesha se karte hain woh sab humko bhool jaati hain Yaad rehta hay to buss ye ke hum jis ko chahte hain Hamare Maa baap uske Khilaaf kyon hain ...

Aur ye maa baap ko dukh dene ka sab se bara Zarya hay ....

Haq To Hai Par Ham apne Parents Ko Kiya Kahe Sakte Hein

Exactly Bilkul Yehi Baat hoti Hai

'Forever Green'

Cheezon mein aur jeete Jagte insanon mein bahot Farq Hota hay ...

Jo maa baap apni aulad ko har saholat dete hain woh zahir hay ke achi se achi cheez hi dete honge naa.... Aur woh saholiyaat kabhi bhi unki aulad ko hurt to nahi kar sakti na hi kissi bhi kisam ka nuqsaan pohancha sakti hain ...

Jabke jab baat Jeewan Saathi ki aati hay to jo kuch maa Baap dekh sakte hain woh Aulad nahi dekh sakti ... Maa Baap ne jis Tarha Bachon ko paala hota hay Unko achee se andaza hota hay ke kissi takleef mein unki aulaad ka reaction kya hoga... Jabke Aulaad sirf us waqt yahi samajhti hay ke hamare maa Baap ko hamari khushi Aziz nai..

sahooliaat se murad... Mobile phone lelo
ager apni beti ko mobile leke dia hua hai
to kia woh kisi insaan ko pasand nahin kar sakti?
ya to ye cheez hi na deni thi ke aesa ho?

maine kafi logon ko dekha jinke maan baap ne
unki aik na suni shaadi ke waqt aur apni marzi thop di
ke hum acha samajhte hain tumhare liye.

aur aaj jab main un logon ko dekhta hon unki shaadi ko 10
saal se leke 5 saal tak ke arse guzar chuke hain, per woh log khush nahin
ab kon qusoor waar?

Bare hoke hum bahot si baten bhool jaate hain samajhte hain ke ab hum bare ho gaye aur hamare maa baap ab hamari khawashiaat poori nahi kar rahe...jabke Bachpan mein yahi Maa baap hote hain jo Agar hum ko Aaj mein haath dalte dekhte hain to Bhaage chale aate hain hamen Bachane ke liye, Kissi buri sohbat mein aulaad ko dekhte hain to us se milna julna band kar dete hain ....aesi hi aur bahot si baten jo sirf hamari Bhalai ke liye Maa Baap hamesha se karte hain woh sab humko bhool jaati hain Yaad rehta hay to buss ye ke hum jis ko chahte hain Hamare Maa baap uske Khilaaf kyon hain ...

Aur ye maa baap ko dukh dene ka sab se bara Zarya hay .... [/color][/size]

yeh sahi baat hai ke hum waqai main bhool jate hain bohat kuch
maan baap to woh mohabbat karte hain jiska koi naim-o-badal
nahin ho sakta, per unko yeh bhi to samajhna chahiye na ke
jiske liye woh faisla kar rahe hain kia uski khushi shamil hai us main ya nahin?

ghalti to unse bhi ho sakti haina?

yani haq mardia jata haina?

[quote name='Perplexed Soul' date='Oct 14 2008, 02:33 PM' post='3082503']

sahooliaat se murad... Mobile phone lelo
ager apni beti ko mobile leke dia hua hai
to kia woh kisi insaan ko pasand nahin kar sakti?
ya to ye cheez hi na deni thi ke aesa ho?

maine kafi logon ko dekha jinke maan baap ne
unki aik na suni shaadi ke waqt aur apni marzi thop di
ke hum acha samajhte hain tumhare liye.

aur aaj jab main un logon ko dekhta hon unki shaadi ko 10
saal se leke 5 saal tak ke arse guzar chuke hain, per woh log khush nahin
ab kon qusoor waar?

Maa Baap Jab apni Beti ko Mobile leke dete hain to Is liye nahi ke jao beti aur jaake kissi ko pasand karo aur fir sari sari raat us se gapen marna...

balke agar Beti ko Mobile diya jaata hay woh bhi aaj kal ke doar mein to sirf is liye ke halaat bahot zyada kharaab hain , Khuda nakhwasta kahin bhi koi bhi emergency ho to woh apni beti ke pass Foran se Pehle pohanch jaen,,, Agar Maa baap ko ye pata ho ke hamari Beti Mobile leke Fir Kissi se dosti kar le gi aur fir us ke gapen mare gi to kya maa baap ki Ghairat ye gawara kare gi ke chalo jee beti ka dil laga huwa hay lagi rahe?????

Kissi bhi saholat ka Ghalat Istemal sirf Niksaan ka bais hota hay .... Aur suppose koi larki kahin involve ho bhi jaati hay ya koi Us mein intrested hay to Doosri baat karne ke bajay woh saaf saaf larke se kahe ke Mera rishta le kar aao Maa Baap maan gaye to theek warna mera tum se koi lena dena nahi .... Zyada Baat barhaye hi na...is mein na to maa baap ko takleef hogi na hi beti ko ...



yeh sahi baat hai ke hum waqai main bhool jate hain bohat kuch
maan baap to woh mohabbat karte hain jiska koi naim-o-badal
nahin ho sakta, per unko yeh bhi to samajhna chahiye na ke
jiske liye woh faisla kar rahe hain kia uski khushi shamil hai us main ya nahin?

ghalti to unse bhi ho sakti haina?


bilkul Ho sakti hay .... Lekin Maa Baap ko Itna Majboor na karen naa ke woh Sakhti karne per Majboor Ho Jaen .... Sach mein maa Baap ko agar dil se izat di jaye naa to Woh jo Oper wala hay naa Woh sab janta hay woh kabhi bhi aap ko Farmanbardari ke awez Takleef nahi dega...Ho sakta hay Maa baap ghalti per hoon ...Lekin maa baap ki khushi mein Chup hone se aap ko Kya pata ke aap Allah jee ke Kitne kareeb ho jate ho..

aur ho sakta hay aese Couples hon jo shadi ke 10 ya 15 saal baad bhi khush na hon ek doosre ke saath to kya Ghaib ka ilm koi janta hay ...kya koi ye bata sakta hay ke jis se woh chahte shadi karna unke saath woh khush rehte...kya pata Halaat is se bhi Badtar hote... Allah Pak insan ki azmaish uski sakat ke mutabiq karte hain us se zyada nai ...

Yeh Jo Mobile Ki Baat Ki Hai Naa tumne Mujhey Bhi Diya Hai Magar Larkon se Baat Karne ki Permisson Nahien Aur Sachi Mujh Se Baat Nahein Ho Paati Mardon se aur Kiyun Karun Bhala Mein Sawal To Yeh Hai Naa Aaj Is Sawal Ko Le Ke Kiyun Beth Gaye ho Koi Pareshani Hai Kiya

Jee sisoo ......Buss soochne samajhne ke Nazaryaat ka Farq hota hay

Nomi Dear Maan Baap To Ki To Poori Koshish hoti Hai Ke apni Olaad Ko Khushiyan Faraham Karen Magar Baat Kiya Hai Ke QISMAT Aare Aa Jaati hota Wohi Hai Jo Qismat Mein Likha hota Hai Mein Ne to Love Marriage bhi Nakaam Hote Dekhi Hein

...............................................

zaroorat ke tehat dia jata haina? bharosa hota hai us pe jabhi dia jata haina mobile?
ager bharosa hai to uski pasand pe bharosa kion nahin?

kia aaj kal ke daur main maan baap itne na-samajh hain ke unko pata hi
nahin ke muaashray main kia ho raha hai?

Rishta hi bhejna sab se acha tareeka hai, phir bhi ziada tar maan baap
us cheez ko tasleem hi nahin karte, woh yeh baat mante hi nahin ke beti pasand kare
aur larka chahe jitna bhi acha hi mana kardia jata hai.



yani ghalti pe bhi hon to bhi maan lia jaye?
pata hai kia maine yeh topic is hi liye lagaya hai
kionke mere aas paas jo main dekh raha hon
bohat dukh hota hai maan baap ki zabardasti ki hui shadi ko dekh ke
beti chahe mar rahi ho ab, per ab maan baap ke ehsaas karne se kia faida?

chalo woh sab bhi theek hai.

phir Haq kion dia gaya apni marzi se shaadi ka?

aray yeh to bohat achi baat haina
per ziada tar aesa nahin hota yahan

mobile ko janay do aap

Haq hai pasand ki shaadi ka ya nahin?

maine bataya to hai sis kion leke betha hon yeh topic

qismat ki baat nai hai sis

Allah tala sab kuch janta hai
woh yeh bhi janta hai ke main 1 sec baad kia karne wala hon
per usne ikhiyaar insaan ko dia hai ke woh apne aamaal se
qismat banate. khair yeh aik alag topic hai

Bro shadi k baad khush rahna yah na rahna is par depend naheen karta k aap ki love marriage thee yah arrange..... yah ALLAH k likhay faislay haain... n aap ka zindagee guzaarnay ka tareeqa.. no one can guarentee k Luve mrg walay hamaisha khush rahain gey......

rahee baat sahoolyaat ki tu woh tu har parents chahtay haain k un ki aulaad bahtreen zindage guzaray.......... ab agar aulad un cheezoon ka ghalat istemal karay tu doosree baat hay...

sahi baat kahi aapne guarantee to kisi main bhi nahin

per nazar rakhna to maan baap ka hi farz haina?
ke aulaad kia kar rahi hai

per HAQ jo hai woh kion nahin dia jata?marzi se shaadi ka

bhai pahlaay tu yah define kar laain k woh ''haq'' kis soorat main hasil hay aulaad ko???

kia internet par chatting kar k , fone par batain kar k, parks main dates par jaa kar ju larki pasand ki jaate hay tu phr tu agar strict islamic point of view say daikha jaay tu yah sab hi ghalat hay... 2 na-mahram kis tarah aik dosoray say mil saktay haain bhala..larki ki taraf tu 2nd nazar daikhna bhi mana hay.. tu aik nazar main kaisay pasand aa jaay gee koi kisi ko???...... n jab mil hi nahen saktay is tarah frequently tu shadi k liya pasand kaisay karain gey???
haan yah tu kaha gaya hay k aulaad ki marzi zaroor poochni chahyay, shadi ki bat done karnay say pahlay aik martaba mulakat bhi karayee jaa saktee hay.... laikin woh bhi tanhayee main naheen. balkay family members ki moujoodge main......

Hmm kafi achi achi baatein ki hei liked it ... baat rahi MOBILE ki ajj kal sab k pas hei ami abu mana karein tab b larkiyan leti hei :s

bohat acha topic hai.

ye baat such hai kay shaadi kay kamyab aur nakaam honay ka taluq love ya arrange marriage say nahi hai.
depend kerta hai ap kitnay bashauur hain ap kitany practical aur caring hai aik dusray kay sath.....

dosray jahan tak aulaad ko shahooliat danay ka taluq hai to is may waldain ki galti hai kay wo us sahaloot ko use kernay kay kuch asool banaye...........apni aulad ko sikhaye kay use aur abuse mai kiya farq hai..........

waldain apnay bucho ki taleem per to tavajja daytain hai per un ki training per nahi............. ghar kay mahool mai jub indian filmay chalay gi to her buccha apnay aap ko hero ya heroen sumjhta hai aur yeha say inspiration lay ker ulti sedhi herkatai kerta hai...........

waldain aj kal kay khud gaafil hai un ko khud training ki zaroorat hai buchoo say jhoot kehalwatay hai kay kehdo hum gher per nahi aur dusri taraf un ko jhoot na bolnay ka dars datay hai..........

buchay apnay ghar say hi seekhtay hai ................ agar ghar ka mahool achha hai to buchay bhi bashaoor hotay hain aur ghalat faislay nahi karay gey.

hm hm app se issi hemaqat kii tawaqu thii ! kafii post mein ghooma phira ker yehi topic discuss hota raha hai in past days, aur kuch saal pehle oh pai jaan tusi kinne puranay ho

just kidding dont mind that !anyhow so now come to the point ! na maa baap ka fault hai n lerki kaa sara fault ji dil n soch kaa hai jiss per naa tow pehre bithaye jaa sakte hein aur naa paband kiyaa jaa sakta so sara drama yeahi hai jii

boht acha sawal kiya tumne. mai is baare mai kuch kehna chaahungi.

jab beti paida hoti hai to her maan baap ko khushi hoti hai (i think). unke liye Allah ne rehmat ki surat mai ek choti si guriya de di. ab unka dil hota hai jis tarha se wo apne baite ya doosre bachon ko paalte hain unhain asaaishain dete hain, wo apni betion ko b dain. to be fair.

ab aate hain doosri tarf yeni shadi ki tarf. kai maan baap aise hote hain k asaishain ya sahuliat dete hain apni bachion ko lekin un per nazar nai rakhte. jiski wajha se peer pressure se ya excitement ya adventure k tor per larrkiaan ghalat raste per chal parrti hain. bina soche samjhe piar ker leti hain. ab parents se behtar to experience nai hai na dunia ka. is mai larkion ki b fault hoti hai k wo kiu apne parents ko deceive ker rahi hain jabke unhon ne unhain chuti di hui hai aane jaane ki ya kisi b sahulat ki.

ab aate hain teesri tarf. agar sahuliaat na hon to obviously arranged marriage hi hoti hai in most cases. ya phir ghar mai cousins ka ana jana wo b kaafi hadd tak asar kerta hai.

ab larrki ki nazr baahir tab parrti hai jab ghar ka maahol boht liberal ho, religion itna effective na ho, ya sahuliat had se ziada hon with no rok tok. aise mai agar wo kisi ko pasand ker b lain, to maan baap ka farz banta hai k us larke se milain uske ghar waalon se milain baat cheet kerain pata kerain log kese hain guzara kese hota hai waghaira waghaira. tab parents ko accomodate kerna chahiye. ab unhon ne chuti di hai to aisa to hona hi hai.

ab larrki ki nazr obviously tab bahir nahi jayegi jab usko ghar ka maahol acha mila ho, tamizdaraana mila ho, haan kuch hadd tak sahuliaat hon but parents ki nigrani b ho kuch had tak. ye nai k bathroom kiu ja rai hai ye kiu ker rai hai wo kiu ker rahi hai. nahi. not to be nosey. tab larrkion k bigarrne k chances kamm hote hain.

wese b shadi bina larrki ki razamandi k nai hoti Islam mai. isi liye NIKAH sabse pehle LARRKI ki haan se shuru hota hai. wo agr pehle hi naa keh de to baat khatm. u can't force her. ab agar pasand koi aa gia hai aur usi se shadi kerni hai zid hai, lekin maan baap ne b zid ki hai k nai jehaan hum kahenge wahaan kerni hai to its wrong. gunah to definitely parents k sir hi charhna hai agar unki olaad behak gai hai unki laparvai ki wajha se.

doosri tarf agar arranged marriage hai aur parentes ki razamandi aur larki ki razamandi se hai to it means k koi garrbarr nahi (in most cases). aksar larkian to isi liye pata nai chalne deteen apne parents ko apne piar ka k unke parents kaheen bharrak hi na jaayen. is liye wo bas chup hi rehti hain.

i think parents ko itna liberal nai hona chahiye jis tarha se aajkal pak mai ho raha hai large cities mai. mai hairaan hu sleeveless kameezain dekh k. baap aur bhai ka kese dil ker jata hai apni beti aur behn ko in kaprron mai? agar sahi SANSKAAR diye jaayen to koi b na bigrre aur na hi ilzamaat lagain k parents ne humain khuli azadi di hai is liye hum jo chaahain marzi kerain. kisi ko b ghar le aa k bolain baba mama ye mera hone wala shoher hai. ap meri shadi kera den. parents ko pehle hi mohtat hona chahiye. acha mahol dena chahiye bachon ko.


this is my point of view (pretty long )

any comments or suggestions, bring it on

sahoolyat denay ka yeh matlab nahin ke larki had say nikal jayay .........kisi ko pasand karna koi ghalat baat nahin magar us relation ko had mein rehna chahiay

baqi shadi ke liyay larki pasand/napasand maloom karna aur us ki baat ko ehamyat dena to zaroori hay.....kiyunke zabardasti ke faislay achay nahin hotay

Serious discussion

yeh bat to sahi hai per AGER AA JAYE PASAND AUR RISHTA BHI AAJAYE
to kia ghalat hai?ager us tarekay se pasand kia gaya hai jo ke Islam main
mana hai, per pasand kar chukay aur zindagi saath guzarna chah rahe hain
TO KIA GHALAT HAI?

dekhain jab mobile ajata hai to uska ziada tar log ghalat
hi istemal karte hain, kon apne amma abba ko hi dim bhar msgs karta hai?
kabhi zaroorat par jati month main aik bar 2 bar 5 bar?
Nazar kion nahin rakhi jati Aulaad pe? ager itna hi bharosa hai unpe
ke Mobile le dia hai to aur bhi bharosa kia jaye unpe ke woh apni
marzi ki shaadi kar sakain.

per bhai aesa bhi to nahin hota na yahan, yahan larki ko sirf ye bataya jata hai
ke yeh larka hai is se tumko karni hai shaadi.

bilkul sahi kaha

yaar we can't generalize a thing that is there with few people.... ju shadi k qabil hu gaay haain woh itnaay bachay nahen haain k har waqt un par nazar rakhee jaay.... they should take responsibilty also... isn't it

hausla

per hal kia hai?

hausla rakho hausla
yeh parh lia maine aaj hi

khair ab serious
kafi acha jawab dia hai tumne kafi detail main
aur yahi sab hai jo ke ghalat ho raha hai.

sahi kaha bhai bilkul

kahan chalay?

shaadi ke qabil to ho gaye aur itne nasamajh bhi nahin ke unpe nazar
rakhi ja sakay. to unke faislay bhi to mainay rakhte haina?

ya bas un pe thop dia jaye faisla.

roti tukkar ki talash mein

Aaazadi aur cheez aur uska use aur baat ..... agar aik mutaan had main aap ko aazadi di jaye tu koi muzayiqa nahi..... aur rahi baat k larka/larki ki pasand ki shadi ..... tu u know maa baap ka tajarba hamarye tajarbey se ziyada huta hey ..... 2% cases ayesye hutey hain jinmain aulaad sahi huti hey aur maa baap bina kisi wajha k us larkey / larki k haq main nahi huti jo aap ko pasand hu... baqi 98% merey hisaab se maa baap aulaad k liey sahi fayesla kartye hain....pasand ki shadiyon main barey masayil hain...... adjustment nahi hu pati...aksar deekha gaya hey shadi k baad miyaan b.v aik dosrey ko toucher kartey hain ... k tum tu pehley ayesi thein ...etc....

rahi baat cheezon ki tu Bhai aik baat sab se pehley k mujhey life main merey maa baap ney koi restriction nahi lagayi.... per gahey bagahey mujhey meri hudood bata dein ... k deekho yeh sab tum ko provide kar diya gaya hey ... ab iska jaiz use bhi hey aur najaiz bhi .... yeh jo cheez di gayi hey isko is had tak use karo gey tu koi masla nahi agar isko _ve use karo gey tu tumhara apna nuqsaan hey .... jesye pc ley diya net lagwa diya ...har kaam ka aik waqt bata diya kheelney jana hey tu yeh time hey parhna hey tu yeh time tv is time deekho ..... aur yeh aaj sochta hoon tu meri behtri k liye hi tha.... sham k baad ghar se nahi nikaltey they jan teen age they... parhayi k time parhayi kartye they tu kabhi dosrey waqt kisi ney nahi kaha k parho....even k exams k dino main bhi kabhi yeh nahi kaha k ab apna routine badal do.... ham khud hi unko kuch kehney ka moqa nahi deetey they......

now insaano ki baat ....yeh sirf larki ki faqat baat nahi larkon k satah bhi ayesa huta hey ...... sach baat hey k mujhey koi pabandi nahi thi k pasand ki shadi na karon.... per yaar i think k maa baap ki tey ki gayi shadi hi theek huti hey arrange marriage main jo aasaniyaan huti hain unmain sab se pehli tu yeh hey k wo sab ki mushtarika pasand huti hey ... uski aap ki family main izzat o takreem aur mohabbat milti hey ....agar wo khud apni zaat se aap k ghar walon ko pareeshan na karey tu i think its best ......
aur agar love marriage hu tu bhai aik naye khandan main adjustment ki mushkilaat aksar deekhi gayi hain..... aur barey masayil hain jinsey aap bhi waqif hoongey .......

popcorn khao kin chakkaron main par gaye bhai?

shaid wo samajhty hain k unki baiti is qabil nahi k wo shi faisla kur saky apni zindagi k bary main is liye wo usy apni marzi karny sy rokty hain

baqi question k ans ka mujhy nahi pta ye app kisi mama baba sy poochain

yar mera nai kheal ke itan farq hota hai pasand ki shadi main aur arrange main


bilkul theek kaha bhai aesa hi hona chaiye bilkul, per aaj kal aesa nai ho raha
maan baap aulaad ko aik cheez to de dete hain per uske istemaal ka kuch nai
batate aur phir Qusoor-waar aulaad kese ?

per yar ager pasand hai aur rishta bheja jaraha hai to baat to khaandaan ki hi
aajati haina milna to 2 khandaan ka hi hua is tarha bhi, adjust honay ki baat
hai to khandaan main hi nai banti shaadi ke baad to.

aray yar ager aesa hi ho

to Islam main aik baligh larke/larki ko
pasand na pasand ka haq na dia jata


aray tum yahan kese aagaye? bhago shabash woh dekho woh jarahi chiaa

to ye to mary khiyal main sab parents ki souch ha na


acha to phir topic k sath likhna tha na k chiya daikhni ha main ny

haan jee


chalo ab dekh lo chiaa, titli, kargosh, choozay

kuch b nahi nazar aa rha kiya karon?

Mujhe to ye baat Bahot hi Ajeeb lag rahi hay ....kahen to ek dam Fazool (ab mind na kar jana, behas ho rahi hay to jo feel hoga kahon gi ok)

Yani ke ek to maa baap dunya ki har saholat dein aur oper se unki ye achai hi Unka Jurm ho gai ke jab aasaish ki life di to har baat to man'ni pare gi .....so Rude......... Aese bhi maa baap hote hain jo apna Pait kaat kaat ke apni aulad ko achee se achaa dene ki koshish karte hain Aur jab aulad bari ho jati hay to unko unhi Maa Baap per sharam aane lagti hay aur bare fakhar se kehte hain ke U dont kno mom or u dont kno Dad.........

Agar Aulad ko saholiyaat dene ka ye matlab hay ke baad mein ya Maa baap marte dam tak buss unki har baat hi poori karen ge to is se to achaa hay ke Aulad ko kuch do hi na ..jab bhi kuch mange to 2 chamate maar ke bitha do ke aaj ye leke dein ge to kal ko kuch bhi maang lo ge tum .... kyon aesa nai karna chahye agar itni hi bigarni hay aulad...

Rahi baat Rishte ki ...to honestly batana..... aaj kal 100 mein se kitne larke larkyan aese hote hain jo waqi sincere hote hain jo waqi hi shadi karna chahte hain 100 mein se hardly 1 hi hoga....ab maa baap baqi 99 larke larkyon ko dekhte hain jo buss time pass ke liye frndship karte hain aur fir chor dete hain to kese maa baap yaqeen karen ke jo hamari aulad se koi keh raha hay woh sahi hay......Theek hay maa baap ko moka dena chahye agar koi waqi hi sachaa hay per maa baap ke mana karne per doosri party mein bhi itne guts hone chahye ke woh apni sincerity se, apne rakh rakho se unko mana lein ....ab agar koi aesa nai kar sakta to ye uski kamzori huwi na maa baap ka is mein kya kasoor....

Ek example dena chaon gi bilkul recent hay aur sachi bhi .... Me ki sisoo ke saath ek larki kaam karti hay ...she is Indian, abhi usko koi 2, 3 years huwe hain USA aaye huwe .... to woh jab India mein thi ek larke ke saath involve ho gai ..... Maa Baap se kaha ke mein us se shadi karna chahti hoon to maa baap ne larke ko milne ke liye bulaya... she was only 18 dat time.... jab larke se mile to rishte ke liye inkaar kar diya cuz unko larka pasand nai aaya ...is liye nahi ke unki beti ko pasand tha balke uske character ki waja se.... (she is da only child of her parents)........woh larki den USA aagai .... uske parents ko nahi pata tha ke she is still in contact wid dat guy....

abhi 1 month pehle me ki sis ne bataya ke woh apne parents ko batay baghair hi Canada Chali gai us larke se shadi karne jis ko uske parents ne reject kiya tha(Dat guy is in Canada now) .... uske baba ko heart attack ho gaya lekin unki luck ke woh bach gey uski mama akele hi sambhalti rahin apne husband ko .... 2 days ke baad us larki ki Nano ka Fone aaya uske parents ke pass(Her nano is also in Canada) ke Larki unke pass hay .... Huwa ye tha ke jab woh parents ko baghair batay Canada gai to woh larka Air Port tak nahi aaya ...woh wahan hours uska intezaar karti rahi ... usko fone karti to koi responce nai ...larka aesa ghayab huwa jese gadhe ke sar se seengh.... tab larki ne roote dhoote apni nano ko fone kiya aur kaha mujhe airport se le jao .... Maa baap ka dil dekhen fir bhi ke beti ko accept kar liya ...... Uski nanao usko wapis ghar chor aain........... Ab aap batao Qasoor kis ka tha....Maa Baap ka ya Larki ka...

Kya uske maa baap Us per bharosa kar sakte hain again .... Aulad ho to kabhi maa baap ko maaf na kare aur maa baap ke dil dekhen bari se bari ghalti bhi maaf kar dete hain ...

Lagta hay mera reply bahot Bara ho raha hay per last baat karna chahti hoon ....

Kya hamari Har dua Poori hoti hay????????? .............. asoolan to Hum jo mangen woh hamen mil jana chahye naa ke Allah jee to hamen 70 maon jitna pyar karte hain Fir hamen woh kyon nahi dete jo hum mangte hain .... Sirf is liye ke Allah jee ko Pata hay ke kya sahi hay aur kya ghalat ..........hamare liye hi hamari kuch duaen poori nahi hotin ..... Aur Maa baap ko Blame karne se achaa hay ke Allah jee per Bharosa rakha jay ...Ke insan ki koi Majaal nai kuch bhi karne ki ..... Hum sirf wohi karte hain Jis ka Hukum hamen Allah ki taraf se milta hay ...aur mama baap kya kissi ki Zindagi ka faisla karte hain woh to buss Wasila hote hain ............Us hukum ko takmeel karne ka Jo Allah paak dete hain ...agar ek lahme ke liye bhi ye sooch liya jay naa ke jo hota hay Allah ki raza se hota hay to hum kabhi Complains na karen.....

Wah Wah Kiya Explain Kiya Hai Good Good I,m Proud Of You

'Forever Green'
Mujhe to ye baat Bahot hi Ajeeb lag rahi hay ....kahen to ek dam Fazool (ab mind na kar jana, behas ho rahi hay to jo feel hoga kahon gi ok)

nahin aesi koi baat nahin, aik cheez jo zehan main clear nahin hai woh clear karne
ke liye hi maine yeh sawal pocha hai. shayad yeh parhne se kuch logon ko
kuch na kuch samajhne ko milay. mind kion karne laga main, jo sahi hai
woh sahi hai jo ghalat hai woh baat ghalat hai,

Yani ke ek to maa baap dunya ki har saholat dein aur oper se unki ye achai hi Unka Jurm ho gai ke jab aasaish ki life di to har baat to man'ni pare gi .....so Rude......... Aese bhi maa baap hote hain jo apna Pait kaat kaat ke apni aulad ko achee se achaa dene ki koshish karte hain Aur jab aulad bari ho jati hay to unko unhi Maa Baap per sharam aane lagti hay aur bare fakhar se kehte hain ke U dont kno mom or u dont kno Dad.........

Agar Aulad ko saholiyaat dene ka ye matlab hay ke baad mein ya Maa baap marte dam tak buss unki har baat hi poori karen ge to is se to achaa hay ke Aulad ko kuch do hi na ..jab bhi kuch mange to 2 chamate maar ke bitha do ke aaj ye leke dein ge to kal ko kuch bhi maang lo ge tum .... kyon aesa nai karna chahye agar itni hi bigarni hay aulad...


dekho blame is liye nahin kia jaraha unko ke unhon ne aik cheez di aulaad ko
maan baap kis tarha se kia kia aasaaishain dete hain aulaad ko, mujhe bhi di
mere maan baap ne har tarha ki saholat, dekho yeh baat samajhna zaroor.
mere maan baap ne aik cheez di mujhe, mobile aur mere inter karne ke baad
aur uske sahi istemaal aur ghalat istemaal dono batadiye, yahan tak ke mujh
pe nazar bhi rakhi gai ke main kuch ghalat istemaal to nahin kar raha us cheez ka

yeh baat main samjhana chah raha hon ke Aulaad ko aaj kal maan baap apna
pait kaat ke de to dete hain sab kuch per yeh nahin dekhte ke aaya woh uska istemaal
kia kar raha hai/rahi hai. is baat pe ghaur karna zaroor


Rahi baat Rishte ki ...to honestly batana..... aaj kal 100 mein se kitne larke larkyan aese hote hain jo waqi sincere hote hain jo waqi hi shadi karna chahte hain 100 mein se hardly 1 hi hoga....ab maa baap baqi 99 larke larkyon ko dekhte hain jo buss time pass ke liye frndship karte hain aur fir chor dete hain to kese maa baap yaqeen karen ke jo hamari aulad se koi keh raha hay woh sahi hay......Theek hay maa baap ko moka dena chahye agar koi waqi hi sachaa hay per maa baap ke mana karne per doosri party mein bhi itne guts hone chahye ke woh apni sincerity se, apne rakh rakho se unko mana lein ....ab agar koi aesa nai kar sakta to ye uski kamzori huwi na maa baap ka is mein kya kasoor....

dekho friendship aur yeh sab chichhorpana iski to main baat hi nahin kar raha
yeh sab to 90% dhokay baaz hotay hain.
main us relation ki baat kar raha hon jo 2 khandaan ke darmiyaan hota hai,
simple sa aur behtreen tareeka hai Rishta bhejna.
aur baqi bilkul sahi kaha tumne aesa hi hona chaiye is main koi qusoor nai
maan baap ka.

Ek example dena chaon gi bilkul recent hay aur sachi bhi .... Me ki sisoo ke saath ek larki kaam karti hay ...she is Indian, abhi usko koi 2, 3 years huwe hain USA aaye huwe .... to woh jab India mein thi ek larke ke saath involve ho gai ..... Maa Baap se kaha ke mein us se shadi karna chahti hoon to maa baap ne larke ko milne ke liye bulaya... she was only 18 dat time.... jab larke se mile to rishte ke liye inkaar kar diya cuz unko larka pasand nai aaya ...is liye nahi ke unki beti ko pasand tha balke uske character ki waja se.... (she is da only child of her parents)........woh larki den USA aagai .... uske parents ko nahi pata tha ke she is still in contact wid dat guy....

abhi 1 month pehle me ki sis ne bataya ke woh apne parents ko batay baghair hi Canada Chali gai us larke se shadi karne jis ko uske parents ne reject kiya tha(Dat guy is in Canada now) .... uske baba ko heart attack ho gaya lekin unki luck ke woh bach gey uski mama akele hi sambhalti rahin apne husband ko .... 2 days ke baad us larki ki Nano ka Fone aaya uske parents ke pass(Her nano is also in Canada) ke Larki unke pass hay .... Huwa ye tha ke jab woh parents ko baghair batay Canada gai to woh larka Air Port tak nahi aaya ...woh wahan hours uska intezaar karti rahi ... usko fone karti to koi responce nai ...larka aesa ghayab huwa jese gadhe ke sar se seengh.... tab larki ne roote dhoote apni nano ko fone kiya aur kaha mujhe airport se le jao .... Maa baap ka dil dekhen fir bhi ke beti ko accept kar liya ...... Uski nanao usko wapis ghar chor aain........... Ab aap batao Qasoor kis ka tha....Maa Baap ka ya Larki ka...

ya uske maa baap Us per bharosa kar sakte hain again .... Aulad ho to kabhi maa baap ko maaf na kare aur maa baap ke dil dekhen bari se bari ghalti bhi maaf kar dete hain ...

200% us larki ka qusoor yahan rishta na accept karne ka matlab yeh nahin
ke ghar chor ke bhaag jao ye to bachkaana faisla hai aur tarbiyat
ki kami hai, warna kon apne maan baap ko choray.


Lagta hay mera reply bahot Bara ho raha hay per last baat karna chahti hoon ....

Kya hamari Har dua Poori hoti hay????????? .............. asoolan to Hum jo mangen woh hamen mil jana chahye naa ke Allah jee to hamen 70 maon jitna pyar karte hain Fir hamen woh kyon nahi dete jo hum mangte hain .... Sirf is liye ke Allah jee ko Pata hay ke kya sahi hay aur kya ghalat ..........hamare liye hi hamari kuch duaen poori nahi hotin ..... Aur Maa baap ko Blame karne se achaa hay ke Allah jee per Bharosa rakha jay ...Ke insan ki koi Majaal nai kuch bhi karne ki ..... Hum sirf wohi karte hain Jis ka Hukum hamen Allah ki taraf se milta hay ...aur mama baap kya kissi ki Zindagi ka faisla karte hain woh to buss Wasila hote hain ............Us hukum ko takmeel karne ka Jo Allah paak dete hain ...agar ek lahme ke liye bhi ye sooch liya jay naa ke jo hota hay Allah ki raza se hota hay to hum kabhi Complains na karen.....

Allah ki raza se to sab kuch hota hi hai,
per hum yeh soch ke ghalat kaam nahin karna shruu kardete
Allah humare liye behtreen se behtreen karne wala hai us
per humain khud bhi sochna parega ke humain kia karna chahiye
Allah ke liye

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